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7dp3dt...Back to work...Anyone felt twinges on off at right lower abdomen at like the apendix area there..Nvr felt like this before...
Just scared its ectopic or someting...
 
Blood test date today. As expected, it was Negative. Wonder will I be able to muster enough courage to do my next FET. Can't help to rant but after doing so much, acupuncture, chinese med, run up and down kkh, eat multi vitamins etc etc, it was all waste of effort. Wondering will i be able to get pregnant ever in this lifetime.
 
Blood test date today. As expected, it was Negative. Wonder will I be able to muster enough courage to do my next FET. Can't help to rant but after doing so much, acupuncture, chinese med, run up and down kkh, eat multi vitamins etc etc, it was all waste of effort. Wondering will i be able to get pregnant ever in this lifetime.


This is ur no what times of attempt?
 
Blood test date today. As expected, it was Negative. Wonder will I be able to muster enough courage to do my next FET. Can't help to rant but after doing so much, acupuncture, chinese med, run up and down kkh, eat multi vitamins etc etc, it was all waste of effort. Wondering will i be able to get pregnant ever in this lifetime.

I knw its very hard but cheer up ok..as long as u can produce eggs u def wil be preg one day. Kp that confidence going. Take a break first, rest well n enjoy life for now. Whats over is over, dear..u need to move on ..
 
I knw its very hard but cheer up ok..as long as u can produce eggs u def wil be preg one day. Kp that confidence going. Take a break first, rest well n enjoy life for now. Whats over is over, dear..u need to move on ..
I really feel like crying but I can't. Yes, think i need a break from all the ttc, tcm, scanning, monitoring this and that for a period of time. Burnt out.
 
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Hi sister , thank you for sharing . Then I should consider not to see her since her focus is on natural and not IVF patients. I also dun want to pay for scold .

I feel it's not true Lor. When I m with her since Aug 2012 till now she always been wanting me to take her medication they stimulation until er then stopped then during 2ww she wanted me to continue but I told her I dun want to complicate my 2 ww n she was fine with it. She has always been nice n friendly to me. She Aso dun really like my ivf dr but nvr say much n said hope me good luck .
But I do know some ladies challenge her w numerous questions as if she is God, she did told me before some asked her for last min help to success, which she said she is not god, she will try her best.
End day I feel it's affinity w each individual dr, wat works for u may not b for others. I personally switch 3 gynaes n 4tcm before I found one tat suits me
 
10 tries? Omg

Do u mind sharing is it all ivf and what results u yield? I need some inspiration !!
Yes all ivf between fresh n fet cycles. In the past frozen nvr success but this round I did Fet n blast all embryos. All are at d6 result. Dr Roland believes in fet n blast all of them as he feels it's higher success. Since the team was previously from sincere to virtus I trust their work though more ex..but since I bfp my gal in sincere under the
My hub said he rather pay more for result.. so close 1 eye paid n proceed w Roland n virtus.
Roland actually agree to do fresh trsf for me when I told him I nvr succee in fet in my record but I seems to have mild ohss n he refused to take the risk n said postpone to following month fet. So I follow his instruction n trust him.
First 5 tries wasn't under Roland or sincere/virtus. Half way I decide to switch to Roland n tsb since I have no affinity w the previous drs
 
Yes all ivf between fresh n fet cycles. In the past frozen nvr success but this round I did Fet n blast all embryos. All are at d6 result. Dr Roland believes in fet n blast all of them as he feels it's higher success. Since the team was previously from sincere to virtus I trust their work though more ex..but since I bfp my gal in sincere under the
My hub said he rather pay more for result.. so close 1 eye paid n proceed w Roland n virtus.
Roland actually agree to do fresh trsf for me when I told him I nvr succee in fet in my record but I seems to have mild ohss n he refused to take the risk n said postpone to following month fet. So I follow his instruction n trust him.
First 5 tries wasn't under Roland or sincere/virtus. Half way I decide to switch to Roland n tsb since I have no affinity w the previous drs

Our story is an inspiration really!!

Everytime when u start a new cycle, did the dr adjust the protocol for u?

What was the issue the first few times?
 
Our story is an inspiration really!!

Everytime when u start a new cycle, did the dr adjust the protocol for u?

What was the issue the first few times?

The problem w my first 4 tries they never really sit down n analyse wat is not rite or wrong or how to improve further. Just keep telling me try again like no need $$$. Until I was quite emotional piss at the 4th try w blue black on my tummy n the progesterone oil jab I had to put at my butt daily during 2ww, soar until I can't even lie on bed sleep well without feeling soaring pain. Then bfn n ask me let's go jb to try. I asked wat is the costs how do we go about to jb but no definite answer, only tells me can bypass sg law put more than 2 embryos.
When I was refer to Roland by a smh forum fren here, then he actually sat down went thru my record n recommend wat he can help to change . I have no problem w stimulation having 18-20 embryos buy maturity rate was like 9 out of 20 n only 6 fertilised rate. His focus was not how many embryos I have but the quality is more impt. When I bfp first time w him though mc, he was actually Glad tat it proves I can get pregnant so he said dun give up let's try again n tats how my 30 mth old gal is now.
 
The problem w my first 4 tries they never really sit down n analyse wat is not rite or wrong or how to improve further. Just keep telling me try again like no need $$$. Until I was quite emotional piss at the 4th try w blue black on my tummy n the progesterone oil jab I had to put at my butt daily during 2ww, soar until I can't even lie on bed sleep well without feeling soaring pain. Then bfn n ask me let's go jb to try. I asked wat is the costs how do we go about to jb but no definite answer, only tells me can bypass sg law put more than 2 embryos.
When I was refer to Roland by a smh forum fren here, then he actually sat down went thru my record n recommend wat he can help to change . I have no problem w stimulation having 18-20 embryos buy maturity rate was like 9 out of 20 n only 6 fertilised rate. His focus was not how many embryos I have but the quality is more impt. When I bfp first time w him though mc, he was actually Glad tat it proves I can get pregnant so he said dun give up let's try again n tats how my 30 mth old gal is now.


I also have same problem! Egg maturation problem!
So what changes did Dr Roland make to solve the egg maturation problem?
 
I feel it's not true Lor. When I m with her since Aug 2012 till now she always been wanting me to take her medication they stimulation until er then stopped then during 2ww she wanted me to continue but I told her I dun want to complicate my 2 ww n she was fine with it. She has always been nice n friendly to me. She Aso dun really like my ivf dr but nvr say much n said hope me good luck .
But I do know some ladies challenge her w numerous questions as if she is God, she did told me before some asked her for last min help to success, which she said she is not god, she will try her best.
End day I feel it's affinity w each individual dr, wat works for u may not b for others. I personally switch 3 gynaes n 4tcm before I found one tat suits me
Hi sister, thank you for your sharing
 
Yes all ivf between fresh n fet cycles. In the past frozen nvr success but this round I did Fet n blast all embryos. All are at d6 result. Dr Roland believes in fet n blast all of them as he feels it's higher success. Since the team was previously from sincere to virtus I trust their work though more ex..but since I bfp my gal in sincere under the
My hub said he rather pay more for result.. so close 1 eye paid n proceed w Roland n virtus.
Roland actually agree to do fresh trsf for me when I told him I nvr succee in fet in my record but I seems to have mild ohss n he refused to take the risk n said postpone to following month fet. So I follow his instruction n trust him.
First 5 tries wasn't under Roland or sincere/virtus. Half way I decide to switch to Roland n tsb since I have no affinity w the previous drs
Hi sister, means you tried you 5 times under Roland with Virtus before you get your twin gal ?
 
Just went for my 2nd fet, but this time round, I just find everything such a hassle, the endless blood taking, remembering to take medicine, having to give up certain food and drinks. Anyone felt the same as me? When I was telling my husband all these before the fet day, his reply was : if you don't want to do it, then don't. I was so mad! It sounded so irresponsible!
 
Just went for my 2nd fet, but this time round, I just find everything such a hassle, the endless blood taking, remembering to take medicine, having to give up certain food and drinks. Anyone felt the same as me? When I was telling my husband all these before the fet day, his reply was : if you don't want to do it, then don't. I was so mad! It sounded so irresponsible!
Most guys bad in words lah. Dont take it too hard. Had a mc, my hubby also say lets not try ivf again to go thru all the pain. I told him i wanna try 1 more round thou.
 
Guys are hard at words but soft at heart.

dun be mad at them. When we MC they are the ones whom are most sad. They still have to put up strong front

Yes thats very true. When my fresh n frozen cycles failed, my husb althou was shattered but tried his best to be strong for me. When i see him more, i end up tearing more. He did not help me during my stimm too, i had to jab myself, go for scans myself..i felt lonely n often snapped at him too. Most impt is he is there when u need him at the end. Afterall someone has to play the strong guy rite.
 
Yup guys are stronger emotionally. When i mc, my hubby call back every few hrs to check how i was. Cook my mini confinement food b4 he goes work early in the morning.

During stim, i was always alone thou. He had busy work schedule so i always go jab and followup myself. =) i only request him to go during er & et.
 
Yes thats very true. When my fresh n frozen cycles failed, my husb althou was shattered but tried his best to be strong for me. When i see him more, i end up tearing more. He did not help me during my stimm too, i had to jab myself, go for scans myself..i felt lonely n often snapped at him too. Most impt is he is there when u need him at the end. Afterall someone has to play the strong guy rite.
Is never easy for us to front it alone. I used to go queue long hours for tcm n always tot why am I the only one in the Mission. But later after a frank talk I realise that cos he say too stress for me if Everyday he talks about baby
 
My hub nvr helps me w all the stimulation jabs. I always do myself n go scan alone. Only et n er day then he accompany me. When I was with care, they made me jab progesterone oil jan at my butt daily during 2ww, tats the only time I force my Hub to learn to jab cos I can't do myself n I dun want spend $10++ gg gp to get them jab for me daily. So I got care nurse use plaster mark the location on my butt where to jab. He felt Super stress cos the needle is quite big n thick .
Anyway I Aso thot all along he bo chap the whole process until the first mc, we actually hugged each other n cried out. He told me he won't leave me just bcos I can't have bb. Then I still continued to cry for months but he cried inside his heart cos he told me he needs to b strong in front of me, if he dun do tat then I will feel even worse..
 
I scare to jab myself. So i took up injection package for kkh nurse to jab daily. Cost me appx $160.

Anyway guys dont show emotion like us. They dont cry doesnt mean they dont care. Hugs.
 
My husband was really nice when I did my first fet 3 years ago. Help with housework, even tried learning how to cook. Now, totally different. He did nothing of the above. The only thing he did is take care of my boy on weekends, which I do appreciate. But I do wish he will direct his concern at me too. He said that taking care of the boy is the same as taking care of me, which I find so sad somehow.
I really don't know why and for who am I doing it for round 2. even though I would love to have another kid, but looking at my husband's attitude, I can't help feeling disappointed. Mixed feelings these few days.
 
Decided to try my next fresh (3rd one) with dr sf loh, my previous doc was dr thh. I really hope I can succeed this time. Anyone has any good reviews of dr sf loh?
 



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