I have been married for about 10 years, and have two pre-schoolers. My relationship with my HB is okay in my personal context. We seldom fight, even if we fight, we fought over boliao things and will make up after a nite's sleep.
We still have sex on a weekly basis, sometimes more. We hold hands when we go out, and still maintain couplehood lifestyle without the kids. Like take leave on a weekday to go shopping, eat, watch movies etc etc.
Pre-kids, my HB likes to watch porn and read porn. I am perfectly open it, and he is also at ease watching infront of me. We sometimes even watch together and laugh about the show.
Post first child, my HB came to know about LSB and SBF. There throngs of topics and threads within these forums, and he will read them randomly in the beginning. As time goes by, I caught my HB switching screen abruptly when he noticed I enter our room. I dismiss his action, without much thoughs.
Soon, I decided to check on him. I went to the history to check what he was browsing. True enough he has visited the sites on sexcapades, sex travel, and threads on men grading their sex experience, and the different gals contacts, services they offer etc etc ...
Of course, he still visits other topics besides these.
I have not garner enough courage to check on him, his mobile, his whereabouts.
REASON : Cause I do not know how to react if I know his is outside f****** around.
2 years ago, I watched a segment on Get Rea!, which feature these forums. Sadly, the segment is inconclusive and doesn't provide much insight on these forums. Surely, they must know the girls providing sexual service online is illegal. But why didn't the authorities do anything about this.
Now with the so many men caught having sex with underage prostitutes online. Shouldn't we ladies give more thoughts into this?
I hate to say this, if we are unaware or continue to live in ignorance on what is going on around us, do we then wait for the bomb to explode right into our face and then live in a daze?
Do we want our men to shame the family, if there is a slightest chance we could help ourselves?
There are many women who threaten they will divorce their HB when such things happen, well, I do not think they will do it. They just rant, whine, complain, fall into depression without making efforts to help themselves first.
I initially started a thread on Sammyboy/Laksaboy Forum, and asked women here to voice their views. But seems like this thread has taken the lead over this.
I have not gather much information as in the women's thoughts on this. Except, Licker who has given his views from a man's stand. He is more afraid that I start a World War III here. The thing is, don't worry, my intention is not to call out to the world to ban prostitution. My target is these forums. They are such easy access that they tempt all men -- Old, young, underaged, married, single etc.
It takes some courage for man to walk down geylang to engage a prostitue services. Don't know anyone of you have seen this, but most men will drive through the "chicken" lanes in geylang. Talk price, talk service and the chicken will hop into the car. It's pretty discreet. Whereas in the forum, take down number, sms, talk price, put place, put time. And the man will just go. Even if he last minute cannot turn up, the chicken also have no choice.