BerryMum,
wow must buy kopi for your sis
me... not young leh.. 36yrs next fri
somemore, go market... clothes very "aunty" lor...
i only started using the cane when my son was 4.5yrs old... he was fairly a managable boy all the while.
your gal at 20mths still seems rather young to fully understand the concept of "don't"... i won't use the cane on her but try as much to explain to her that she cannot hit or throw... especially to another person.
you could try to use the supernanny method - time out for 2mins since she's turning 2yrs in a few months.
time out at a lil' corner on a lil' chair with no toys, no distraction area, and she has to stay strictly at that corner.
after 2mins, she has to say sorry and slowly, you explained to her again, why she had had that 2mins time out. enforce this to be carried out by everyone, incl. the maid. slowly, she will only realised that hitting and throwing will get her in trouble, and would change to the positive.
i believe she can, as she is indeed a very bright gal