Dear all,
Dropping in to share some ancient (3yrs ago) happy ending. I have done this before but let me recount the happy ending again.
I was trying for more than a year when I started to seek medical help. Result: my irregular menses which is highly reversible by use of medication and my hubby's sperm count & quality (zero count and bad morphology) - with these the chance of me conceiving is almost zero. We were very depressed - in fact we called our parents to warn them of shelving away any hope of seeing grandchildren from us.
A year later, we decided we want to try with assistance - used Clomid once and tried IUI once and failed. Another depression period.
We sat down and decided that we would likely regret if we do not give IVF a try so we headed on to Gleneagles but was advised to have my hubby undergo surgery to correct his varicocele which the Urologist thought may improve the sperm count. I was apprehensive about this because I was the one who was keen on having babies; my hubby was just lukewarm about the idea. So we headed on to NUH for second opinion. Prof Wong on contrary advised us to go for ICSI w/o surgery. This seemed a better option and he was the no nonsense type which we can connect to immediately.
I was lucky. I was successful with one try. One of the 2 embryos replaced implanted. I still have 6 more embryos waiting for me now in NUH. But my route to motherhood was full of trials. I had threatened miscarriage during the first trimester. My amniotic sac ruptured when I was 19 weeks into my prenancy - thanks to Prof Wong and Prof Biswas who did not even mentioned of induced abortion (if they had, I would have heed their advise and not be a happy mom as I am now).
Instead, I was admitted and bed-ridden for about 3 months. Drinking more than 6 litres of water everyday. I had undergone anmio-infusion where saline was dripped into the womb by inserting a needle as thick as the drinking straw of Yakult once a week from 21 wks to 27th wks of my prenancy. I am very very thankful of the nurses in Ward 42. W/o their encouraging words and care, I would not have pulled myself out of depression and stay healthy and happy in NUH.
On the 29th weeks + 3 days, my son was born - on the very same day of his father's birthday. It was as if he wanted to assure us he is meant to be our son. He was admitted to NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) for 2 months before being discharge. Despite all the warnings from the Paeds before his birth, he defied almost all prediction of bad health. He was even named the second runner up in 2006 June Cutest Baby Contest:
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http://www.singaporemoms.com/community/node/36852). Looking at his photo who would predict this baby was predicted to be abnormal at birth due to my complication??
Don't despair and dun give up TTC-ing. To many, taking the option of IVF/ICSI is like playing god. I am not proud to have to undergone IVF but neither am I ashamed. It was a medical condition hence we went to seek medical help - that simple. The the outcome, I am enjoying every moment being a mother to this lovely, active 27 mth toddler.
Did my predicament scare me off trying again? Definitely NO! I am trying for my second one come July this year. I hope to be lucky second time... Looking forward to read more of you sharing your happy endings too...