ruffy, for the two books that you recommend above, wats the author's discipline approach like? (eg, time outs? light smacks? attachment parenting? gentle discipline?)
lil prince, for Faye, she still aint too fond of the car seat LOL! Last time I used to carry her in my arms once in a while still, during days when she is not in a good mood, or when traffic flow is not as heavy etc. But then I realised that this undo the effort I put in to make sure she knows she MUST be in the car seat. These days she seemed to start detesting it with a passion all over again, so I make it easier for her to sit in by giving her a small snack at times (like a small piece of biscuit or wat). If Ryan will feel better with you sitting in the back, then its great! No point making them suffer for things that can be helped. But hor, wat u drive alone at tmes then he cant get used to being behind all alone?
lil devil, there are plenty of good books ard that will give u more insights on quinn's behaviour and equip u with the tools u need to handle it.
MT, u let Tena play at the water area nekkid ah? Did u go into the water area yourself to play w her? Then didnt u get all wet?
kypf, you look GOOD! waliao, wat tummy? yr belly is FLAT leh
skyblue, thats the yr bb n child book ah? I agree with wat u posted!
INDULGING GRANDIES- For a while I used to wish I have more village support from both sides of the family. These days I'm actually v glad that because I'm pretty much the only one who looks after Faye(apart from hb on weekends), I dont have to worry that someone else might do/not do what I think they should with regard to discipline.
ASSERTIVE TODDLERS- hehe looks like quite a no of the tods here are entering a new phase! Faye's def going thru some of these developmental stages too- she is increasingly assertive these days, knows what she wants, alot less distractible and better memory (even if can distract she STILL remembers the thing I distracted her from AFTER she got sick of the distraction LOL!). For now we are working on helping her to assert her wants/desires in a softer tone( are not trying to get rid of her assertiveness tho, we think its a great thing, she just need to be able to express it in other ways), as well as to help her gain more control over her emotions when she is upset. It seems like a rather slow process for now (hehe mummies who have tods going thru the same stage WILL know wat I mean cause it can SEEM forever huh
) but I'm confident she'll get thru this stage fine. For us, I realise that being very loving helps alot. When I'm in a calm and controlled state, it also helps tremendously. I realised that if I lose control and become ruffled/upset/impatient, it seems to worsen the situation. Somehow I feel that she picks up my negative vibes and feel the need to test limits even more, which drives us both nuts. Well, there's always a learning curve lar, so we're both learning something new here.
Actually last n this week's been a lil rough for me cause Faye is having an ear infection and hb is away, there are days when the going gets so rough that I wanna strangle a bird or something! But I realise that Faye is picking up SO MUCH from me, u know ah, sometimes when I am upset and I cant scream (cannot scream at her mah LOL!) I will go 'SIGHHHHHHH' quite loudly. Then hor, u know wat? since yesterday, I realised that when Faye got mad at something, she went 'SSHHHHHHSSSS!!!!' and it sounds something like my loud sigh when I am upset! I was quite shocked LOL! I know that children learn by modelling but I didnt know its with such precision! Man, am I glad that I only sighed and not said or do some other thing! This taught me a good lesson- dont behave in ways I dont want her to behave like.
