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my contributions if it helps.
1) Touch the fans
rhyan's favourite! i hv been very consistent in telling him he cannot touch it else will hurt his fingers so now, when he attempts to touch it and hears me saying no, he will just sit there to watch. maybe can childproof the fans with nets, i do tt at home.
2) prevent her from taking off her shoe and licking it.
i guide him in removing his shoes (just pull up the velcro part) then praise him for removing his shoes on his own. sort of like distract him instead and as he is so happy tt he did something on his own, he ends up clapping hands and forget about licking his shoes.
3) Eat our food
i always make sure i order some food tt he can eat with us so i will just serve him his as we eat ours.
4) Rummage the drawers
i have 2 dedicated drawers for him to rummage through his own things too! for those in the kitchen, so far he only see but did not take the things out.
5) Play wif our keys (and hiding it)
i allow rhyan to play with the hse keys as hb and i each hv a set. he sometimes attempt to eat the keys too, i will tell him he cannot do it. so far so good, he is not upset i stopped him.
6) poke her fingers into my eye
erm, rhyan poke his fingers into my ... nose! i take them out and tell him "you are right, this is mummy's nose! where is your nose, rhyan?" he will point back at his!
7) Take away mummy specs
i don't wear specs for long hours, usually he don't see me wearing them coz i am mostly on contact lens.
8) Jumping around ON the bed
rhyan climbs all over the bed, takes stuff from the headboard and plays with the curtain near the bed. i just make sure the stuff on the headboard are safe for him to play and let him be since he will be tired and go to bed after he has finished playing.
* i think the main thing is when they are playing with something, we should not try to take away from them or stop them immediately, if possible. need to pretend pretend abit, introduce something new or a fave toy for them to play then quickly distract them off. so far, i can still manage to distract him. my hb can't lah so he faces rhyan's tantrums more than me, which is why i don't feel good leaving the two of them at home alone since my hb surely SOS me in a short while wan. hehe ..
also, i personally don't encourage timeout or treat deprivations. i just handle each bad behaviour at that time itself and dismiss it off. i believe they just need constant reminders. i don't know how long i can handle or if rhyan's behavour worsens, whether i can still do these only but so far, i do see rhyan respects what i say more than nanny who usually tell him "beat beat!" or show him rubberbands (he knows it hurts!) to chase him off when he touches the fan.
skyblue
sorry ah, tdy u IM me again when u are online hor.
fruitcake
eh, if u hv a nanny come in to help you during the day, surely will also hv differences and difficult to tell them on somethings you don't feel good about? Won't yr mum or MIL be better?
for me, i am most likely to just hv a part time cleaner to do hsework if i hv a 2nd bb, leave both kids with nanny when i am working, fetch both kids home after work, daily.
