Where Do I Go From Here?

[MilkyChoco]

I am a single mum of a 4 year old girl....Had been here studying since secondary school and working in the education sector as a teacher after graduating.

Had my girl with my then boyfriend and married him but he deserted me 5 years later.Had to send my girl back to Malaysia to be taken by a trusted family friend cos there is virtually no way I could take care of her while I was working.She was born in Malaysia though.

Had been feeling the strain and stress since then.I resigned from the teaching service last year and took the year off this year.

Sorry.....letting off some steam here cos got quite frustrated.

Just that I am at a loss of what to do at times in the midst of going through life.

 

[ImNotMean]

I am a single mum of a 4 year old girl....Had been here studying since secondary school and working in the education sector as a teacher after graduating.

Had my girl with my then boyfriend and married him but he deserted me 5 years later.Had to send my girl back to Malaysia to be taken by a trusted family friend cos there is virtually no way I could take care of her while I was working.She was born in Malaysia though.

Had been feeling the strain and stress since then.I resigned from the teaching service last year and took the year off this year.

Sorry.....letting off some steam here cos got quite frustrated.

Just that I am at a loss of what to do at times in the midst of going through life.

Hello sorry to heard that.. jia you

 

[MilkyChoco]

Hello sorry to heard that.. jia you

Thank you.

 

[JL8118]

I am a single mum of a 4 year old girl....Had been here studying since secondary school and working in the education sector as a teacher after graduating.

Had my girl with my then boyfriend and married him but he deserted me 5 years later.Had to send my girl back to Malaysia to be taken by a trusted family friend cos there is virtually no way I could take care of her while I was working.She was born in Malaysia though.

Had been feeling the strain and stress since then.I resigned from the teaching service last year and took the year off this year.

Sorry.....letting off some steam here cos got quite frustrated.

Just that I am at a loss of what to do at times in the midst of going through life.

Had my girl with my then boyfriend and married him but he deserted me 5 years later
>> What do you mean by you had your girl with your boyfriend (now hubby), but he deserted you 5 years later? You have divorce with your hubby? Or? Confused over this statement...

Why not bring your child to Singapore to stay with you? It's better than having her taking care by some family friend? If your family here with you? How can you let someone take care of your own child??? Are you PR or Singaporean now?

 

[MilkyChoco]

Had my girl with my then boyfriend and married him but he deserted me 5 years later
>> What do you mean by you had your girl with your boyfriend (now hubby), but he deserted you 5 years later? You have divorce with your hubby? Or? Confused over this statement...

Why not bring your child to Singapore to stay with you? It's better than having her taking care by some family friend? If your family here with you? How can you let someone take care of your own child??? Are you PR or Singaporean now?

Hi sorry for the confusion.

We were not married 6 years ago when I was pregnant with my girl and he hastily married me in order not to lose face.

6 years later which is now,he left us for another woman outside whom he knew for years even before I knew him.From what I know,they were together for a while before they broke up and he went for me instead.

We are almost divorced but can be considered already right?His heart is no longer with us but with that woman.

As for why my girl is not in SG,she was initially taken care by my mum but she passed away of C19 in 2020 and a family friend in my hometown offered to take care of her for me when I was working in SG.During that period,he was adamant about not having our girl in SG and was quite evasive when I pressed for the reasons but he just said our girl needed someone to take care of her and both of us are just so busy.

He is quite a domineering guy BTW.

I took up SG citizenship in 2018.

 

[JL8118]

Oh. Much clearer now...

Well, do you have proof that he's with another woman outside? If have, maybe you can file for divorce?
After divorce, then maybe you can fight for sole custody, and bring your child over to SG.

 

[MilkyChoco]

Oh. Much clearer now...

Well, do you have proof that he's with another woman outside? If have, maybe you can file for divorce?
After divorce, then maybe you can fight for sole custody, and bring your child over to SG.

I had not got a PI to follow him but he got one to follow me instead when I was teaching in a primary school.

There are a few occasions like when I was walking out to lunch with a male colleague and the PI took pictures of us together eating and me getting into his car.

There was once I suay suay I tripped and fell into the arms of my colleague who held me just in time.Got snapped for that.

There was another occasion that my colleague's house doing reno and he stayed in a hotel for a few days.I had to discuss some work stuff after school with him and went to his room.I got snapped a pic for that too.

He is a regular and will spend Mondays to Saturdays in the camp citing reasons like having duty or training.But when I called his camp to talk to him,I was always told that he is either not around or busy.When I looked at his phone while he was showering or zzzing at home,his previous girlfriend always texted him on stuff like where he was,meet where or eat whatever later,mushy stuff and their own programmes.

On my daughter's primary school education,he said it is better for her to study in a Malaysian primary school until she is like in eg P5-P6 where she can travel independently on her own between the 2 countries in the mornings before school or after school in the afternoons.Secondary school also dont need to study here but can continue in Malaysia instead.....Maybe she can stay with us by then.

I was angry when he said that and protested that is not a good idea but he flew into a rage and stormed out of the house.His attitude to me had changed for the worse since that woman came in.

He refused to listen to whatever I said when I suggested bringing my girl out to SG because I resigned from my teaching job and giving freelance tuition now.Just told me to let her remain in Malaysia and closed the discussion on this topic.