SUPPORT GROUP - INFERTILTY

Hi bb,
Let me share my experience.had stillbirth last july,had been ttc since.2 failed IUIs.went thru a whole lot of tests,3D scan of uterus,HSG etc.I finally conceived naturally.I was so tired by then.at 1st,i read somewhere in the forum that positive imagery helps.so i told myself to think positively.but i felt very disappointed when my AF reported mths after mths.by 7th mth of trying,i told myself i will cope by myself.i won't jump up and down like a crazy woman in front of hubby.and i did manage to cope by myself.it's a lot of playing with ur own mind.wat is urs will eventually be urs.wat not urs will never be urs.look at wat happened to my 1st pregnancy.by 9th mth,my mind was so tired,i couldn't think anymore.i told myself i should get my life organised,find things to keep myself occupied so that my life will be more interesting as well.and i fell preg.i was delighted.so if u ask me if state of mind matters,i tell u wat matters.harmony b/w the couple matters most.that is wat i always believe.

i tried iui coz hubby was very unco-operative.i was quite concinved since i conceived easily the 1st time,this time won't be too diff.afterall,we haven't reached the 1 yr mark yet.but hubby's attitude really put me off.i did everything i could.i begged,i was nice,i tolerated.in the end,i was so fed up,i decided the only way to have kids is to go thru iui or ivf.at least i didn't need intercourse.but these couple of mths,hubby's attitude turned ard.this mth which i conceived,he even promised me he will wake up to bd when he was too tired the night b4.and he did wake me up in the morn to bd.
 


dear ladies,

i am really frustrated beyond words. i've had 2 m/cs over the last 2 years or so. First one was spotting at week 8, had a d/c done. Second one was a natural m/c, at 4 weeks and 5 days. That was in end March 2008. Since then, we have been trying without any success. It's coming to the 15th cycle since and 2 years of ttc since my first m/c in June 2007.

I've tried almost everything - testing for ovulation, using of preseed, on 3 cycles of clomid but its still NOTHING.

i know i'm supposed to relax and it will come when its meant to be, but i'm already 31. how long more do i wait?

my instintcs tell me that i should seek help but i dont know where to start.

hope someone could recommend me a good fertility specialist? and how much will it cost to go through the entire process? just want to have a mental preparation.

big sigh.

i'm really tired. tired of hearing people getting pregnant all the time and having to deal with the heart and guts wringing inside out.
 
Hi Monster,

Yr post is really v encouraging...
I still rmbs I really shun away from preggie frens and quarrel wif dh often when I noe my frens is preggie. I am in a state of breakdown cos nothing works well wif us...we hv done everything from gynae check ups and TCMs treatments...I dun intend to go thru IVF yet cos I am still pinning hopes to conceive natrually which I really hope...

For this year, we have quarrel less bcos of baby...and I try to tell myself to stay positive and keep myself happi...And I hv told myself tt I will not be forsaken...though I will feel sad for the 1st/2nd day of my AF, bt at the end, I will tell myself to try hard for the next cycle.

Though I hv not fall pregnant yet, bt I will try to stay positive and happi....if really nothing comes out at the end of the day, we will try IVF....at least we tried...if its not meant for us, it will not be....I really hope my turn will come soon and so is the other forummers here....

Positive mindset really is v impt...w/o tt I believes, we wun even hv mood to BD right?

JIA YOU!
 
Hi twinangels,

So sorri to hear abt yr loss....bt if u hv 2 d/cs before, u shd hv a gynae tt u noe right? Did the gynaes mention the reason of yr m/c? Perhaps u can get a TCM to tiao yr body?

U can check out on the below thread....

http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/5/294863.html?1237801010

Bt if u really need a fertility doc due to age issue, u can try Doc SF Loh from KKH or LC Cheng from TMC....

Hope u grad soon and do stay +ve yeah!
 
Hi babychloe,

I am assuming ur name is chloe,or ur daughter's name is chloe.I have named the daughter i lost chloe too.i find it such a cute name for a little girl.I am juz sharing my experience.I have broken down many times.I am a strong girl,but too many setbacks can also take a toll on the mind of the strongest girl.like u,i went thru' emotional ups and down.very very down when i got my period.after that,when it's O time,i c it as a renewed hope.then 2ww,it's nervousness that took over my life.i read and iterpret every little symptoms.i drove myself crazy over that.a few mths ago,i told myself i cannot go on like that,otherwise i'll go crazy.i started shifting my mindset fr ttc to enriching my life with wat i want to do.so i told myself ttc is something not within my control,unfortunately.but i can control wat i want to do in my spare time.i contemplated taking up golf,which hubby and i never got around to doing coz i fell preg the last time.i was also going to organise my pottery lesson,pilates.this will fill up all my spare time.

twinangels,
I can share wat i did this time that is different fr previous cycles.let me tell u my prob 1st.hubby's sperms not swimming fast enough,morphology only 7% normal.i have a uterine septum,which increases my chances of miscarriages.then hubby referred to urologist,urologist gave a terrible report.bilateral vericocele.i tell u,the look on his face when we went back last wk to see him was amusing.he went on & on abt wat we should do,how bad my hubby's sperms are.i had to stop him 1/2 way to tell him i am pregnant.okie,now i tell u wat i did.TCM at marine parade.1 try only.used Preseed lubricant.hubby really co-operated.i told him to try,he try.even woke up early in the morn to try.i used hot waterbag coz TCM said my womb is 'cold'.

I can recommend u two of the gynaes that i went to.Prof MAry Rauff at NUH & Dr.Chris Chong at Gleneagles.Chris chong is quite ex,u must be prepared.but he's more aggressive.Mary rauff is less aggressive in treatment.
 
Hi Monster,
My name is not chloe and I do not have any children yet and I am still waiting....
I m hoping for a girl if I really conceived and name her Chloe...I love this name v much! Hope my wish will come true soon.....

Yes, I can say I hv walked out from the dark tunnel and I hope I will not walk inside again....right now I am planning my spare times to do things tt I like and catch up wif frens even they are all mummies...I tel myself tis is a good chance for me to learn more before I become a mum myself....I wld not say I dun feel sad when AF reports....I will feel down for 1/2 day and aft tt brace myself up tt there is still a next mth....a new cycle means a new hope!
Most imptly is my work kept me bz..so I got no time for wild thoughts and when weekends come, I just wan to relax myself...
U r really a good example for me, and I hope the end result will be the same...thanks for sharing!
 
Hi babychloe,
oh sorry.yes,I hope ur wish will come true.I think after waiting for so long,even if u have a boy,u'll be very happy.juz as long as u have a healthy baby.

Hi twinkle,
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Tel: 63446718 (no use calling,u'll never get thru'.it's always engagaed.I've tried)

Mon - Sat 8.30-3
Sun 8.30-12.
Closed on Tues & P.Hol

I went on a weekday afternoon.didn't have to Q too long.u should go once ur period has cleared.I went during the time i was ovulating.so he said couldn't interfere with that period,gave me something to brew and to take on a specific date to help implantation.ideally,if u go juz after ur period is clear,he can prescribe u something to help ovulate,and then after that,to help implantation.he said my womb is cold,and my HCG a bit 'weak'.so after i bd-ed,i place hot waterbag to help 'warm' my womb.other gals in the other thread haf done this,so i tot i'll try.hot waterbag not recommended by TCM.he didn't mention anything like that.
 
Hi berry,

Thank you for ur well wishes.yes,i used the hot waterbag in 2ww,coz i went to TCM and he said my womb is 'cold'.so i learnt fr the gals in 2ww thread
 
Monster, so u used hot waterbag for the whole 2ww? Plus after BD right? How long u leave it there? How hot should it be?
I'm very blur now cos alot said dun use hot water bag during 2ww. But since now u got preggy so i think i will follow u. Hope to catch some baby dust. Hee hee.
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Hi berry,
actually,i wrote a reply to u a few days b4 this,but work computer's been a bit funny.hanged,so my msg never got thru'.

yes,i used hot waterbag for the whole 2ww.i was so desperate by that time,i tried everything that wouldn't harm me.i left the hot waterbag on my womb until i slept.sometimes hubby will take it off me.but it wasn't burning hot.juz lukewarm.
 
Hi

I am new here. Anyone age over 45, has successful IUI or IVF done? Care to share by which doctor, how many tries and how much are the charges?
 
Hi Hopeful40,

I would suggest u go consult a doc first...then the gynae will advise u to go for blood test for IVF and followed bt the scans...
never try never know...good luck!
 
Hi all,

I'm new to this thread but would like to join as I'm also feeling quite depressed these days over TTC. I've been trying for 2 years without success, done all the tests like hsg, blood tests, hubby do sperm check, ultrasounds of womb etc all ok, so next step is iui.

Visited Dr Heng at Bedok yesterday, she said I may ovulate this weekend which is not good as the clinic is closed on Sundays hopefully my body cooperates and ovulate on Sat or Mon but not Sunday!!

Some questions: how big should a follicle before before doing iui? is there any way to hasten the process naturally?

I'm kinda scared.. costs and time taken is one thing but it's the fear of disappointment and failure.. been thru so many months of heart aches already.

Thanks and appreciate any advice given =)
 
hi "waiting in hope"
i am also trying to conceive,,,going to my 4th yr soon and i am still childless.

take it easy....i have also tried iui and has failed 2x iui.
 
Babychloe/Monster
Both of you jia you ok.

Babychloe, your case is like me. I will walk into the tunnel once every mth. This is what I observed and realised. The week before my menses is the worst week....my hormones will go hay wire and I will breakdown easily or pick a quarrel w my dh. It's pretty bad. I think I need to highlight this to my gynae and TCM. Also, the week b4 menses, I will have achy back pain. hard to "tahan" cos you cant seem to sit without figeting.

hi ladies,
I don't see anymore post here. Does anyone know if there is a support group for infertility helpline in Singapore?
 
Hi everyone!I'm a newbie here..I read your posts on IUI and infertility...I need people to talk to and share my infertility problem.i'm married for 5 years and still no baby,i just started seeing a gyne for work ups and yesterday i found out that my prolactin level is high and my thyroid function level is also high.It might be the reason why i am not ovulating..iys quite depressing.any of u guys have same problem with me,pls share...thanks
 
hi everyone, i went thru 5 yrs of TTC and definitely know what you are all going through now. At the end of the 5 yrs, when I was reaching my mid-30s, we decided to adopt. We have 2 girls now: 5yo and 6.5 mths old.

Adopting was a huge hurdle for me to overcome but eversince we had Vicky, it is the best thing that we have done as a couple.

I'm not telling you that adoption is the way to go but telling you that it is a possible route you could consider. If you are, join or read the "Child Adoption" thread. There is a vibrant community there supporting each other.

Have a good rest of the week ahead.
 
Hello TTCers and mommies,
I am a new "old" member aged above 40. Sadly I found my true love and married very late in life. This late marriage costs us some good 3 yrs of TTCing without success. I think I have tried everything I can to conceive and to keep the beanie in me. I even diligently do my BBT charting but I still received red report cards. Many times I feel like giving up cos the few fertility specialists I went to would say it is age-related problems...bad eggs, bad eggs and still bad eggs. But if Zoe Tay at age 42 can conceive a healthy baby boy then why can't I? If Michelle Reis can conceive at age 40 then why can't I? Life is so unfair.
 
kren, I have hormonal problems like you. I actually do not have FSH, LH and probably very low levels of other hormones. It will be good to follow up with docs and do your best to stay positive. U r not alone in have hormonal infertility...
 
I tried 3 rounds of IVF, and I decided to read up on some fertility treatments globally since my embies did not implant. Embies can usually be only 30% able to develop into babies, so the battle is fiercer for people with hormonal issues. The idea here is a check on your endocrine levels is needed before commencing fertility treatments. I learnt this the hard way, as my doc did not want to have an update on my hormonal levels before starting my ivf treatments. Auto-immunity test can be done, to check if your body may be one of those that auto reject implantation. My doc says it is rare, and the test is expensive, but if you want no stones unturned in investigating your fertility, you can ask for it in terms of whether u want it or if you can afford it. I think the test is about 1k... blood works are expensive, so check wif ur doc to know which ones u should do.
 
I have been married for 7 years and remained infertile. My friend recommended me to Dr Charles at Mount Elizabeth Hospital.
Dr Charles Lim is my saviour for my infertility conditions. On the first visit, he diagnosed me with PCOS. He is really professional, friendly, and being very patience in answering our questions. His fees are reasonable. I have more confidence in getting pregnant now. He started with the lowest cost plan for us. Successful pregnancy is possible with Dr Lim's care and expertise. Let's hope for the best! Good Luck to you all.
 
   
Hello ladies! I just want to share my story here. Hope it brings some light n alternative hope for you!

I just heard that a couple of others had conceived naturally after repeated miscarriages/ or unsuccessful ivfs/ iuis. . One even had a mental breakdown after her miscarrige. My healer say thanks for your support and she is glad to hv helped us in realising your dreams! I myself also managed a bfp under her help together with Ivf my last resort. My next one will be natural!

I'm stilling seeing her but less frequently now - I'm in my 17 weeks doing well but also keeping my fingers crossed.

If u r keen to know more about her, i have written about her previously and can read more at Facebook / search for Yoga Inn. She is Mdm Valencia Tan( based at Waterloo Street). There are some testimonials there!

Jia you everyone! My little story here:

http://mybfpstory.blogspot.com/?m=1
 
Hi all, been trying for a kid for ~5yrs.. getting very stressed out now. Just did my first IUI, but no success. After checks by my gynae, still dun know what is the problem of the infertility. I'm ovulating normally, period regular with ocassional menstrual cramps. aged 33 tis yr. hb's sperm is normal. what is my next step? more IUIs, SO-IUI or IVF? btw im taking TCM too... Argghhh
 
Hi nurul, i dun know the reason coz im ovulating, hb's army is ok (but no superman). but i do suspect my job may be causing it.. coz in my line of work, need to carry heavy stuff.. been cutting down on the heavy stuff but in vain.
No blood test was done for this IUI, just consistent follicle checks. Previous blood test showed normal levels, as in no alarms being sounded out by my gynae.
 
hi noscon, wat is tcc? tcm? if u r asking abt my tcm sinseh, she is dr wang bei ming from ma guang. quite detailed, knows acupucture but abit pricy.. ~$80 per 1 week's medicine. cannot confirm if she is really good or not since i saw her only for 2 times. but i like her coz she really considers my body condition b4 prescribing any medication.
i hear that tong ji is good and cheap but i dun knw any good doc there. the last time i went tongji, the sinseh asked mi for my medical report so need to do profile5 again before seeing her coz the last time i did it was like 2 yrs ago. ma guang dun need coz more like conditioning ur body instead.
 
sorry i meant ttc...(trying to conceive)....
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yeah ma guang generally a little more exp...but ok if its worth it and there is improvement...
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i was in your shoes prev... trying for abt 4-5yrs and failed at first IUI. tried tcm for many years and seen many sinsehs and doctors. I was ovulating normally and hb sperm test is very good. so also puzzled. Just to share that stress plays an impt part alongside with diet and exercise.

I was doing exercise every other day. I enjoys exercise a lot so not a problem to me. At that time, no kid so I can afford the time and energy after work to go to gym. I eat very healthily. No fried food or tidbits and cut down on caffeine. I try to avoid chicken too cos of the hormones. I generally eat yong tau fu every lunch and a normal dinner as healthy as i can but im not strict. But I was still not successful. All these on top of tcm medicine...

I was preparing to go for IVF so I gave up trying for a couple of months before that, just to give myself a rest cos very stressful to be always not successful.... I conceived during those months before IVF. I think cos unconsciously was so stressed about it that it hinders... I'm sure u heard many stories where people "won 4d" when they stopped trying? mine was such a case...
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OOo my gynae is DR WK Tan. Sweet and frenly lady.
Aiyah, actually my case is opposite. We were enjoying ourselves for 2 yrs... when not effective, i went to kk for treatment. now i'm at thomson medical for fixed gynae. 5 yrs of trying... my stress level is really building up.
 
Hi all, actually I think I am similar to the people here, I am 35 this year, married for 9 years to date. Tried IUI and IVF, did conceive but miscarriage twice, doctor can't point the actual root cause but only suspected problems here and there. Anyway, because of that, I wrote 2 books (http://www.feliciatan22.com/?p=260) on my 2 miscarriages, also back to square one to trying. Just met a friend last week who didn't have any success in IUI and IVF. She told me at least you tried and had success with IVF, however on the other hand, my hubby is saying at least they won't have the misery later like us. Everyone see each other better than ourself. At the end of the day, it all voiced down to what you want and to persist to achieve it. We can't compare... I have friends who just delivered her 2nd child and other at their 3rd pregnancy but I am not giving up yet and I hope everyone here stays hopeful too.
 
Hi ladies,

I am returning red eggs at toa payoh shuang lin shi this sat 21sep 12noon.

I conceived after taking red eggs fr a returning couple. Hence I am doing the same to bless more couples.

If u r interested, see you on sat.
 
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