SAHM chat
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TimeForChange
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Sahm here. 8yrs since quitting my job. Don't think I can go back to work now. Nobody will want me! I don't have a social life anymore as I put my family above all else. Not healthy I know, but I find myself quite friendless these days. 3 kids by the way. Youngest will be 3 this year.
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Hi ding,
I started my sahm life last yr june official when my girl went to pre n for half day.it has been almost a yr since my sahm journey began.well initally i have always wanted to become a sahm cause i have been working all these years since left sch.so i thought stay at home to look after kid is gd .no stress n no need to see boss face.But i was wrong.to be a sahm is a 24x7 job.to look after ur kid at home is more stressful then working outside.no personal time for myself.no indulge n pampering for myself.n of cause no time for friends and gradually become no friends.if ur bb is sick,that is the tough time to struggle thru..There are of cause the good side of being a sahm is that you get to see each n every growing stage of your bb n that is priceless.so it will depend on how you look at it .anyway welcome to the sahm club.enjoy..haha
I started my sahm life last yr june official when my girl went to pre n for half day.it has been almost a yr since my sahm journey began.well initally i have always wanted to become a sahm cause i have been working all these years since left sch.so i thought stay at home to look after kid is gd .no stress n no need to see boss face.But i was wrong.to be a sahm is a 24x7 job.to look after ur kid at home is more stressful then working outside.no personal time for myself.no indulge n pampering for myself.n of cause no time for friends and gradually become no friends.if ur bb is sick,that is the tough time to struggle thru..There are of cause the good side of being a sahm is that you get to see each n every growing stage of your bb n that is priceless.so it will depend on how you look at it .anyway welcome to the sahm club.enjoy..haha
TimeForChange
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Time flies real fast with the kids. In the blink of an eye I went from being pregnant and scared, to watching over 3 rambunctious kids. They grow up too fast. Sometimes I feel it's a thankless job. Mummy nags too much. Mummy says no to everything. Mummy makes me eat vegetables. Mummy makes me do Maths and music. Mummy forces me to read and spell. And Chinese lessons! They put up such a fight. I can only reassure myself that they will thank me in the future. They don't know that in the process, I sacrifice having a normal social life. I put them to bed at 7, not the helper. I watch over them through the night. I cook, not the helper. I buy the groceries. I bake the cookies and cupcakes. I pack the festivities goodie bags. I am the Tooth Fairy. I am Santa Claus. I send them to their activities. So many activities.... I do not have many adults to talk to. It can be lonely at times.
All these 苦nobody will know one lol.
I'm SAHM too.. Stopped working since I was pregnant.. My bb just turned 3 
.. Sometimes I feel like I'm wasting my life away and getting old.. Feels much worse when the cpf statement comes.. Lol.. But I guess it's all worth it seeing all that special moments/milestones achievements of my bb <3
.. Sometimes I feel like I'm wasting my life away and getting old.. Feels much worse when the cpf statement comes.. Lol.. But I guess it's all worth it seeing all that special moments/milestones achievements of my bb <3
ding2505
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Sigh, I know! I haven't start and yet already wondering whether it's the right choice. Yet I know if I never try I will always wonder about missing out in the formative (and cutest) years of bb's life. But it's very Xin ku hor, sometimes I take care of bb a few days in a stretch I also wanna tear hair or cry. So mao dun.
ding2505
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I'm SAHM too.. Stopped working since I was pregnant.. My bb just turned 3
Jia you!!!
pixie ng
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Will be sahm after i give birth to my twins... im quite ok with my social life coz dun hv much friends all along. Weekends my family & relatives willing to look after them so i still will have off days and can go for vacations too but most probably after they are 6mths old.
My plan is be sahm when they are young but after they start going to k1 & have their own social lives, will start on part time job..
My plan is be sahm when they are young but after they start going to k1 & have their own social lives, will start on part time job..
I'm a Sahm to my 2 kids for 3 years now. It's really special when their face brightens up when they see you in the morning and guide them in the day (moral, academic, or simply just playtime) being a mother really taught me to be VERY patient with them. Of course there are times I yelled or spanked but still it's minimum.
I miss work too. Sometimes when days get tough I would just close my eyes and "sleep" to prevent myself from flaring up at them. Lol but face the fact, the kids are still there! They cry and yell but I simply just tell them I'm tired I need a break and my oldest would just grabbed a book and sit beside me. I guess she just need some assurance that I'm not abandoning her hehe.
Sometimes I need my friends too. But usually I'm toothed for meetups...if got time I would rather sleep or surf net. I guess I need to liven up soon too!!
I miss work too. Sometimes when days get tough I would just close my eyes and "sleep" to prevent myself from flaring up at them. Lol but face the fact, the kids are still there! They cry and yell but I simply just tell them I'm tired I need a break and my oldest would just grabbed a book and sit beside me. I guess she just need some assurance that I'm not abandoning her hehe.
Sometimes I need my friends too. But usually I'm toothed for meetups...if got time I would rather sleep or surf net. I guess I need to liven up soon too!!
I am also a SAHM since my first child 5 years ago. Initially planning to return to work when she goes primary school, but now on to my 3rd one, so guess will be SAHM for a while more. It gets really frustrating sometimes dealing with kids. And of course it seems not many people understand how tired we are.
Hello! I was sahm for 3 years. Jus went bk to work recently. My kids are 7 n 3 respectively. My work is pretty flexible. I dont need to go to office daily. There is a fixed monthly allowance but there are sm basic targets to be met. If anyone is keen to know more PM me. Jy everyone! I think staying hm for our kids is the best gift we can give our kids.
whimsicalfix85
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a fellow sahm as well since my child was born. coming 10 months soon. Out of circumstance i had to forgo my career as my husband had to relocate overseas due to his job. It isn't easy especially when I don't have help here overseas.
Hi can I know more on the work that you mentioned? Thanks
Hi im also thinking to be a sahm but not sure if its the right choice... Did u all send your kids to childcare or look after them yourself full time at home?
My daughter turning 18mths and im preg with my 2nd now. I feel stressful at work and hope to quit one day to spend time with them.
My daughter turning 18mths and im preg with my 2nd now. I feel stressful at work and hope to quit one day to spend time with them.
shannelleteo
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happymama24
New Member
Pm can? Thanks alot
serene8632
Member
Hi mummies
I am a stay home mum too, since Oct 2014 to take care of my younger one who has just turned one. I hope to join this group to share thoughts as well as lobangs for everyone to save $$.
I am a stay home mum too, since Oct 2014 to take care of my younger one who has just turned one. I hope to join this group to share thoughts as well as lobangs for everyone to save $$.
karcheng
Active Member
can you provide me more detail on this
Hi , can u share with me more details of ur flexible work? Thx!
I would loved to know more about your current work at home. I have been looking for part time job that can be done at home. I can't leave my Son. ==
gigibat
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Hi, I have been a SAHM since i was pregnant with my second girl about a year ago. But too restless and cannot stand having nothing to do, so started an online marketplace for kids services, hoping to provide a platform for other SAHMs like myself to list their services and have others to purchase them.
Website is www.kidselle.com. If you think you have a kid-related service to provide, do consider listing on it! We SAHMs can also earn some pocket money once in a while!
Website is www.kidselle.com. If you think you have a kid-related service to provide, do consider listing on it! We SAHMs can also earn some pocket money once in a while!
Can you still share what your job is about?
I've been sahm for about a year now. Would liek to know more about working from home.
Hi Is it community same as https://m.facebook.com/SAHMSingapore/?
I'm interested to join can add me?
I'm interested to join can add me?
butterfly21
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Hello, is there a group chat here?
Hi! So nice To know there's a SAHM chat! Looking for this. I became a SAHM since I was married, then now with an infant 8 months. I have allowance from my Husband and I get full salary too , means I'm a tax payer, I have my own family business to run but i don't need to go office haha. Yup got maid from Husband too so need to count my blessings. I still
Keep In touch with friends by texting a lot because I'm quite free. My baby sleeps all the time. I'm home all the time too.
I feel life is very perfect and happy for me except a lot of people around me don't understand us.
1) It gets very lonely because Husband working come home tired already, no one to talk to about my emotional needs. How do you SAHM settle your emotional needs?
2)I don't have many friends now because Alor of them are jealous and hence say nasty things to me like say I'm a slave to my family blah blah, quite hurtful
3) I'm quite young so a lot of my friends Not married yet and hence they don't understand married life, hence I am here to find people who are in same situation.
Keep In touch with friends by texting a lot because I'm quite free. My baby sleeps all the time. I'm home all the time too.
I feel life is very perfect and happy for me except a lot of people around me don't understand us.
1) It gets very lonely because Husband working come home tired already, no one to talk to about my emotional needs. How do you SAHM settle your emotional needs?
2)I don't have many friends now because Alor of them are jealous and hence say nasty things to me like say I'm a slave to my family blah blah, quite hurtful
3) I'm quite young so a lot of my friends Not married yet and hence they don't understand married life, hence I am here to find people who are in same situation.
Hi all just wanna start a thread and make some new friends. Going to be a sahm soon, I think there are going to be a lot of challenges ahead! Need the advice of experienced sahm here.
My son just turned 1, thought will be nice if he has similar aged playmates too
pixie ng
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Maybe u can consider doing charity work and know more people who knows more about life
Yeah the best I can think of is still find similar Sahm friends to hang out ba. Tai tai ones or non also can. Important is finding friends that can connect with .
Thanks! I believe you're a Buddhist too. Thanks for the great reminder. Will focus on doing merits with my free time. I'll find ways of how to do it.
pls add if there is any grp
HuayWen
Member
Erm no...They just came out from Malaysia last year and had to repeat P5 level...
HuayWen
Member
That's why I resigned from school teaching to be a SAHM and take care of the girls.
NatalieTan84
Member
I am a SAHM and in the midst of getting a divorce.....
Hi, I am a SAHM & in the midst of divorce.