Mums 35 and above

[priviledged]

Hello mummies here,
I'm glad to have found a thread where I am not the oldest

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I'll be 40 next year. I just had a baby boy in Mid-Feb. I also have a 'terrible-two' girl who will be 3 in June. I'm a SAHM.

I had a very smooth pregnancy with my boy, despite my age. Just that I put on quite a bit of weight which I'm finding hard to shed, even with TBF. Just the stubborn flab.
I didn't do any of the screening or amnio tests though they were offered to me. And at the 20 wk detailed scan, my boy had dilated kidneys, and that caused a bit of worry for us cos that's a 'soft marker' for Downs. But my hb & I decided not to do the amnio. The dilated kidneys resolved by wk 24 and my boy is normal and healthy. Thank God for that.
We're open to having another child, but of course, the risks get higher each year, so we're hesitating. I also had a miscarriage a year ago, before conceiving my son, so there's that too. We'll just leave it to God and nature.

This hot weather is really wearing on me, having to manage my tantrumy girl, my demanding boy and housework and cooking. Heee.

Are most of you FTWM?

Kan,
My friend's child is also sick sooo often after starting childcare. He's practically sick every month. Maybe a change of school might help, if that's possible?

 

[harmonee]

Hi Privileged
So brave of you to have managed the obstacles you faced to have your children. But thank God, you now have two little blessings. I am a SAHM too, sometimes it is really quite frustrating to not be able to have enough time for ourselves. Well, we are not alone... But I guess it is a process and stage we won't want to miss too

Yes, we have stopped letting him going to that school and is looking around near Serangoon Ave 2, Toa Payoh, AMK. If anyone has any recommendations, pls feel free to tell me. Thanks

 

[priviledged]

Kan,
I'm home-schooling my girl. We have our lessons only about 2-3x per week. She's a very gregarious little girl and loves to have fun. She knows how to read her alphabets and is currently mastering reading 1-10 and getting the hang of simple blends. (I do phonics with her) Have you ever thought of homeschooling your boy?

I actually enjoyed my pregnancy, and even the delivery quite a lot. I think it's because my gynae was always very jovial and humorous. I kind of missed my regular appts with him. hahaha.

My girl was born in the US when we were staying there. That was a different experience.

 

[harmonee]

Hi Privilege
Yes, I do teach my son at home. We also go library regularly to read together though his attention span isn't long, but he is eager to learn. I pick educational VCDs/DVDs from library for him and in fact, he learnt a lot from them.
What he lacks is social skills which I thought will be more easily acquire from enrichment / preschools or gatherings. Unfortunately, my boy does not have any cousins, never do our friends have similar age children. Hence, we bring him a lot to playgrounds to socialise and teach him how to socialise with peers.

 

[ginberri]

hi all,

am 36, glad to find this thread ... but realised that it has been quiet for a long time.

read your talks on amnio, just wondering whether anyone done CVS? can share your experience? Tku.

 

[1pumpkin]

Hi mummies
let's chat here

http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/36738/711819.html?1192764267

 

[happyface1]

Hello,
I am 37 and coming 38. Got 2 kids. Both premature baby. 1st girl, 7th mths premature, now 3 to 4 yrs old, very smart. My boy 9th mths birth and now 5 mths old. I had a very hard time during conceieved the two of them. My worst expierence is the 1st one. Mumies Going thru so many stress, obstacles and near miss before born. Staying Yishun. Any mummies staying here?

 

[yogibabe]

have not been in here for a long time. wonder how's everyone doing?

 

[jachang]

Hi SK,

I will be turning 35 soon. I ve 6yo twins son & 4+yo daughter.Ever thought of having 4th child few years ago but ve since dropped the idea.Looking aft kids is not an easy task.If you like children the more the merrier.

One of my friend's mum gave birth to quadruplets when she was in her forties and her daughter was then 12yo.Don't give yourself too much stress.Maybe if you relax a bit it is easier to conceive.

Hope to hear good news from you.

 

[sk4]

Hi Jachang and everyone out there still receiving this message, how are all of you?

Jachang, Thank you for your concern. Actually I succeeded conceiving and had my third child in 2007. Now my dd3 is already 3yo. Had thought of having another one then, but decided not to cos I am not spending enough time for each of my children. Even till now, I still feel that way. Sometimes they need my attention at the same time, even want to hold my hands at the same time when we go out, but I have only two hands!

Wow, you have twins, not easy huh? Especially during those breastfeeding months. How did you do it?

 

[jachang]

Hi SK,

Glad to hear that n I didnt realise it was posted so long ago.I couldn't breastfeed the 2 of them after birth.I was admitted on sat morning n delivered on Sun morning.Didnt really eat n was exhausted aft birth (Natural).

Last x my kids also wanted to hold my hands instead of my maid's.My friend taught me one method that is let the 3rd one hold on my pocket or belt loop.At least when my child let go of his/her hand I can feel it.Maybe u can try but of cos not on the road.

 

[sk4]

Jachang,

Yes, the slowest one will always end up either holding her sister's hand or my pocket, belt, skirt, etc.

Since your eldest are 6yo, have you made up your mind on which pri school to send them?

 

[jachang]

Hi SK,

Thou of enrolling them to Canberra cos it is just a few blks away.It is easier for my maid to send them to sch.

 

[yongashley75]

stress of life is breaking us I feel