Hi desert, helena and mini...
i think ur boys r all younger than my gal. my gal was exactly like yr boys when younger. she'll comfort suck day n night! but when she turn abt 3mths, she started to get very kaypoh. in the day, will suckle abit, then start talking n looking around, not so interested in comfort suck anymore. so i think bbies do grow out of the long suckling phase. but i cant say for night time!!
i always tot its very bad habit to let my gal suckle long to sleep, n i find she needs the breast to fall back to sleep. there was a period where she wake every 1-2 hrs to suckle
...i almost died. so i deicded enough is enough, so started to train her to sleep without nursing.
hi sarador,
thanks for ur advice!! hey is the book u read on falling asleep is a learn SKILL "healthy sleep habits, happy child" by Marc weissbluth? i got that book too!! i bought it when my gal was very young, then it was really difficult to get her sleep on her own, almost impossible!! i totally agree w the way u r training ur gal.. heeee, i suddenly feel there's 2 evil mums here hahah
now that she's older, i feel more confident to let her cry it out hehe
.... coz when younger she had alot of gas, also looks so tiny...so i think its poor thing to let her cry. so i'll give in n offer the breast when ever she cries.... as time goes, i realised its not a good way to soothe her.
so recently, i stood firm n decided to let her cry it out. though i did not do exactly like wat the book suggest (leave bb in the room alone n let cry till sleep), i still let her cry but stay w her n sing, pat her....at first she screamed. but i can tell she juz wan to b nursed n carried. so i talk to her nicely that i cant carry her coz she need to learn, n i persevered. she cried quite long lah. my hb n mum cant take it haa. then the following day she fell asleep by juz patting n singing to her!! thank God!
now i continue this routine, feed her first. then put her down awake, pat n sing to her. i realise when she wake up she can fall back to sleep without needing to nurse
!!! thank God again. but she still take her 12am n 5am feed. coz i not sure if i shld start training her sleep thru the night now, as i'v tried feeding water but doesnt work.
wah such a long posting!