Any Newborn taking care by maid ?

[xiaobudian]

Hi , i m a first time mum and like some advise . My boy was taking care by inlaw n maid since the day he is born and now he is two months old. I find that he had get used to my maid carrying ,changing ,feeding and patting him to sleep that he will cry whenever i try to carry ,change,feed or pat him to sleep but he will be very contended or quiet when my maid do all those things on him as if she is the mother

I find it so sad n discouraging, can some one who have the similar experience advise me how to change it or do better inorder for baby not to get too use to maid.

 

[koala_bearie]

Hmm, during my maternity leave, I took care of my boy myself 24/7 fearing that the same thing if yours is happening to me. Babies recognize care takers very fast as they can reg the smell and voice. Spend more time with your baby from now on and take over the feeding, changing diapers and etc once u are home. Slowly, your baby should reg you. If u let your maid take care of everything, def babywill be close with her. Nothing comes without efforts.

Babies are very simple, they will not know who is biologically related to them, but will become close to the caretakers.

 

[wendypeh]

I just had my third child 3 weeks ago. My 2 elder kids are taken care by my maid full time after my confinement. Luckily, they are not attached to them.

But they sleep with me every nite, so maybe they know I m their mum after all

 

[sweetyhomey]

I agree with Cindy, spend more time with your baby whenever you can, don't depend on the maid too much. They will be more comfortable with people who always take care of them. my friend have similar case as well, where her 6 months old baby is closer to her granny rather than her mother.

 

[chjean]

My little girl is 4 months old soon; and my maid joined me even before my girl was born. However, I only let my maid take care of my girl when I went back to work after 3 months. During my first 3 months, I breastfeed so I take care of my baby all through the 3 months, morning through night. I only moved the baby cot to maid's room the night before I was returning to work.

Even now, every night baby will cosleep in our bed (around 9pm) and when she wakes around midnight, I carry her back to her baby cot. Maid will only take care of the midnight and early morning formula feeds and during the day when I send to my MIL's.

Everyday when I come back from work, I will definitely hold my baby and care for her each and every need. (e.g. when baby wants milk, I ask maid to make but either me or hubby will feed) Do not depend on your maid for the care and concern on your baby - no matter how close, baby is not your maid's and your maid will return home one day.

Dragongirl, although you are sad, don't be disheartened, try and try, you are baby's mum after all and he will recognise you - your voice, your smell and your love. Jia you!

 

[shinely]

Hi all,

Hearing about the above forum. I was wondering is my MIL ill treat my baby. she look after my bb the whole from birth till now 8 month old. but my bb will always cry and wannted me or my hubby to carry him when we are around. he never wan drink milk if was to feed by my MIL. me and my hubby are both working, we only get with our baby every day for that an hour or 2 before he sleep, why he still prefer us and not my MIL.
Anybody can advise?