IDAAR
HUGS! Read ur post and yea lah I know where u came from coz like i said, i had a similar situation. He was staunch Buddhist, I am a Christian through and through lore. ^.^" And I would not be happy with Kae having to go temples with them, and he would not be happy if we kept the house free of religious objects of either beliefs. =p I am happier being married to someone who shares the same faith as I am I guess. =)
AH CHING
Ur suggestion on putting up for adoption… I recall I thought of doing the same thing for Kae too. =p But a part of me couldn't bear the thought of 1) taking the train and looking at every kid and wondering is that my boy? 2) having him ever feel like he was abandoned by me…
Wini, adoption is neither a good nor bad suggestion. Like I said and Ah Ching repeated, you really have to either
1) Have good family support;
2) If you don't have family support, then you must have a very strong will and determination and maturity
to pull off being a single mum. I know someone who did not have support from her family. She really really strived hard on her own. She now owns her own home, her own successful business. Her brother told me none of them thought she would be able to pull through coz she was very ill disciplined and immature. But having a kid gave her the courage, the strength, the determination to do what she has to do to give her son and herself a good future. She isn't married yet but she is very successful.
Another friend, also single mum, has no help from her family. She has 2 kids and she loves them a lot. She juggles writing and caring for her kids. She is not rolling in dough but she lives simply and is very happy. She told me a few days ago that she really grew up a lot and became more responsible when #2 came along- as #2 was a girl lah she felt even more protective of her. =) She stopped smoking and watches her purchases carefully. She makes clothes for herself and her kids, and occasionally makes stuff to sell.
These are two women who did not have family support but really have the gumption to make it good for their kids.
It is not impossible to do what they did, but you must really be determined and disciplined.
Eviangal-
I will ask him closer to January k? Need to find out what his studio schedule is like. If you ladies like to have potluck, maybe we can all chip in to order in some food, I dun mind opening my place to potluck. But I suspect all this can only be done AFTER our confinement periods and the babies settle in a little bit more hahaha.
Can't we just use ziplock bags instead of milk bags? Lol. I prob won't be freezing my milk though hahaha. Fresh all the way. I am Noah's cow. Mooomy not mummy. Hahaha - got new idea for another Mummy T-shirt le. "Noah's Moooo-my" plus pic of a milk bottle XD
Unicorn-
YES! U are not alone though I realize now what I should do is to eat a slice or two of bread and drink a glass of milk before I head off to bed. =p Eat something that will really fill the tummy up but not acidic or spicy to avoid heartburn.
Charmaine-
Eh should be able to use for longer leh. The stroller I bought is similar to the Combi one I had and I used the combo with Kae until he was quite big. After that, I made him walk. No strollers. Lol. Then whenever he felt tired, I'd carry a bit lor or we'd rest somewhere. =p I think that is why I am looking forward to getting the Manduca baby/toddler carrier at some point =p
Wish-
If have funny smell, wipe down with white vinegar and then again with warm water. And steam a few times before using.
Pootz-
Congrats! A princess! So nice! Can play dress up!! =D
LOW PLACENTA-
Will move up!!!!! (My gynae said more often than not, low lying placentas do move up later on.)
Eviangal-
I saw the steamer cum blender recently. Looks good. BTW there is an app by Braun with recipes for baby food that I blv u can also try on ur device. I already have blender and blender stick hahaha so i prob won't buy the philips thingee. It looks more convenient lah but i dun wanna buy another blender. I just have to steam in the microwave then blend lor- one more step lol.
Actually the milk tray hor… I think u can buy those by Lock and Lock or Bio dunno what ice-trays… NTUC sells them… that have airtight locks (like those containers outside). Those should also work fine? =)
Mami B-
LOL! =D I am quite new to shopping online but so far I have found quite a few good finds. =) Worth giving it a shot.
Joodz-
Adoi. Hugs! I agree with wish… maybe try diff brand of fish oil? Which brand are u taking now? Instead of drinking water, try drinking an isotonic non gassy drink like H Two O? Coz that will help replace the electrolytes lost when u puke. =) See if that will help? I won't recommend 100 plus now coz gassy can get heartburn and heartburn SUCKS big time.
Wish-
Hahaha! From first tri I already started taking: Vitamin C, Vitamin B, Calcium, Iron Folic, Salmon Omega, Multivitamin and one yakult less sugar everyday. Just started taking Protein Berry drink in Oct. Hubby keeps plying me with them coz he wants to give Noah and me the best possible nutrition. Lol. I make a breakfast shake with the Protein Berry drink and milk. I used to blend the above, except the salmon omega capsule, with the protein berry drink and milk plus yakult. =) Very nice. Healthier alternative to drinking strawberry milkshake. ^.^
BOTTLE WARMER-
Honestly, I agree that it is not a must-have although it is helpful. If your budget feels stretched, u can forgo it lah. Microwave hot water takes 30 secs to a minute. Lol. Takes a while longer, but hey before bottle warmers were the rage, the older generation managed fine that way hahaha. =) Sometimes we are so spoilt by technology hehehe. I am guilty as charged also la… =D
For thermal flask that really keeps hot water damn hot… buy the old school kind. Those China ones with the flower flower painted outside. Lol. I bought one from Tangs last time coz on sale then got Sakura painted on it, turns out it is sooooo good. Better than the electric hotpot kind of flask (super crazy electricity bills with those), better than the new fangled modern kind. The old school sort can keep the water really hot for 2 days in my experience. The modern kind, half a day cold le. =p
Idaar-
I also type in notepad coz i need to scroll the window to read all the messages hahaha. Safer also. If the web browser suddenly shuts down, what I typed is still around. Every min or so I Ctrl-A and Ctrl-C (select all and copy). I used to lose my emails/ word docs when those progs shut crashed too, so I'd do this to double protect myself hahaha.
Yup! We make the best of what we face in life. When life throws u lemon, make lemonade- as the saying goes. =)
MiMi-
Welcome! Try this- keep your feet raised up as often as possible and reduce intake of salt in your diet. =) It is water retention and doesn't necc have to be pre-eclampsia coz like Pinky said, ur gynae would have warned u about it. Don't read out of context when u google online. It's easy to scare urself. =)
Pinky-
For me the combo and cappella sized wheels are good enough le hahaha. Too big, too bulky carry le damn sian one.
BTW whenever I used to face staircases (ARGH) and no escalators or lift in sight, I would hover around with a damsel in distress look with the pram until some nice strong guy or two offers to help. ^.^ Lol.
Terrilyn-
CONGRATS! =D
Joodz-
OOOH maybe coz I take vit B since last tri so didn't face water retention this time around! I must go kiss my hubby for buying them for me hahaha.
Pootz-
Good, good! Keep it up and ur girl is so gonna be trilingual lore! Really. That's how my nieces picked up all 3 languages. =D Having said that it might not mean they are good in all 3 lah… but at least conversational in 3 and maybe good at writing in English and/or Chinese. =D Baby speak really just delays language learning so yea… speak to them like u'd speak to an adult. =)
OF COZ.. that is minus the occasional foul language though ahahaha… my friends always got to stop themselves in their tracks when they are about to go FFFffff or SSHHhh fill in the rest of the blanks urself. Lol. I shoot them the wide eyed "dun think of it" look. Kae has heard ppl cuss and swear before la to be fair, and i basically told him this on P1 first day of school- I dun care if your friend goes (beep) or (beep) or (beep beep- the hokkien one), that is their business. It gives the impression to people that they are rude or trying too hard to be cool which can be lame. So I don't want to hear you using that kind of language. If you want to cuss, you can say something else like "Oh DUNG!" or "Fishes and Anchovies!" or "O MAN!" or "SHOOTS!"... U dun have to use the exact swear words. XD