Confinement Lady URGENT
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jenny_khoo
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hi
this my confinement lady i used b4 +60126905201
u can call her
this my confinement lady i used b4 +60126905201
u can call her
Hi mummies and daddies,
I would like to warn against engaging this confinement lady, Aunty Ah Leng.
Her contact details: 60165131449 / 82507239.
I sent her back on 5th day morning. She was a last minute replacement for my original CL who helped us with our first baby who couldn't come because of family matters back home in Malaysia.
Main complaints:
i) Lousy hygiene standards - mummy had diarrhea.
ii) Insists on doing things her ways in spite of our clear instructions. e.g. inisists on feeding formula milk over expressed breast milk. Does not want to wash with wet cotton balls (for hygiene when changing baby's diapers etc).
iii) always answering back and negative comments
(mummy has no milk, baby doesn't like mummy's milk etc)
After sending her back, we learned from our Jamu lady that a mummy who she massaged in woodlands also had a lousy experience with the CL they engaged.(Turns out that they also engaged this very same confinement aunty just before us...Singapore is small, news spreads!!)
That mummy had diarrhea too and they sent her back after 3 days!!!
While we don't wish to 'break people's rice bowl', I think it's worse if we don't share the info and let other parents to go thru what we have suffered...
I would like to warn against engaging this confinement lady, Aunty Ah Leng.
Her contact details: 60165131449 / 82507239.
I sent her back on 5th day morning. She was a last minute replacement for my original CL who helped us with our first baby who couldn't come because of family matters back home in Malaysia.
Main complaints:
i) Lousy hygiene standards - mummy had diarrhea.
ii) Insists on doing things her ways in spite of our clear instructions. e.g. inisists on feeding formula milk over expressed breast milk. Does not want to wash with wet cotton balls (for hygiene when changing baby's diapers etc).
iii) always answering back and negative comments
(mummy has no milk, baby doesn't like mummy's milk etc)
After sending her back, we learned from our Jamu lady that a mummy who she massaged in woodlands also had a lousy experience with the CL they engaged.(Turns out that they also engaged this very same confinement aunty just before us...Singapore is small, news spreads!!)
That mummy had diarrhea too and they sent her back after 3 days!!!
While we don't wish to 'break people's rice bowl', I think it's worse if we don't share the info and let other parents to go thru what we have suffered...
Just want to share my bad experience with my CL. And to warn not to engage this CL by the name of Jenny. Also NEVER go through the CL by the name of Huang Tai. I know she's highly recommended in other threads, that was how I got to know about her in the first place. That time when I was looking for CL, I was rather panicky cos my baby would be delivered around cny period and everyone was telling me very difficult to find CL. I regretted not looking around for more first b4 committing to Huang Tai's recommendation. When I called Huang Tai, she said she would be engaged during cny period. And HIGHLY recommended this CL by the name of Jenny. Because I was anxious to get one, I agreed almost immediately after meeting Jenny for one time. Frankly, I didn't feel quite right after the meet up too. I think Huang tai could sense my urgency and she charged me a whopping $3600!!! I know it was cny period and having no experience at all, I tot it was the market rate and paid deposit of $500. After asking around, then I realized I have been fleeced!! It's really very costly to engage this CL.
Ok, finally my baby was delivered on 17th feb 2013 and CL came when I got discharged on 19th. Alrdy told her beforehand that I would b home on 19th, she actually reached my place at about 5pm!!! When I reached home upon discharge, so much things were done by my mum herself like cooking, preparing baby stuffs, cooking red date tea and so on. After we're done then she reach. I was so angry that I only gave her an Ang bao of $10. She actually complained to Huang Tai that I only gave $10?!!! Tot Ang bao is just a symbol? And look, I am already paying $3600!!
When I engaged Jenny, I ask Huang tai if we need to apply any work permit for her or anything. She said no need. But when Jenny came, she told us she can only stay in sg for 7 days cos she got no permit!!! Omg!! In the end, asked us to apply for her!! I'm fine w helping to apply, but there was a appn fee of $20 and if approved, the levy would cost $170!! Which means total I will be paying another extra $190!! I confronted Huang tai and she actually asked me to pay for it!!! Super angry and I said I will not pay for it. It was then I discussed w Jenny and got to find out this stupid Huang tai only give Jenny $2700. And she is getting $900 for doing NOTHING and now still asked us to pay the levy!!
We tried to apply the permit for Jenny but it failed. Huang tai said will replace one for me. Jenny would be leaving on 25th and the new one will come.
Why I say Jenny is not good.
I asked if Jenny is pro breastfeeding and Huang tai said yes. But actually she is not. And she is lazy and slow! Complained to Huang tai that she have to carry water up to 2nd level for my shower too. (She alrdy knew about it when I engaged her, so why complain now??) my milk supply is coming really slowly. Initially I had not much milk too. I wanted to persevere to give bm but she keep asking me to give fm. I was worried baby not enough to drink so I gave in. Then she always give alot and seems like she always only want to feed baby full full and let baby sleep.
There was once when baby wake up after only about 2 hours (last fed bm, which maybe not really filling). I still had some bm in the fridge then and asked her to give bm. She replied me "aiya, just give fm first la. Baby not full keep crying. Let him drink fm and let him sleep." I got really angry that time but kept to myself.
She seldom come and check on me to see if I require anything. And according to my maid, she doesn't really clean baby well. We are supposed to use cotton ball to wipe baby's eyes but she never do. And first time I hear ppl say baby shower no need to put shower gel!!!!! I asked her to put but I'm not sure if she did it. Then got one day she forgot to sun baby?!!! Grrrr....
Once I caught her touching the teats after sterilized, I told her cannot touch the teats and she face black black. Every time we say her something, she will be like she know everything and go ya lor ya lor. Eh please la, if u r doing it correctly, we won't have to remind u. So please don't give us the kind of "u know it already' reply.
There was mucus in baby's nose and she also never clean properly.
Sorry for the lengthy post. There are many more things I dislike about her and she is really not good. I m really very Sui bian already. I think the above are sufficient for u to really consider to engage her or not.
Remember! DO NOT go through Huang Tai or accept any of her recommendation. She may sound nice but she actually earns alot from the recommendation!!!! Beware and be warned!!!
Jenny : 84112847 (sg line)
: 0126795118 (Msia)
Huang tai : 83090545
Ok, finally my baby was delivered on 17th feb 2013 and CL came when I got discharged on 19th. Alrdy told her beforehand that I would b home on 19th, she actually reached my place at about 5pm!!! When I reached home upon discharge, so much things were done by my mum herself like cooking, preparing baby stuffs, cooking red date tea and so on. After we're done then she reach. I was so angry that I only gave her an Ang bao of $10. She actually complained to Huang Tai that I only gave $10?!!! Tot Ang bao is just a symbol? And look, I am already paying $3600!!
When I engaged Jenny, I ask Huang tai if we need to apply any work permit for her or anything. She said no need. But when Jenny came, she told us she can only stay in sg for 7 days cos she got no permit!!! Omg!! In the end, asked us to apply for her!! I'm fine w helping to apply, but there was a appn fee of $20 and if approved, the levy would cost $170!! Which means total I will be paying another extra $190!! I confronted Huang tai and she actually asked me to pay for it!!! Super angry and I said I will not pay for it. It was then I discussed w Jenny and got to find out this stupid Huang tai only give Jenny $2700. And she is getting $900 for doing NOTHING and now still asked us to pay the levy!!
We tried to apply the permit for Jenny but it failed. Huang tai said will replace one for me. Jenny would be leaving on 25th and the new one will come.
Why I say Jenny is not good.
I asked if Jenny is pro breastfeeding and Huang tai said yes. But actually she is not. And she is lazy and slow! Complained to Huang tai that she have to carry water up to 2nd level for my shower too. (She alrdy knew about it when I engaged her, so why complain now??) my milk supply is coming really slowly. Initially I had not much milk too. I wanted to persevere to give bm but she keep asking me to give fm. I was worried baby not enough to drink so I gave in. Then she always give alot and seems like she always only want to feed baby full full and let baby sleep.
There was once when baby wake up after only about 2 hours (last fed bm, which maybe not really filling). I still had some bm in the fridge then and asked her to give bm. She replied me "aiya, just give fm first la. Baby not full keep crying. Let him drink fm and let him sleep." I got really angry that time but kept to myself.
She seldom come and check on me to see if I require anything. And according to my maid, she doesn't really clean baby well. We are supposed to use cotton ball to wipe baby's eyes but she never do. And first time I hear ppl say baby shower no need to put shower gel!!!!! I asked her to put but I'm not sure if she did it. Then got one day she forgot to sun baby?!!! Grrrr....
Once I caught her touching the teats after sterilized, I told her cannot touch the teats and she face black black. Every time we say her something, she will be like she know everything and go ya lor ya lor. Eh please la, if u r doing it correctly, we won't have to remind u. So please don't give us the kind of "u know it already' reply.
There was mucus in baby's nose and she also never clean properly.
Sorry for the lengthy post. There are many more things I dislike about her and she is really not good. I m really very Sui bian already. I think the above are sufficient for u to really consider to engage her or not.
Remember! DO NOT go through Huang Tai or accept any of her recommendation. She may sound nice but she actually earns alot from the recommendation!!!! Beware and be warned!!!
Jenny : 84112847 (sg line)
: 0126795118 (Msia)
Huang tai : 83090545
blackangel1512
Active Member
hi mummies,
Last year June i engaged Aunty Lilian as my confinement lady and i nearly get post natal depression.
Auntie lilian seems to be full of energy initially but then as time goes by, she reveals her true self.
Below are my complaints towards her:
Maybe I too chin cai & didn't state my conditions when she came, she took things for granted.
Everyday she will order food from my MIL (because my MIL wants to buy fresh food for me everyday), then she starts to order lots of ingredients whereby it is not easy to find and she expects my MIL to go find it. She has a SOP and if one ingredient is missing, she doesn't know how to cook the dish or cannot think of other substitute ingredient or cook something else. And her demands start to grow till I pissed off and told her to cook with whatever she has, and she can tell me that all these ingredients are not exp & I told her $ not an issue, I don't want my house to left so many ingredients when u leave.
She also insists to have certain pots, bowls, plates, containers and etc. I already have at home and still not up to her standard. She starts telling us to buy or ask my MIL to bring hers over. My MIL purposely bought a new pot and yet she complained the material too thin and actually the existing pot better. If that is the case, she shouldn't ask us to buy in the first place. And she requested for a bigger bowl and my SIL bought 1 and she broke it on the first day when washing it and she even said the bowl my SIL bought too thin.
I already bought lock lock containers to keep my sterilized bottles and she complained it is not big enough, my hubby decides to buy 1 bigger 1 and when she sees it she said the container is good but my hubby should have bought two, I was so pissed off and told her 1 container cost me $50 and can't you use the existing 1?
She also insists to have dethol hand wash as she said it's better for baby but yet she nv use it. And she told us her hands were very sensitive and she needs to wear gloves and can only use baby shower foam.
After washing my baby's backside, she just simply leave the diapers in the toilet and nv clear them. And one occasion, I noticed she pees and nv flush.
She also eat my food without asking for permission, and during the night time, she wakes up and eat biscuits or bread and never clean the table, leaving all the crumbs on the table.
She also very forgetful, two accounts she left my stove on and went to take an afternoon nap and burnt my frying pan.
She likes to give instructions and she herself nv follow, she tells us that a particular container is for putting dirty bottles but she puts the clean ones inside and I questioned her and she said she forgotten and tells me now the container is for putting clean bottles.
She also wash my breast pump till she lost the diagpham and later I found it in the dustbin.
Her stay with us (3 weeks till date), she spoiled my toilet door, choked my toilet sewage pipe twice, she is so rough that she keeps on banging my kitchen drawers and cabinets, my kitchen just renovated last yr and now the drawers and cabinets doors were loose.
As she is sleeping with my gal, she keeps on asking me to on the air con but as I don't want my gal to sleep in air con room, I put two fans in my gal room. One for auntie lilian and other for my gal, but she uses two fans for herself. On one account, she woke me up and said my gal is too hot. My hubby checked and realised that she off my gal's fan, when questioned her, she said because my gal is sensitive to fan and needs air con.
My gal develop nappy rashes and I gave her desitin nappy rash cream (blue) and she applied for only 2 days and said it couldn't work and ask me to buy a better nappy rash cream, so I bought the stronger one (purple). After applying, my gal backside clear in 1 day and she said the cream is good. The next day her rashes came back and she told me my gal is allergic to the rash cream!! I was pissed off and told her didn't it works when we applied that day, she replied me saying I not a doc, don't know what ingredients in the nappy rash cream. So I told my gal to a PD and PD said my girl no allergy and in fact she should apply the cream every time she changes my gal.
As breastmilk is easily digest, my gal poos almost every feed, as she is lazy to clean my gal, she told me to give my gal formula milk to harden her poos.
And every feed, she increases my daughter milk supply, within a week, she increases 30ml to 90ml and I got pissed off and told her to reduce as she is over feeding my gal. Especially in the night, in order got herself to sleep, she feels my gal 120ml in 1 & a half hour!
On a few occasions, my gal cries and she is taking her afternoon nap, she heard my gal cries and she just woke up and told me to breastfeed her and she went back to zzz.
At night also, she simply pass my gal to me for breastfeeding and she went back to zzz till I got pissed off lately and woke her up to burp my gal so I can go back and zzz.
This is really a very bad experience for me.
Last year June i engaged Aunty Lilian as my confinement lady and i nearly get post natal depression.
Auntie lilian seems to be full of energy initially but then as time goes by, she reveals her true self.
Below are my complaints towards her:
Maybe I too chin cai & didn't state my conditions when she came, she took things for granted.
Everyday she will order food from my MIL (because my MIL wants to buy fresh food for me everyday), then she starts to order lots of ingredients whereby it is not easy to find and she expects my MIL to go find it. She has a SOP and if one ingredient is missing, she doesn't know how to cook the dish or cannot think of other substitute ingredient or cook something else. And her demands start to grow till I pissed off and told her to cook with whatever she has, and she can tell me that all these ingredients are not exp & I told her $ not an issue, I don't want my house to left so many ingredients when u leave.
She also insists to have certain pots, bowls, plates, containers and etc. I already have at home and still not up to her standard. She starts telling us to buy or ask my MIL to bring hers over. My MIL purposely bought a new pot and yet she complained the material too thin and actually the existing pot better. If that is the case, she shouldn't ask us to buy in the first place. And she requested for a bigger bowl and my SIL bought 1 and she broke it on the first day when washing it and she even said the bowl my SIL bought too thin.
I already bought lock lock containers to keep my sterilized bottles and she complained it is not big enough, my hubby decides to buy 1 bigger 1 and when she sees it she said the container is good but my hubby should have bought two, I was so pissed off and told her 1 container cost me $50 and can't you use the existing 1?
She also insists to have dethol hand wash as she said it's better for baby but yet she nv use it. And she told us her hands were very sensitive and she needs to wear gloves and can only use baby shower foam.
After washing my baby's backside, she just simply leave the diapers in the toilet and nv clear them. And one occasion, I noticed she pees and nv flush.
She also eat my food without asking for permission, and during the night time, she wakes up and eat biscuits or bread and never clean the table, leaving all the crumbs on the table.
She also very forgetful, two accounts she left my stove on and went to take an afternoon nap and burnt my frying pan.
She likes to give instructions and she herself nv follow, she tells us that a particular container is for putting dirty bottles but she puts the clean ones inside and I questioned her and she said she forgotten and tells me now the container is for putting clean bottles.
She also wash my breast pump till she lost the diagpham and later I found it in the dustbin.
Her stay with us (3 weeks till date), she spoiled my toilet door, choked my toilet sewage pipe twice, she is so rough that she keeps on banging my kitchen drawers and cabinets, my kitchen just renovated last yr and now the drawers and cabinets doors were loose.
As she is sleeping with my gal, she keeps on asking me to on the air con but as I don't want my gal to sleep in air con room, I put two fans in my gal room. One for auntie lilian and other for my gal, but she uses two fans for herself. On one account, she woke me up and said my gal is too hot. My hubby checked and realised that she off my gal's fan, when questioned her, she said because my gal is sensitive to fan and needs air con.
My gal develop nappy rashes and I gave her desitin nappy rash cream (blue) and she applied for only 2 days and said it couldn't work and ask me to buy a better nappy rash cream, so I bought the stronger one (purple). After applying, my gal backside clear in 1 day and she said the cream is good. The next day her rashes came back and she told me my gal is allergic to the rash cream!! I was pissed off and told her didn't it works when we applied that day, she replied me saying I not a doc, don't know what ingredients in the nappy rash cream. So I told my gal to a PD and PD said my girl no allergy and in fact she should apply the cream every time she changes my gal.
As breastmilk is easily digest, my gal poos almost every feed, as she is lazy to clean my gal, she told me to give my gal formula milk to harden her poos.
And every feed, she increases my daughter milk supply, within a week, she increases 30ml to 90ml and I got pissed off and told her to reduce as she is over feeding my gal. Especially in the night, in order got herself to sleep, she feels my gal 120ml in 1 & a half hour!
On a few occasions, my gal cries and she is taking her afternoon nap, she heard my gal cries and she just woke up and told me to breastfeed her and she went back to zzz.
At night also, she simply pass my gal to me for breastfeeding and she went back to zzz till I got pissed off lately and woke her up to burp my gal so I can go back and zzz.
This is really a very bad experience for me.
Hi may I know what's aunt Lilian contact number? I am about to engage an aunty Lilian for confinement who sounded quie promising over the phone..
Mommy_Justice
Member
*Hugs* it must have been a traumatic experience for you. Frankly, you could have sack her and get a replacement. Feedback to her company! Confinement should be a stress-free and enjoyable period, no point paying and get suffering instead.