2 under 2years old

[houseoflove]

Hi mummies, anyone can share experiences of how to handle two kids at one go if both are under 2years old? I am around 3months pregnant and my baby only 8months old. He will only be 15months old when the new baby arrives. Anyone can advise on sleeping arrangements? I am abit sad i will not be able to devote my attention to my 1st and he is so young only with alot of milestones to go..will he be sad that mummy is not only his mummy anymore? Will he understand he will be kor kor when 2nd is out? Should i opt for maid, nanny or ifc for the 1st? Currently my mum is looking after my 1st when i go to work but for sure she will not be able to handle 2babies alone.

 

[Mammypok0]

I'm eager to know too!

 

[agaga]

Not easy to handle 2 young kids. Especially the elder one is abt 2yo. My 3rd bb was delivered when the elder one was 23mths old. She needs alot of attention and her antics is always draining my energy so I think terrible-two is here especially she has a new sibling. I was taking care of both kiddos as we sleep in the same room ever since came home from hospital. So confinement means no much rest also. Although very tired everyday but I do feel very contented to have these healthy lovely kids.

 

[starrymommy]

I conceived #2 when my elder girl was 3 mths old. they were supposed to be exactly a year apart in age gap, but #2 was born pre-maturely when my elder girl was only 10 months old. 2 kids under 1 year old... I could tear my hair out. was also like you then, very scared and worried about child care arrangements.

I would suggest you hire a maid or engage a nanny (a better option than maid, IMO) for your elder boy, then try to enrol him into CC by 16 mths old. by right at 16mths, should still be in IFC, but my elder girl managed to be allowed into Playgroup then. this kind of thing can appeal, no harm trying! and don't worry about your boy feeling left out. kids adapt very fast! especially if he is in school, he would be quite occupied and happy there. just focus on resting and making sure both you and baby are healthy. anything else can always worry later, since there really isn't any end to all these worrying for us mummies!

if you need a good maid agency contact, can PM me. 2 of my colleagues and I have been engaging this maid agent and we find very good and responsible. the maids she has are also good, no issues for us so far, as she will screen through the selection herself before sending us the profiles and set up interviews etc.

 

[queenie08]

I delivered my 2nd when my first was 22months old.
Tough times ahead. But stay positive.
IMO - getting a maid helps a lot in terms of house work. So when u get back from work its just the kids.
Agree with starrymommy on cc. Helps your older one to be more independent and having his own frens help.
Your older one will definitely be jealous. No doubt. Have to always assure him. Best way will be have daddy involved.
The best thing that came out of having the kids age so close is that daddy has learn to play an important role in both the children's life.