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I guess everyone has a different story, mine escalated to physical abuse.. this was traumatizing for boths kids and i.. i strongly discourage staying for the kids, once they grow up they will understand, as for now, do the best for them, talk to them, spend time with them, let them know, etc...

Uncontested divorce should take about 4 months. But if ure talking about living arrangements then its between you and your ex.. if its difficult facing each other, you can always ask friends or family for help, consider renting a room too.

Im sorry you didnt had the perfect family and this happened to you, but the mindset built in you isnt ideal, unhappy marriage isnt healthy, it will turn abusive and thats the last thing you want your kids to witness. You felt complete when they dont quarrel, but thats only your perception. Why...

Get tested. Im sorry but hes been hiding this since courtship? Immediately no, please wake up, its okay to rebuild your life after a failed marriage, its not okay to continue the deceit and lies, set all of you free including your kids, see.. you can never run away from the truth. I can never...

Sorry to hear about this, unfortunately yes women are always at the losing end, toughen up, leave him and love yourself :) u will be able to get back what u have contributed, once a man has a change of heart very unlikely he will come back to u, its only how u are going to accept this one sided...

U work and contributed to the matrimonial house or have savings/joint acct? Should be 50/50, just watch his behaviors and decide. No kids is a blessing, just run. Its easy when theres no kids.

U need to watch his change in behaviors, and decide if you wanna hire PI on him. Then his actions will decide his consequences..? U both have any kids?

If u have her workpermit number thats all they need, dont need fin number, your PI should be able to get her wp number. There are ways.

Babe, study his behaviours and time to rewire your life. If need be i would suggest divorce, in a healthy marriage no husband will say he needs or wants freedom. Trust me, he is either living a double life or has someone or something occupying him. Learn to let go and love yourself, do know that...

Are u be able to get a restraining order? Since he is abusive.. try to get a ppo and take all evidence

Ok is really unheard of that your own lawyer agrees to it and not fight on what he had done to you as well? U should ask yr lawyer babe.. that shld be the professional help u need.

Sorry he filed for divorce based on what grounds?

Ok although i noticed the post was created since 2018, but just want to clarify that since you mention to fix things in the marriage, the husband could easily ask the wife to be more intimate as well, but he decided to look out instead of in, so do consider all these factors before saying the...

I too is in this shame shituation, im embarrassed to say, i too thought staying was the best option for my kids, im so wrong.. the more i stayed only made him know how to hide and fabricate more lies to deceive me, and each time i found out, he gets more abusive.. stay woke my ladies.. its...

Good for you, sorry didnt read the entire thread, but what are the consequences if the other party finds out? Whats gonna happen? Because i do wanna understand as well. Say if your husband wants to divorce?

Please pm me to join this group, i need to understand why

O god this.. i have to pretend to continue like nothing has happened. We need to stay strong..

He wasnt like that at all before the kids are here.. i was still indenial couldnt accept this has happened. During the day, he is the best dad and husband but by night ktv worshipper.. im so traumatized now.. panick attacks everyday.

I just confronted him, so i guess more or less he will be very wary and cautious this period, i think i will wait awhile and hire a pi for that.. thanks for the reply.. felt damn ashame that i have to deal with this now.

After my incident i have lost trust in him.. not saying that you should, but u should check his phone regularly after this. I regretted giving him too much freedom.. im not the same person anymore.. i felt like its all too late, i have kids with him..