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Charis (chara)
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Posted on Wednesday, February 08, 2006 - 6:45 pm:

Hi ladies...

I would like to find out about your miscarriages stories..I just had a miscarriage & would like some encouragement & advice so I can move on..
Hope it will benefit others in similar situations.

One question i am very eager to know is there anyone who opted for a natural m/c without a D n C procedure?

Thank u.

zhuzhu (zhuzhu)
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Posted on Wednesday, February 08, 2006 - 9:55 pm:

Hi Charis
You can go to this thread "support group - Miscarriage"
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/5/22127.html?1139406574

We are all there to encourage each other

Adelynn (may2004mom)
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Posted on Thursday, February 16, 2006 - 3:14 pm:

Dear Charis,
I can understand your pain and emotions now becos I had 4 miscarriages and 1 ectopic pregnancy which needed emergency operation over a spread of 4 years of TCC. But I never give up!

I conceived naturally, with some hormonal support right from ovulation till end of first trimester, and finally delivered my daughter in May 2004.

I had tried think positive and hold my belief that I will become a mother one day but I just need to be patient for that day to come.

I know that it is a very difficult time that you're going thru' and no words can ease your pain. I had been thru' it myself painfully. But take heart that God loves you and wants you and hubby to have a healthy child. I am sure that your prayers will be answered by GOD with a beautiful child.

Cheer up.

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Thursday, February 16, 2006 - 4:24 pm:

hi charis,

im really sorry abt wat u went thru, i know how painful it mus be as i oso had a m/c late last nov. 3 boys..1 at 20 weeks and the remaining 2 at 23 weeks coz of incompetent cervix and infection which made me go into labour.

i delivered all 3 naturally and didnt need a d & c. this was my 1st pregnancy thru IVF after trying many fertility treatments for 3 years..i still grieve for them at times but as time goes by, the pain lessens gradually..

i am trying IVF again this mth and though im very frightened tat i will either not get a positive sign or tat i will lose another child, my desire to be a mother gives me strength to carry on.. as adelynn mentioned, i tell myself i have to be paitient and belief tat i will be a mum one day as well.

dun give up and take care of urself. let us know if u need a listening ear.

Adelynn (may2004mom)
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Post Number: 135
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Posted on Friday, February 17, 2006 - 10:13 am:

Dear puipui,

I am terribly sorry for your loss too.

I share your fear of getting pregnant again, different from other healthy and trouble-free mums.......esp. I had experienced ectopic once and almost in life threatening situation.

But somehow my strong will-power overcome the fear and braved it thru to try again. And I'm proud that I did it!

I'm glad that you're still thinking positive and continue to hold your belief to try again.

I look forward to receiving your good news one day.

Go, go, Jia You!

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Saturday, February 18, 2006 - 9:15 pm:

Hi pui pui & adelynn...

Thank you for sharing your m/c story..& encouragement..

I jus went thru natural m/c last week...I opted for NO DNC..it was painful but i overcame with GOD's grace. I know my BABY's in heaven, so its a wonderful comfort & life goes on..

I do want to try again but not so soon...will let womb recover first.

Thank u again.

Liz Tan (liztan)
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Posted on Sunday, February 19, 2006 - 5:51 am:

hi Puipui
glad to see you in this thread, i didn't know you have 3 m/c before, you are very strong, and certainly Adelynn and many others...

I have 2 m/c myself. I am just wondering why are there so many of us having m/c these days???!!! What's happening? During my mother's time, it is never heard of. Even my 2 sisters have no such record, why me/us???? As for my peers, so far I know there are 4 of us have m/c before. I'm born in the 70s. Has it got to do with something of this generation??

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Sunday, February 19, 2006 - 4:45 pm:

Hi liz...

I have 2 wonderful booklets given to me jus after my m/c..I believe its GOD-send..Cos i had same qns...n gynaes dont always hv the answers..These booklets did somehow gave convincing answers at least for me.

If u r really interested to know do let me know, mayb i could lend it to u or zap it or find out how u can get it..But both booklets r quite spiritual..therefore its not jus for anybody, unless u r really seeking for truth. So let me know.

Take care.

Liz Tan (liztan)
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Posted on Sunday, February 19, 2006 - 9:26 pm:

hi Charis
thanks for your offer. The explaination given in the booklet are they all spiritual or medical?
Would love to see the booklet, coz I am contemplating for another preg, but so scared. Problem is, I'm in UK now, maybe wait till I return to singapore... but can share a bit in this forum?

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Monday, February 20, 2006 - 11:15 am:

Hi liz..

I emphatised with yr loss & yr fear to conceive again. I wish I hve words to encourage u..but dont wish to say words tat r empty or things which everyone say..I only can tell u that my believe in GOD gives me hope & comfort.. I wish the same hope & comfort for u.

One booklet is from the Medical Institute of AMercica, which gives both medical & spiritual insights.. America used to have stanch spiritual(Christian) principles in their country, even now many doctors still adopt spiritual principles with medical benefits eg circumcision of babies.

THe other booklet is titled 'Jesse', is abt a mother's loss in m/c, beautiful & heartwarming..she had a vision that her son is in heaven, there is a place for babies in heaven, aborted or miscarried, stillborn, died in accidents, etc. It was a comfort to me when I went thru my m/c, which was jus happened 2 weeks back.

Another book that u can look out for is 'Free to grief' by Maureen Rank. Its abt healing & encouragement for those who hve suffered miscarriage & stillbirth.

'Free to grief' im still reading..

I'll try to share certain pts to u here soon ok..im still recovering from my m/c.

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Monday, February 20, 2006 - 12:37 pm:

hi gals,

thanks very much for ur support..hi liz, surprised to see u here as well. r u stayin in uk for long term? yes, i certainly pray that all of us will continue to be strong and be mothers soon.

charis, im oso very eager to try again..my gyne at kkh advised me to wait 6 mths b4 going thru ivf again..but i saw 2 other drs and both said i can try after 3 mths..so i will be starting my ivf next week..

actually its better not to have a d&c if necessary..i heard that the process actually scrapes off our lining..so i found it very invasive..i oso had no anesthetic when i delivered cause my back had problem administering the spinal tap or epidural..it was indeed very painful.

but i was very upset with the way kkh handled my miscarriage..they left me alone in the room over an hour with my hubby and told him to call them only when he see our baby head coming out as they were too bz with other paitients..there were also alot of other bad things which happened that night that the kkh staff caused.

i have been very depressed by it and finally decided to make a complaint..they apologised and said will investigate but its been a week now and no reply..anyway my hubby ask me to move on and not dwell in the past..so im letting go..i know our babies are in heaven now..just pray that we will all be strong and have no fear abt wat the future may bring..

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Monday, February 20, 2006 - 2:42 pm:

hi puipui...

I saw u in another thread n u mentioned abt yr triplets..Im so sorry for yr loss..i know wat u r going thru...n i know its worse that the hospital were not sensitive..

I had a similar expce w 2 gynaes when i was confirming my baby's condition..the jus say its normal to m/c, u can try again etc..even my mum in law n some frens say that. One gynae didnt even take the time to explain the m/c to us...He jus said want to do DNC or not?

So i had my m/c at home w my hubby by my side, no docs, no hospitals, no painkillers, tat was our decision w much prayer of cos. I thank GOD i came out fine, n i have hope in my grief.

Dear ladies..

OUr society views m/c as a taboo..even in medical they use the terms like fetus, not baby...But they dont realise it is baby inside us that we lost..although we hve not seen them, not pics of them, no schools, no memories BUT our hearts grief when they r gone...

Its ok to grief..It is a progress to closure then u move on w yr life..I am still in the process of grief of the loss of my baby, my hubby also said close n move on..But we the mothers need to grief..Talk abt it to someone if u can. When we stifle our grief n say its ok, the pain will only come back..so do grief or cry, n talk abt it. Then close the chapter n move on w life, n w GOD..

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Monday, February 20, 2006 - 5:12 pm:

hi charis,

im really sad for u as well, it mus have been very painful both physically and emotionally. but u r very brave and at least u have ur hubby support..my friens and relatives oso said the same thing but i rather they not say anything..they expect me to carry on with my life as normal and are always asking so many questions..i find it very irritating instead though they may say its out of concern..

i made it a point to search for a good dr and am glad that my new gyne is extremely understanding and paitient..he has given me much confidence to try again..i think u should do the same..so that if u get pregnant again, u know who u can turn to..it oso helps that they monitor ur condition to ensure that u have fully recovered just like what my this gyne is doing..

i used to grief for them alot in the past but i have moved on now..i just feel sad sometimes cause they look so much like my husband and me..we have stored their ashes in our church so every week we can drop by to 'see' them. but as u said, they will always be in our hearts..we have to carry on with our lives and try again..i really hope that u will recover soon and try again.

galleria (galleria)
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Posted on Monday, February 20, 2006 - 9:27 pm:

hi puipui80 & charis,

read thru the thread & heard abt yr stories, feeling very sad & can understand that m/c is a painful thing.

my friend also have a m/c last yr cause she is stress with work & part studies. After the incident, she went to c chinese physician to 'tian yang' the body and abt 1/2 yr later she told me she is pregnant & now given birth to a healthy bb girl.

seeing how u all have the determination to conceive, i believe u all will be mummies one day....

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 11:10 am:

THanks galleria..

Yup extreme stress can cause m/c, contrary to wat most gynaes or medical research say.

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 11:23 am:

Hi puipui..

THanks for sharing so much..

Its really good that u've grieved & moved on..Its ok to still think of them. I understand how u feel..i think of my baby too..n i think i'll still think of him once in a while next time. My hubby too buried our baby n gave him a name(we believe our bb is a boy), on a hill in front of our HDB flat, although we couldnt really make out his form cos my amniotic sac was still intact when i m/c. My young sis in law read out Psalm 139 for the mini funeral. I couldnt be there cos i was too weak after the m/c. But it shows to us n others that we indeed lost a baby not jus some mass of blood or fetus, n serves as a closure.

So which gynae r u seeing? Any recommendations? Christian gynaes u know? I've seen 3 gynaes..i prefer not to go back to any of them.

Catherine Wong (natea)
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Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 11:32 am:

charis,
i got M/C b4 my this pregnancy... i did not know tat i am pregnant at all only after i got a huge pain and admitted to hospital then i know i have a miscarriage... dun be sad ok?
m/c does not mean u are unable to get pregnant again... after m/c 2 mths later i got pregnant again..... and now my baby in my tummy is healthy.. most important u got to eat proper food to get back ur healthy and strengthen ur womb.....so that next pregnancy u won't easily M/C

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 12:13 pm:

hi gals,

thanks for ur support and encouragement.i have been extremely worried that i will fail at my 2nd attempt in ivf next mth..somehow my expectations are very high cause i did so well in the first..so im not prepared for the disppointment if i dun succeed. i have been feeling alot of wind in my tummy despite all the post natal massage, chinese herbs and ginger..now the doc say i got sm scar tissue in my womb which was never mentioned to me before..so im going for accupunture, hopefully tat will help 'bu' my womb.

charis - im seeing dr lc foong at gleneagles..he's the 1st doc tat seems so nice and sympathetic. he even told me tat he knows my eagerness to do ivf so tat i can move on with my life but he wants to make sure i fully recover before my attempt cause he doesnt want to lower my chances of conceiving just by rushing it..so i feel tat im in good hands.. im sure he does routine gyne as well but i tink he is more of a fertility specialist..u can always try asking, not sure if he's a christian?

who were ur previous gynes? i oso saw a few last time, but all not very good. i didnt know gyne was very important so was very complacent..anyway lesson learnt..

u were very brave charis, to go thru so much at home..i wish i had the same chance to do so. the hospital made us feel tat our babies were only a piece of meat waiting to be discarded..very angry with them. they also kept saying fetus like they are not our babies. sigh, ur baby knows tat u love him and he will always be in ur heart. u must take care of ur health.. just remember tat u made an angel for god :-)

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 1:01 pm:

Hi catherine & pui pui..

Thanks for encouragement..Im doin fine at home..Im doin freelance work so i didnt need MC, so i jus as much at home, so far 1 1/2 weeks resting..eating well...but right after m/c i lost the weight i put on during my 2 months pregnancy! But dont worry, my mum in law hve been cooking confinement kind of food so far..so in gd hands.

Pui pui...Was scary expce believe me..jus went thru w GOD's grace, I remember HIS promise tat HE'll see me thru..but i ws very scared..n so ws my hubby!

U still hve wind? Mayb u can check w gynae or GP why u hve tat. I also had very bad wind despite the confinement food, n tonics..but its much better now..I think we shldnt take too much ginger..everything in moderation actually.

I sw YC GOH at thomson plaza first, then went TAN YG i think who's the senior gynae at Raffles H, his fees r too ex. Then Dr. Fong Chuan Wee (Fong Clinic for women)@gleanegles but I think not the same one u r seeing. Will look ard mayb someone in tis forum has a recommendation.

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 1:05 pm:

hey pui pui...Its ok to be angry...I was too. BUT remember yr 3 boys r in heaven so take comfort n smile for them..they r doin wonderful in GOD's hands..i truly believe so. Will remember u in my prayers.

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 12:17 am:

thks charis..i actually wrote a formal complaint last week..didnt want to but i felt that it was important to highlight their faults so tat no women should undergo the same trauma..anyway they called to apologise and clarify wat happened.. i told them that i dun wan anything in return but i hope that their staff be more sensitive and have more training in handling such matters..

thanks for ur support..will pray for u as well. u take care of urself..god said he wun make any women barren and i knw certain things are jus god's plan..

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 11:36 am:

Hi puipui

Oic...yup i guess its gd that u wrote to them..at least its off yr chest..no more burdens.

Ya i truly want to believe that too..That MY GOD is good, n HE has a blessing in store for me n hubby...So recover n TTC again right?!

Take care puipui...U must tell me when u r tyring again w yr IVF..Actually my hope for u that u wont need IVF, but u can conceive naturally n carry to term. Remember to tell me the gd news ok.

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 4:12 pm:

hi charis,

really thanks for ur support, i oso wish i can conceive naturally..my husband says im only 26 and still have so many years ahead so shouldnt worry so much.

but im very kan cheong cause i have been trying since im 22 and still no result. so since our 1st attemp ivf gave us hope, im hoping it will be for the 2nd attempt. will let ya knw if have any good news, hahah..u too okie? take care! :-)

galleria (galleria)
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Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 9:40 pm:

hi puipui80,

I am just curious, u are only 26yrs, now is yr most fertile period, y u going for IVF?? Please don be offended. I am just curious, but if u are not willing to say is ok.

What yr hubby say is right, u will have good news, just don to give yourself too much stress & pressure.

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Thursday, February 23, 2006 - 9:54 am:

hi galleria,

i went to see fertility specialists when i turned 23, 1 year after ttc. i had abnormal periods, every 2 to 3 mths cm once. took a number of fertility drugs over 2 years but always resistant to them, just couldnt ovulate well. we changed a number of doctors during this period. finally went to kkh at the last resort and doc advised ivf cause my hubby sperm the rate of normal shape very low. so had to do icsi instead, another form of ivf.

thanks, i really hope that i can conceive naturally in the future..i was very close to giving birth to healthy baby if not for my cervix..so hopefully, now i know my diagnosis, a better doc can help me to look after my next pregnancy.

Charis (chara)
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Posted on Thursday, February 23, 2006 - 4:31 pm:

hi puipui.

I'll remember u in prayer rgd tt..getting a gd gynae.

I heard of the procedure..stitch the opening of the cervix..w purse like string..forgot wats it called..It could help u in yr next pregnancy cos it prevents the cervix from dilating early. Check w gynae ok. GOD bless.

Jasmine (pearlein)
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Posted on Monday, February 27, 2006 - 2:21 pm:

hi ladies, you all may wan to go to our support group -miscarriages under the subj header: matters of the heart.
chat with u more when ur there.. take care.

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Wednesday, March 01, 2006 - 7:34 pm:

hi gals,

im quite surprised tat kkh took my complaint seriously abt how 2 of their staff handled my m/c..i always had a bad impression of them but am glad tat they had followed up on wat i said..they had also sent a hamper as a means of thanking for sharing my experience..doesnt mean much but i guess it was a thoughtful gesture.

galleria (galleria)
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Posted on Wednesday, March 01, 2006 - 7:44 pm:

hi puipui80,

Is good that they take it seriously, if they don improve, no one will go there for delivery...

puipui80 (puipui80)
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 9:20 am:

hi galleria,

u r so rite..jus hope that they wun let such things befall on other women and improve from there..well, now i can just concentrate on my ivf :-)

Qian Hui (qianhui)
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Posted on Thursday, March 30, 2006 - 5:10 pm:

Hi,

How to know if one got miscarriage or not?

I've got lazy bowels, and my mum last sat and sun gave me some kind of chinese herbal drink - 'either know as slimming tea or laxative kind of tea'

I felt sharp pain for like 2-3 days and once a while.

My period was supposed to be last week, but til now not here yet and I need to get up at 3am to go urinate for a few day liao.

May I know if drinking the tea will cause miscarriage? (the tea package does say not to consume if pregnant) but I got no idea that time coz my period was around there, plus my breast was swollen like I'm going to have my period.

Hai.. so xian now.

Also hor, does anyone knows whether rebonding and perming the hair will cause anything bad to baby?

So sorry, I'm just so blur coz no one teaches me. I'm jus trying to find out more from the forum now..

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Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 11:40 pm:

testing

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Posted on Sunday, May 21, 2006 - 11:58 pm:

Hi ladies

I had 2 miscarriages (one in Aug 2005 and one just 2 weeks ago) ... I am sure those who been thru m/c will truly understand when I say it�s difficult... my tears just drop uncontrollably

Does any lady know of any good gynae? I got lots of recommendation for gynae but those are from ladies that have smooth sailing pregnancies. How abt gynae those really look into your m/c problem and give good advice?

Any ladies here actually have progesterone during your pregnancy? Do any of your gynae suggest hormone injection to support your pregnancy?

Thanks � in need of advice.

Odie (odie)
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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 10:13 am:

Hi Remy,

I had one miscarriage so we didn't really look into the reason why... but I like my gynae. I find that he is sympathetic towards my situation because his wife went through 3 stillborns and he probably understands better.

I was prescribed some pills during the early stage of my 2nd pregnancy. I can't recall the name but I believe it was progesterone. He gave me Vit E as well.

Male gynae though... if you are ok with that let me know. I will PM you his details.

In the meantime... please take care of yourself.

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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 12:02 pm:

Hi Odie

Thanks ... Thinking of seeing Dr Henry Cheng at Bishan, may I have your gynae name? Thinking of changing my gynae. My mum keep thinking that I got no "yuan" with my present gynae ...

teenie (teenie)
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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 12:44 pm:

Hi Remy

I have 2 mc before & now I finally conceive a bb recently.
Usually mc most gynaes will not look into the problem too much as its v common & if too detailed will add stress to yr ttc journey
at first i also do not understand bt later I realise sometimes mc is unexplainable, bt when you are preggie, gynae will help you to support yr pregnancy tt's the most impt
I was given 2types of injections, one is self inject & another type is hormone based I know they are hormone jabs to help me support my pregnancy & I also on the pills

my gynae is prof ng soon chye

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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 1:33 pm:

Hi Remy,

My gynae is Dr Lim Teck Chye from Tow Yung Clinic.

Remy (remy)
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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 1:39 pm:

Hi Teenie

Congrats, how many mths are you now?

Do you actually avoid ultrascan for the first 8 weeks? My sis actually suggest that I don't have the scan for the first 8 weeks cos it's too small for the gynae to have any conclusion anyways. I read lots of books on miscarriage recently (to find answers, but as you mentioned, there's no explaination). Some books did suggest that we should avoid it in first 3mths.

Self inject? Oh gosh ... where is your gynae clinic? Is he/she good?

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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 1:40 pm:

Hi Odie

Thanks ... you have tel/add for Dr Lim?

Odie (odie)
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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 4:03 pm:

Tel: 6737 4433.

It is at Tanglin Shopping Centre. Sorry I can't recall the unit off-hand.

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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 4:48 pm:

Hi Remy, I had a miscarriage at Wk 21 last year. I understand how u feel and I have just successfully given birth to my gal this March. I like my gynae becoz she is sympathetic twds my situation and has given me alot of encouragement and support I needed badly for this pregnancy. Sad to say, for a lot of m/c the reasons are unknown, I was given hormone pills, forgot the name in 1st trimester and mild aspirin in the 2nd trimester, my gynae can only watch me very closely in the 2nd trimester. If physically u are well, a positive mindset is important in order to go through the next pregnancy and my gynae has constantly made me feel good about this pregnancy. She is Dr Soon Siew Bee from Mt E

Remy (remy)
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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 11:10 pm:

Thanks Odie.

Hi Droopy

Thanks for the encouragement. Week 21 is late, you must have been thru a very difficult period. How old are you then? I'm 32 this year.

When did you take your first scan for your 2nd pregnancy? Did your gynae scan you as early as 4-5weeks?

I took hormone pills and aspirin too, but it did not prevent the m/c. Do you actually change your diet, do more exercise after your first lost?

teenie (teenie)
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Posted on Monday, May 22, 2006 - 11:57 pm:

Hi Remy
Thks, my boy is now 2mths plus.

Actually for my first pregnancy I went to scan very early end up cannot see anything & i was so stressed went bk to gynae almost every wk & until I mc naturally (this one is w another gynae at Jurong Pt)
second time I was recommended to prof ng, fm the ist experience I decided to go later, very happy can see the dot in the right place but end up it didn't grow but luckily I didn't have to go through D&C like most gals do, prof ng told me its cheaper also less invasive to insert pill & flush it out. At first I told some friends they told me its not clean like that...etc but now i realise its better
& my third pregnancy wasn't smooth sailing at first, my bb's heartbeat was slow,, so prof knows my past experience & I was on injections immediately, so everything was ok till 2nd trimester I thought I am stable, but who knows I had bleeding, nt spotting... I was scared & called prof ng immediately, he told me to be on total bedrest do not walk about & I was given one week mc to rest at home
after that luckily everything was ok till I give birth to my boy :-)

during the whole pregnancy I was not v confident cos of my past experiences but all this is v worth when u see yr own child...

I feel if you are a every small thing will worried person go for the scan later when you can see the black dot at the right place if not its a torture to go bk weekly

take care & don't give up

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Posted on Tuesday, May 23, 2006 - 1:23 pm:

Hi Teenie,

Thanks! Its really "ju-jing-gan-lai" for you. I think i will try again after a few cycles ... friend recommened Dr L C Foong, he's a fertility expert.

Never give up!

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Posted on Friday, June 16, 2006 - 7:44 pm:

hi all,
i just did D&C this morning. there was no heartbeat when i first see my gynae at week 5. but cos thats abit early so i went back to see him week 6, still no heartbeat but waterbag growing....so he say to monitor for another week. i went back a week later, no heartbeat not even if V scan. n my water bag has not grow since last visit. he did blood test to check hcg level n find that the increase was very little.

i never know hows the feeling is like when i hear ppl M/c...until now when it happen to me ....n i have never expect that it will happen to me. haiz......this is my first pregnancy so i think eve for my hubby its quite discouraging n sad......until i saw some of u gals situation. u gals must have been strong to overcome all this.

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Posted on Friday, June 16, 2006 - 7:46 pm:

is it after m/c, must do a mini confinement to build up health??

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Posted on Friday, June 16, 2006 - 10:41 pm:

HI Jan,

join us over at this thread :
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/5/22127.html?1150468546

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Posted on Thursday, June 29, 2006 - 5:18 pm:

I cried hard when i knew i had a miscarriage at abt 7 weeks. no exact words can explain. i wanted so much to get pregnant again and successfully did after a year of trying. after that, i got pregnant again and now i have a toddler and an infant.

Sometimes, i do think of the baby who left us. Life goes on, but the baby deserves to be remembered by us. he/she was once our little baby. i still keep the scanned images, etc. i miss him/her.

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Posted on Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 7:00 pm:

Hello ladies,

So sorry to read about your babies.

I had a missed miscarriage recently. All was fine during my 6th week check up. The day before my 10th week checkup, i was spotting abit and immediately went to see my gynae. She did a scan and found out my baby stopped growing at around 6 weeks 1 day and recommended a d&c.

My hubby and i were so excited about baby #2 and because we are relocating to london soon and he wanted the furniture for both our kids to match, we bought a matching cot and chest of drawers and even a matching baby car seat. Everytime i see the stuff still in their cardboard packaging, or think about my baby, tears will fall.

I had the procedure done 2 weeks ago. Like all of u, i need encouragement and when i read this thread, i was so shocked and angry cos I didn't know i can have a natural m/c without having to go thru a d&c! I feel cheated - gynae did not let me know all my available options.

It is hard but we have to move on and believe that our babies are in the good hands of God. Don't be discouraged, you'll be a mummy again in God's time.

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Posted on Monday, August 28, 2006 - 1:34 pm:

hi, my name is veron, new on this thread, had been reading this thread for long and finally decided to join in, i need some advice as i also had twice miscarriage with 6 mths (sept 05 & feb 06), unknown cause for twice mishap, both time the baby don't growth after 5 wks and both i had d&c done. i feel so hurt and stressful, thinking why seem like i am healthy yet all this happen to me. after resting of 6 mths thought of trying again but feel so worried and scare.presently me with my hb seeing dr christopher chen from ccm to do check up see if any of us got any problem ... any of u had the same experience and finally had a successful pregancy ? thanks alot

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Posted on Monday, August 28, 2006 - 3:04 pm:

Veron,
I cant give u any advise as I just had a m/s either today/yesterday - still bleeding.

However, I guess I can feel the pain that you had felt before as this is what I am going through now..had been crying on & off and cant seems to stop.

Take care

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Posted on Tuesday, August 29, 2006 - 9:45 am:

kat,
sorry to hear abt that, is this yr first pregancy ?

u must be strong and take good care.

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Posted on Tuesday, August 29, 2006 - 12:02 pm:

yes..just came back from another blood test...waiting for doc to call and give me the result but I know it is a gone case as I had been passing blood clot since sunday.

Am a PCOS patient which makes conceive difficult and this pregnancy was really a surprise one as we only started trying in June this year.

Not sure what is it in for me next and what is the next step

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Posted on Tuesday, August 29, 2006 - 10:03 pm:

kat,
U got to stay strong , now wait for next instruction from yr doc.But most important thing is to rest well and take care of yr body. Like my doc tell me that time, what happen cannot be done, just close this chapter, move on and start again when u are ready.

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Posted on Tuesday, August 29, 2006 - 10:39 pm:

Thanks Veron.

I also want to close this chapter and move on...but I guess this take some time.

Doc asked me to go back next week for a follow up visit..for now, nothing I can do...

By the way, you can go to the following thread for your problem. It is a much more active thread then here.
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/5/22127.html?1150468546

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Posted on Friday, September 29, 2006 - 4:24 pm:

Hi
would like to check something with you all..

i had a m/s on 14th Aug and my mens only come on 26th sept, but somehow till today it only come bit by bit, is this normal?

I used to have quite heavy mens during the first three day and 2 days spotting only, but now, it is just spotting only.

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Posted on Friday, September 29, 2006 - 5:36 pm:

Hi Carol,

Not sure yr m/c is nature or through D&C.
I had spotting on and off after my m/c too & decided to do a scan.

Doc was initally worried that it could be that the body is not able to discharge everyything on its own and also scared of molar pregnancy.
Fortunately, it is just that the hormones have not returned to normal. Was given hormones pill to resume the menses.
Suggest u go see the gynae for a detailed scan.

ah_kat

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Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 10:15 am:

Hi Ah Kat,

I have a D&C on 14 Aug as my bb stop it's heartbeat at wk 11.

my 1st m/s after D&C is only spotting for 5 days, so dun no whether is it normal or not.

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Posted on Thursday, October 19, 2006 - 9:54 am:

hi,
just wanna how from how many weeks on need to perform D&C? i oso had a D&C jus end of Sept. bb heartbeat and growth stop at 9wks.

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Posted on Thursday, October 19, 2006 - 3:37 pm:

hi,

my gynae told me that there are 2 ways to purge out the fetus. 1 is via D&C and the other by natural means. according to her, our body is capable to purge out any unwanted object in our womb, in this case the fetus.

she cited 1 case of a woman who refused to go for D&C even though her fetus has stopped heartbeat. the woman's stomach was so big till one day she came to see her and through scan, saw the sac as big as a man's clamped fist. finally this woman went for D&C at 4th mth.

i chose for a D&C cos i really do not wish to go through the pain and then be sent to the hospital, only to find out that my body has purged out my bb along the way.

but of course, i went for 2nd opinion prior to D&C. my hormone levels remained the same over 2 blood tests. it meant it is not a viable pregnancy.

after the D&C, my menses came immediately. but the volume was sooooo little. like spotting lor. my gynae told me that some patient bled a lot after the operation. mine continued for about 5 days and it stopped completely. thereafter, i waited for 1 1/2 mths for my usual menses to come. but 1 thing i noticed is that eversince my D&C, the volume of my monthly menses was less then before D&C. i find it strange but didnt bother to check with my gynae.

sometimes i do think about my bb but i kinda erased the history from my mind liao. my family members was hush hush about it thus i do not have to face questions from 'overconcerned' relatives about the miscarriage.

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Posted on Thursday, October 19, 2006 - 6:56 pm:

saw from miscarriage support thread, there may be side effects after D&C(eg. incompetent cervix) and it now makes me worries abt my nxt pregnancy.

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Posted on Friday, October 20, 2006 - 11:40 am:

hi redtea & bbpram,

Pls dont worry so much since already things already happened. If D&C was the only decision that you have to make at that point then just no choice..

Just take extra care of yrself and sometimes hearing/reading too much might not be good...

I am sure things will be ok later on...take care

ah_kat

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Posted on Friday, October 20, 2006 - 6:05 pm:

Thanks ah_Kat. will go and asking my gynae abt all the doubts i have.

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Posted on Wednesday, December 06, 2006 - 2:02 pm:

I had 2 miscarriages (both due to no heartbeat on the 5th weeks). I now seeing a chinese physican to "tiao yang" my body and hope to have a baby next year.

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Posted on Thursday, December 07, 2006 - 11:24 am:

Can anyone please recommend a good gynae who is experienced in preventing a miscarriage for pregnant woman?

I had just had a 2nd miscarriage! Thinking of changing to a more experienced gynae who can help to prevent a miscarriage. Any good recommendation very appreciated.... please help....

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Posted on Monday, December 18, 2006 - 11:39 pm:

Hi, ladies. Had a m/c in early nov. i had previously tried IUI three times and failed. Finally, me and my hubby decided to go for IVF. So when i m/c after 8 weeks of pregnancy. I felt so devasted. think all of you know how i feel. though my hubby would console me when i tears,i still could not find peace.
It was only few days ago i accidentally found this website and read all your messages that i realised i was not the only one. it is through all your messages that made me find strength. Thank you for sharing your pain but i hope one day, we can also share joys when we get what we wanted most-adorable bbs.
My gynae said i could try the 2nd IVF after Chinese New Year next year. But i am not sure if i would be mentally ready by then. I would be mid 30s by then. Any ladies in the same situation as me?

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Posted on Thursday, October 25, 2007 - 9:03 am:

How long should we wait to try for next pregnancy after m/c?

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Posted on Friday, October 26, 2007 - 1:33 am:

Astromum,

Depending on your condition, the earliest period to ttc will be after your 1st AF cycle so that you would be able to determind your LMP. Your gynae would be able to advise you on when you can start trying again.

There is a thread on m/c support group at
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/5/22127.html?1193330505

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Posted on Saturday, November 03, 2007 - 12:01 am:

must gynaes would ask to wait till 3-6 mths.

during this time, its to let ur body recover well. u may wanna consider taking folic acid,vits, pre-natal pills to speed up ur recovery.

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Posted on Monday, December 17, 2007 - 12:18 pm:

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Posted on Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 10:58 pm:

dear all,

I just had my D&C two weeks ago. 2nd mc but 1st mc was complete so only this time need D&C. Do anyone feel very stress when preg & mc? I think both time i was stress till can't sleep. i read stress was alright except extreme like change job, move house.. but i thought having a life was much more stress than all these and unfortunately it happen to me twice within 6 mths.. my whole world collapse once again and this time was worse.. till now i still cant sleep well and frequently feel stress till breathless, rapid heartbeat, nausea... i'm so worried my stress freak behaviour will keep repeating. i think the next time i will still be as nervous and i'm really frustrated!i don't know how to prevent it! why is it that my sis can have 3 kids, i can't have a smooth one..

i think i am too lonely. cos my hubby work night shift, i work day shift so my life is just work, home, eat, sleep.. now i'm thinking if i can do any volunteer job or join some activities to make alot friends and become more optimistic 7 confident but i don't know how to go about it. i seriously thought of quitting my job to minimise stress but think it's kind of silly and i can't really afford not to work..

by the way, i feel backpain two weeks after my both mc. is it normal? it's all the way up the spine from waist.. sinseh say its hormone change.. do u gals felt that too? i also have very yellow discharge no awful smell so i think not infection but abit itchy though.. i wish i can overcome my stress and not relapse again. is that any cure for stress prone? i wonder if i pu till very strong will it help? read some pple very jialut try own abort, mental illness but bb still survive...

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Posted on Monday, December 31, 2007 - 2:53 pm:

N.a.

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Posted on Monday, December 31, 2007 - 6:12 pm:

May God Bless all of u with a healthy little bundle of joys soon

do take time to grieve n build up ur body n health..

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Posted on Monday, September 22, 2008 - 4:38 pm:

Sorry just curious how to know that whether is it a miscarriage? Any pain or anything to know?

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Posted on Monday, November 17, 2008 - 2:43 pm:

Hi tare1919,
natural miscarrage usually comes with symptom of sudden sharp pain at the abodminal area. Curious why you post this interesting question...?

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Posted on Monday, December 15, 2008 - 11:04 pm:

Hi....

My last menses came on16oct (22 days cycle). doc had confirm my pregnancy on the 16nov. however, i got spotting folllowed by bleeding on the 16nov and it lasted a week. on the 28nov, my gynae cfm my miscarriage n till now, my menses haven come yet. why issit so? any ideas how long will it take for the menses to come after a miscarriage?

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Posted on Monday, December 15, 2008 - 11:15 pm:

momo.. I experience exactly the same thing as you.. just a month different from yours. My gynae advice menses should come in 4-6 weeks after the wash... don't worry, you'll be ok. Jia You

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Posted on Wednesday, December 17, 2008 - 10:44 pm:

hiya lass,
got 2 more weeks to go....
haiz.. ='(

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Posted on Tuesday, September 01, 2009 - 12:32 am:

Hi Girls,

Especially painful tonight to help my Gynae say my twins stop growing at 9 weeks when I am suppose to be in my 12 weeks tomorrow. The pain is too excruiating.

I will be doing another scan tomorrow but I know it too well that both of my babies are gone because ald no heartbeat detected.

I appreciate this thread because it is just so supportive of each other. This was my first pregnancy and m/c and really painful.

Sigh...

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Posted on Sunday, November 01, 2009 - 4:47 am:

I just had my d&c today (or rather yesterday)...can't sleep now cos still thinking about what could have been. would have been 8 weeks....can't believe things are so different cos i saw a really strong heartbeat last week and we were so happy about the preg after trying for 1 year.
i can't wait to try again...doc says 6 weeks later....is there anything i can take to strengthen my body and womb?

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Posted on Tuesday, November 03, 2009 - 9:49 am:

hi pixie,

i am in the same position as u. i am so upset over it.

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Posted on Friday, October 29, 2010 - 10:08 pm:

Me too ...was so devasted!!!

I was at week 12....went to see gene as per schedule....after a detail scan, doctor said cannot detach heartbeat anymore....it was all right when I see him at week 8, I hv no spotting,bleeding no unusual feel at all...was already doing my best to take care of myself....ask doctor to save my baby, he said how can I retrieve A dead baby.....

CAN SOMEONE pls share to can we prevent baby heartbeat NOT TO stop???

This is my 2nd baby...1st also hv no heartbeat problem
At week 6

I just hope someone can highlight to us, how to cue and don't let this problem repeat itself again!!!

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Posted on Saturday, October 30, 2010 - 9:47 am:

HI Miko2006, this is my personal info that I gather through my 3 years of experience doing wellness or nutritional health. You see, a foetus is a life that we have to feed with good nutrition throughout his growth for nine months, so as the foetus grows in your womb, it will take away all your micronitrition like calcium, magnesium, iron,all the raw materials in needs to form into a complete human being. This takes tremendous amt of efforts. However, if the mother lacks nutrition to give to this growing foetus, the foetus itself becomes a threat to the mother's life, isnt it? So, nature has done its most intelligent work by 'removing' that threat away frm the mother's body and this is in the form of miscarriage. You can also apply this simple theory to a premature baby.. I hope this can shed some light into the growing number of miscarriages and difficulty in conceiving. We are all overfed but malnourished in terms of nutrition...I have a few customers who had their 4th or third child looking different as in more chubby, healthier looking babies compared to their other siblings after the mother get the good 'basic' nutrition during this pregnancy and this is interesting.

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Posted on Thursday, November 25, 2010 - 12:24 pm:

I too had a miscarriage a few months ago.. Died at wk 7th.. I was diagnose with one blocked tube(which only had 50% or less chances of concieving) but I did aft less then 2 yrs with my Hubby..

I had symptons like spotting, cramping & extremely fatique b4 my miscarriage.. Doctor say it might because of abormal sperms/egg.. I spotted quite badly for abt 2 days & the 3rd day I bleed & I rush down to hosp to take a jab. But on the same nite I was cramping so badly I woke up mid of my sleep & went to poo (twice).. Still alot of bleeding like mensus & 3rd time in e toilet my Sac just dropped out.. I even took pic of it! I was lucky I didnt faint bcos it was like 5am & my Hubby was working.. Aft the Sac dropped out then I felt bete but was still mensus bleeding.. Called my Hubby & he rush back, brought be to hosp again & doc confirmed my M/c..

Well, alot of m/c cases nowadays.. But I believe all is fated..

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Posted on Saturday, December 18, 2010 - 1:03 am:

I just did my d&c a few days ago.im 22 this yr and just got married. And thoughT this little life in me was a present for my marriage. I was doing well during my 8 weeks of pregnancy. 14th dec was suppose to be my day for a check up with my gynae for week 12 of pregnancy. But just one day before iti was bleeding. Not spotting but bleeding. I was shocked. Lucky that my husband is at home.

I rushed down to my gynae and found out that my fetus stopped growing at week 9. And there was no heartbeat. I was so devastated. Everything was well during my 8 weeks of pregnancy. Then my doc told me my fetus was abnormal therefore it can't survive through.

I'm really worried now because, I'm afraid it was my womb which isn't good enough for my fetus to survive. And worried that having d&c can cause 2nd miscarriage. I don't think I can handle anymore miscarriage. everyone kept saying I'm still young. I should be able to handle this pregnancy well.

My family was so upset. We had to cancel all our holiday trips. And i have to pretend to be strong. But at times really can't hold back my tears. Ineed my husband to be at home with me to keep me occupy.

Can anyone advice me what to do in order to avoid another miscarriage cos we have the intention of trying for another baby in few months time. But yet I'm afraid my uterus will be too weak for it to handle.

I really miss my baby. I felt that something is missing in my life now. I dont work and I avoid most housework when I'm pregnant. The only thing I did wrongly was eating too much cold food. Ice cream, cold drinks, junk food. I did not eat much of the food that is good to me. Only once in a while plus I was too busy with my wedding.

Could eating too much of a cold food cause my miscarriage. My mum said my uterus is too cold. And I have very regular period and it usually last for 3 to 5 days only. They aren't very heavy flow. My cramps only last for a day. But I do have bad pms.

I reallyneed some good advice on how to gain back my health and confidence for my next pregnancy.

God bless to all. :-)

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Posted on Saturday, December 18, 2010 - 10:07 pm:

Hi Christine..

I am a hubby who saw how my wife went thru 2 m/c in early 2010. Indeed it was shit feeling, I am not someone who shed tears, but I did on both occasions, usually after my wife has slept. It was painful for both of us..Even till now, we still think of it, we are human afterall, but got to get over it eventually..

My advice
1) DO u believe u TCM? If yes, please look for one now ( I can share our with you) TCM really helps..Our TCM advised us to rest and try only after more than 6 months of resting..Plus take the medicine to clear whatever can be still inside your womb and to strength it for next preg.

2) Rest more now and try and go for a short trip with your hubby..Mental health is also important for strong body..Try to keep yourself busy so that you do not have time to think..(easier to say than do, I know)but it does help..I brought my wife to bangkok for shopping spree.

The last good advice to gain back your confidence is that there are many others who m/c several times and still manage to get a baby later on..TCM said as long can get one, your womb will be okay to get second and third..Gynae also said its common nowadays, sometimes no reason..Do seek for 2nd opinion if unsure..Few hundred to save a life is worthy..

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Posted on Saturday, December 18, 2010 - 10:12 pm:

I believe those who suffered m/c are deeply depressed and upset..And most of the time, u need your hubby around to console and acompany you..

Just to share, a hubby who lost his baby is equally devestating..
and sometimes he can only hide his inner side to his sobbing wife..

Dear ladies, show your appreciation/love for your hubbies during these situation..We need it too..

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Posted on Monday, December 27, 2010 - 4:14 pm:

Hi miko2006, i share your lost. I had 3 m/c and it all happened in week 7. no heartbeat, stop growing... i have no bleeding or unusual pain. just probably cramps once in a while which i was told were common. No answers nor reasons which gynae can provide. I am not giving up so going for a 2nd opinion. You too, dont give up esp if you are still young.

Remy (remy)
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Posted on Monday, December 27, 2010 - 9:42 pm:

Yes, don't give up. I have 2 MC before giving birth to my Gal. She's 3 Y now.

After my 2nd MC, I came across this Book :
Healthy Parents, Better Babies : A Couple's Guide to Natural Preconception Health Care
by Francesca Naish Francesca Naish & Janette Roberts

I find this book VERY HELPFUL. Giving you tips on how to prepare your body before conciving.

http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Parents-Better-Babies-Preconception/dp/0895949555

Good luck and hang in there!

REMY

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Posted on Thursday, December 30, 2010 - 1:30 pm:

Hi everyone,

I just had a miscarriage, lost my baby at 16 weeks. Nothing was wrong, routine checkup showed heartbeat stopped. Still in the grieving process and find comfort knowing many of you are going through the same thing. I agree with Trust - there is little support for fathers and kudos to you for joining this forum and voicing it out. My hubby has been very supportive and we grieve together. I'm looking for a miscarriage support group for christians - does anyone know of one?

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Posted on Wednesday, April 13, 2011 - 8:41 am:

Hi Yummy Mum

Me too lost my bb boy at 19weeks Mar last yr due to APS. I know there is no words of comfort can overcome the grieve in our hearts. I am a Christian too, there isn't any christian support group i know off, but one thing for sure is throughout the time, my cell group members and pastor ( whom has gone thru the a MC) was consisitently there to support us. Hope u can find support from your cell group or church frd.

Just something to encourage u... after one mth aft my MC I conceived again and recently just deliver my bb gal save and sound by God's grace, even though gynae told me success rate is onli 80% despite all the jabs i have to endure.

Dun give up !!!

pigy (pigypigy)
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Registered: 8-2010

Posted on Monday, April 18, 2011 - 12:46 pm:

Hi YummyMum, & Mitch!

I am a christian too. and had a MC recenttly as well. Mitch, great to hear encouraging news from you.

For me, I kept my MC a secret since I have yet a chance to tell them my pregnancy as well. For my group because I am the only married person there, I feel its very different and difficult for me to find support.

Anyway, can email me and we can go in details "pigypigy@live.com"

There is another group "support group - Miscarriage" as well.

creamcream (creamcream)
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Post Number: 16
Registered: 7-2011

Posted on Monday, November 14, 2011 - 9:48 pm:

hi, anyone knows where to "超度" the m/c baby?

miko2006 (miko2006)
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Post Number: 253
Registered: 4-2005

Posted on Thursday, November 17, 2011 - 11:40 am:

Again, again and again it happen to me...my baby heartbeat stop at week 10 AND I lost it the 3rd3rd3rd time!!!!!!!!

I tell myself NOT gg to drop any tears anymore to have my own baby just never going to happen on me!

I already done all my best AND am I going to stop having hopes of carrying my own baby from now onward

Lost my 1st marriage, reasons mostly based on me not able to conceive till ...went for 3 rounds of IVF, all failed in my 7 years marriage

soonafter 6 months of seperation with my ex hubby, he father a child outside

Now, found blessings in my 2nd marriage, 3 times pregant over a 3 years... BUT all lost due to NO heartbeat or heartbear STOP at week 8 - 10 hoping, praying and asking to have my own baby was such a difficult task from God to me

Ended all in 3 miscarraiges

WHAT should i do... give it all up totally!!!!!!!!!

I m STRUCK

Nevertheless pls cherish urs, as I m glad u r pregant again, I wish u all the best

BBtigger (gillian)
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Posted on Thursday, November 17, 2011 - 1:48 pm:

miko, have u tried tcm? i had 2 miscarriages and conceive naturally the 3rd one after going thru 5 mths with tcm. almost gg ivf the 2nd times that cycle but i was pregnant. i have read before a forum mummy had 3 miscarriage and she give birth to a baby girl on the 4th pregnancy.

Beanbean (liljellybean)
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Post Number: 5
Registered: 1-2012

Posted on Thursday, January 05, 2012 - 7:41 pm:

Hi bbtigger,
may I know which tcm are you with? I had 2 miscarriages too, and am looking at ways to avoid a 3rd time. I am with EYS all along.

Princessleopard (princessleopard)
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Post Number: 16
Registered: 9-2010

Posted on Friday, January 20, 2012 - 11:37 am:

Hi ladies,

I am new in this thread. I just mc days before x'mas, no spotting, no bleeding, no symptom at all. When I went for my checkup at 6th weeks, I saw my bb for the first time & heard the heartbeat. But on the next checkup (9th week), the heartbeat stops & foetus stop growing at 7th week. The impact is very huge for us, as we are still looking forward to see the development of the foetus & hear the heartbeat. We have been TTC for 3 years & finally conceive naturally. It's so devastating.

D&C was done. I bleed for 3 weeks, doc say I have rather slow recovery compare to others. I even start to produce milk days after the D&C. I have to take pills to stop the milk production! Anyone have such experience too?

My MIL cook confinement foods & herbal drink for me everyday, for 2 weeks. Till I have nosebleed & headache then she stopped. Otherwise I am suppose to do "confinement" for a month. Is it really suppose to be like that? After mc, do we really have to follow confinement rules?

Seeing everyone are so supportive to each other, it really gives me a little more strength to move forward.

I am also thinking of TCM to "tiao" my body, anyone can recommend?

God bless everyone. Take care!

Princessleopard (princessleopard)
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Posted on Friday, January 20, 2012 - 11:44 am:

Hi creamcream,

I am going to "超度" my baby during the lunar 7th month this year. My fengshui master came to our house to see year 2012 fengshui, & I told him about my mc. He said we have to do it. But I am not sure how it goes about, till later date.

My aunt had mc twice before she gives birth to 2 girls. The 2 girls are very difficult to handle since birth. After many years later, my aunt was introduced to a monk by a friend. One look at my aunt, the monk knew she had 2 mc before, & said she have to "超度" those 2 mc babies & give them name & tablet. Only then the 2 girls can grow up at ease. I am not sure if anyone believe in this, but this is what happened to my family.

Lilysnow (lilysnow)
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Post Number: 271
Registered: 1-2010

Posted on Tuesday, February 14, 2012 - 11:26 pm:

Hi Princessleopard, Beanbean, miko2006,
I feel your loss, I too just had a mc. Based on my lmp, I was suppose to be 7 weeks pregnant, went for scan, but bb growth was only 5wks and with no hb. Waited for another week, but didn't detect hb again. I just went for D&C last Saturday. This is my 3rd pregnancy.

My 1st was via IVF, bb hb stopped at 10 wks. After I did a mini confinement, thru my cousin's recommendation, I went to see TCM. I diligently went to see the sinsei and took the 'very difficult' to drink medication for abt 1yr to 'tiao' and 'bu'. Then one fine day, the sinsei told me that I did not need to see his after that visit, I can start my bb planning. I hit jackpot the following month and gave birth to a very healthy boy in June2010. My 2nd pregnancy was very smooth and I like to give credit to the sinsei as I felt that he helped 'tiao' my health to good condition to successfully support the pregnancy.

It's been more than 2yrs since I last went to sinsei as I have relocated to bkk. I was so happy that I was pregnant again during cny, unfortunately it didn't last.

I'm thinking if I should travel bkk-sin to see him....? Monthly...?

PM me if u wish to know more abt the sinsei.

Cheers, take care.

Princessleopard (princessleopard)
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Registered: 9-2010

Posted on Sunday, February 26, 2012 - 8:13 pm:

Hi Lilysnow,

Sorry for you loss. I am really keen to know about this sensei. I will PM you. I think you should go back to him since he is so good.

Take care!

Lilysnow (lilysnow)
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Post Number: 272
Registered: 1-2010

Posted on Friday, March 02, 2012 - 4:36 pm:

Hi Princessleopard,
I tried to reply your PM/email a couple of times, but always encounter error:Technical details of temporary failure:
DNS Error: DNS server returned general failure.

I'm not sure if u have received my email.

PM me again (with an active email address) if u didn't receive my reply.

Cheers

avocado (avocado)
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Posted on Friday, March 02, 2012 - 5:53 pm:

hi lilysnow,
I've had 4 m/cs, could u PM me your TCM contact?thanks

Purple book (purplebook)
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Posted on Tuesday, April 03, 2012 - 3:08 pm:

i just a mc whereby BB stop growing at week 6. No heartbeat too.

Since, early stage of mc, I think confinement 1 or 2 weeks will do.

For non-christines I urge you to take some time to watch this heartbreaking video of world beyond your understanding.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9nsSMZm3GA4&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Princessleopard (princessleopard)
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Post Number: 41
Registered: 9-2010

Posted on Wednesday, April 04, 2012 - 12:08 am:

Hi lilysnow, can you try to PM me again. There is error in my email & I have change it now. Thanks dear!

Xuan (sweetevil)
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Post Number: 64
Registered: 11-2009

Posted on Sunday, April 08, 2012 - 2:30 am:

The #1 reason for miscarriage is massive chromosomal abnormalities, not outside issues.

Other reasons that are not verifiable are caffeine use, fibriods, advanced maternal age (again that can go back to massive chromosomal abnormalities), PCOS, hyperthyroidism, listeriosis, toxoplasmosis, acute heavy metal poisoning, use of methotrexate and or misoprostal.

Desiree linda (desireelinda)
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Registered: 8-2012

Posted on Thursday, August 23, 2012 - 8:44 pm:

Sorry to post here while u guys have discussion. I need a little help. Do get to me for adoption of baby. As I'm trying to adopt one with reasonable amount which dont exceed 9,000.

Due to not able to give birth anymore(knew the news last month due to 2 times miscarriage in a year), i decided to go for adoption. The news really hurts me lOts coz I'm just 24 and have not even a kid yet. And the news do hurt my mum a lot too . She went a little bit far more than depressed and always thinking that baby is still in me whenever she thinks of it. Consult doctor but was saying medication can't cure only control as she needs to work out herself. So despite I'm very sad and depressed I got to think of not only me but her too.and at this point of time, Husband left me too. So my dad and I came out with a solution, since I can't give birth, why not adopt those who are keen to put for adoption so that my mum can be better and I can have a better motivation of living my life better. kindly do help out for this. it will be good for going to give birth de or newborn as they still can't recognise if not its like so cruel for those who alrd know their parents. Kindly give a helping hand. Apps 83006803 thank

Desiree linda (desireelinda)
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Posted on Thursday, August 23, 2012 - 8:44 pm:

Roza (crystaltears)
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Posted on Saturday, January 05, 2013 - 9:10 am:

Hi ladies, i'm new to diz forum. well i also hd some m/c stories to share. In all I had 3 m/c in total. Just had the 3rd m/c few days back.
*1st m/c - March 2009
*after dat, successfully conceived again in Sept 2009 and gave birth in June 2010 to a healthy bb boy who is nw 2 n half years old.
*2nd m/c - Nov 2010
Took me 2 years of trying again and finally conceived again but failed the 3rd time.
*3rd m/c - Jan 2013

All 3 m/c happened during 1st tri. As i guessed its time to give a sibling for my boy in diz new yr 2013, i m/c again n I began to have brown spotting on 1/1/2013 (Imagined how it felt to have diz kind of bad sign on d 1st day of new yr!). Went for scan(supposed to be 9 week plus but gynae said cant see d baby n h/b n told me d bb is not developing n stopped growing at 6 week plus). Gynae referred me to a govt hosp for d&c but I opted for natural m/c like wat i did for my last 2 m/c. D waiting time to let the tissues/clot out n d pain was really unbearable!! After dat no more pain/cramping but felt sooo devasted,useless n empty. Kept on thinking y I can't have a problem-free pregnancies like any other mommies out there! Heart-breaking as i can't carry my d other 3 pregnancies to term. Juz wondering wat is wrong with me!
I had natural m/c for all my 3 m/c w/o any D&C and managed to expelled out the 3 "babies" with so much excruciating pain! Pain was like sharp stabbing contractions n feels like i'm going into a labour. Physically n emotionally pain seeing the placenta/sac/blood clots passing out.
Showed that to Hubby n stood there numb. He was able to cope it but i knew in his heart he is sobbing quietly. We really wanted to give our firstborn a sibling for companion but its all Godswill. We planned everitin but it is all Godswill again. Reading up all diz post gave me some strength to move on a lil bit. Its nt easy to juz erased everitin out of d mind, coz its not 1 or 2 but its 3 recurrent m/c!!
We r hoping to run some tests with d doc to check our 'systems'. Rite nw still searching for a gd gynae to check on us.Shud i try TCM or rely mostly on gynae/specialist?
Desperately hoping for another baby coz our age is catching up. Plan to conceive again before reaching 35. But i'm still feeling worried n scared n wat if m/c happens again?? Its too much of a blow for me n also dear hubby.
Last of all, gd luck ladies! Kip on trying n i'm sure we will be able to carry our pregnancies to full term! Run some checks/tests so as to prepare ourselves for next pregnancy.
*Baby Dust To You*
Hugs from a Crying Mommy...

jo78 (jo78)
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Post Number: 83
Registered: 10-2012

Posted on Saturday, January 05, 2013 - 10:28 am:

Hi Roza,

very sorry for your loss, I know how devastating it is, I have loved ones who had repeated m/c... and many of us here, including myself have gone through M/C, if you look under the thread "Support group - miscarriages" in the "Matters of the heart" section, you can read up, I believe some of the ladies here do have contact of good gynaes/fertility experts who specialise in women who have suffered multiple m/c. In the meantime, it might be a good idea to let yourself recover. If you believe in doing confinement, do keep to a confinement diet for at least next 2 weeks so your body can recuperate. The most important is to build up your health, and trying again must wait until you are ready physically and emotionally.

Take care dear.

Roza (crystaltears)
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Post Number: 4
Registered: 1-2013

Posted on Sunday, January 06, 2013 - 6:21 pm:

Hi ladies hers, anyone had recurrent miscarriages before? 2/3 or more miscarriages? Which hosp is gd to find the cause of m/c eg: doing tests etc.? Heard nuh hv a specialist to do diz. Hw abt kkh?

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