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serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 324
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 22, 2010 - 1:41 pm: | 
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Jas,
Hee..hee.. I have tried middle of night wake up by the baby for feeding, but I let her latch on me while I sleep... then when I wake up again, she is crying for her next feed liao....
How about I hardworking on day times, then the night times I sleep through, does it help to increase my supply?
I think if I going for the 3rd child, I'll give FM liao... this 2nd child already no motivation.... sigh. Sometimes, I look at her, I feel guilty leh. |
Steph (tanstephy)
New member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 87
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, April 22, 2010 - 6:00 pm: |
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Jas: same here, baby latch I like got less supply leh + my boy dozes off everytime after like 5mins of suckling, so I rather express it. I did 4-5hourly interval round the clock now, super no life, do things, go out all hv to be chop chop..wonder how if i get back to work in 4 weeks time.
Serene: 3rd kid!!!! SALUTE! I close factory liao. With my age, I don't think I can suffer the same ordeal all over again. Some ppl say deliver 1 child, age 10 years...alr 20yrs gone! heehee!
SuperHappyMum: Medela PISA good? I heard the suction is very good and encourage let down fast except the machine is a little noisy. Very tempted to invest on that. How's ur relationship with your SIL? if good, then ok lah...mine is so-so due to age gap. But be warned that have to shut both eyes lor cos daughter preg is diff from DIL preg. *SIGH* |
Steph (tanstephy)
New member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 89
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, April 22, 2010 - 6:09 pm: |
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Jas: same here, baby latch I like got less supply leh + my boy dozes off everytime after like 5mins of suckling, so I rather express it. I did 4-5hourly interval round the clock now, super no life, do things, go out all hv to be chop chop..wonder how if i get back to work in 4 weeks time.
Serene: 3rd kid!!!! SALUTE! I close factory liao. With my age, I don't think I can suffer the same ordeal all over again. Some ppl say deliver 1 child, age 10 years...alr 20yrs gone! heehee!
SuperHappyMum: Medela PISA good? I heard the suction is very good and encourage let down fast except the machine is a little noisy. Very tempted to invest on that. How's ur relationship with your SIL? if good, then ok lah...mine is so-so due to age gap. But be warned that have to shut both eyes lor cos daughter preg is diff from DIL preg. *SIGH* |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 333
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 22, 2010 - 7:56 pm: |
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Steph: PISA suction is better than Mini electric. As for other pump, i dont know. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2693
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 - 11:54 am: |
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Hummm, so silent when Im not in.... Me on MC for 2 days yesterday and today.... flu... body aching... throat discomfort, 2 kids down with cough and running nose.... hubby also down with fever... weather is to be blame! Will be in when Im ok and with not so busy at work... |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 330
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 - 1:54 pm: |
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Hello Mummies!!!
I am back! These few days so busy, no time to login for a chat. How's everyone?
Hey, I wanna check with you mummies on the baby bonus issues.
1.Is the baby bonus for the 2nd baby is $6000?
2.If we create a CDA for the baby, the $6000 from government will be banked?
3.That's mean only $6000 in the a/c, not $12000 rite? Then how come I keep hearing pple saying govt put $6000 in together with baby bonus of $6000 = $12000...
4.Baby bonus is for mummies NOT for daddy, rite?
5.May I ask for baby 2007 (1st child), got baby bonus rite, how much huh?
Steph,
Hahaha!!! I very heistant to close factory leh... Cos I thinking, once closed cannot have liao... I longing to have a boy...So that the family will be balanced mah... if not, 3 female and 1 male... not good leh.
But then, after an arguement with my hubby that time (due to his mummy complaint that we "torture" the kid), I drop the thinking of giving him a son... Its nothing to do whether I am petty or not... Cos I don't want him to use the kids to threaten me again.
Sometimes, I feel very upset...give him 2 kids in return I get this kind of treatment... As you said, delivered one child, aged 10 yrs... We, women cherish the most is look.
Hey, I am using the Medela PIS too. Not bad... it has a function to simulate your breats before let down. If your baby is those agressive type, must drink milk immediately, the medela PIS can help you simulate it. Also good for mummies who just delivered and wanted milk asap. =)
Jasmine,
Yeah.... so quiet.. We miss you leh.. Hee..hee..
Hope you & your family get well soon. My hubby and elder daughter also have cough and flu. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 334
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 - 6:11 pm: |
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Jasmine,
Great to "see" your posting here again. Hope you and your family will get well soon. The forum is so quiet.
Serene,
CDA account is for you to bank in $$ and then gov will matched the same amount of $$ into the account. You can bank in any amount but gov will only match up to $6000 for the 1st and 2nd baby and $12000 for 3rd and 4th baby. Some of my friend choose not to bank in $6000 as they claimed that we cant cash out the $$ when we need cash. However, to my husband and me, we banked in $6000 in order for gov to give us $6000. Although we can't use up the $12000 that we have in the CDA account for children childcare or jab but the account will be there for the children future education needs.
I have breast infection since Monday. Having fever. Went TMC for lactation consultant to check and now on antibiotic. Sob Sob.... |
Steph (tanstephy)
New member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 99
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, April 29, 2010 - 10:56 am: |
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Hello Mummies, sorry wasn't too involved in this thread. Had been busy and now I am sick.
Strangely that I have been pumping regularly and suddenly 1 day I just got blocked ducts and can't clear. 1 thing led to another, started to shiver like crazy and got high fever. 
The weirdiest thing is that I found that there are some powdery residue from my blocked duct breast after expressing. Wonder if it's my medication but it only happen on one side of the breast?
Should I carry on feeding or discard? |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 335
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 29, 2010 - 1:31 pm: |
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Steph,
YOu better see Lactation consultant asap |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 336
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 29, 2010 - 4:14 pm: |
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Steph,
As what SuperHappyMum said, GO see the lactation consultant immediately... or call them.
Tel: 6251 4090 (24 hr - TMC) |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 101
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, April 29, 2010 - 10:45 pm: |
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Goodness, everyone seems down! bad weather! absurd! hope everyone is back on track now 
I also think I have inflammation and not block ducts cos my fever yo-yo.
Thanks Serene, called the # but always direct to voicemail. We opened a CDA account for my boy too not for my gal cos she borned in 2006. We put in $1000 haven't following month we 'took' out for jab payment. so don't know if government will give us $700 or $1000 to the CDA account.
I understand how you feel been longing for a boy. I was mere lucky too but before my MIL knew that it's a boy, she gave me all sorts of crap (thinking it's a girl).
Ask yourself this question lor, can u take pregnancy, confinement and long breastfeeding commitment all over again?
My agent told me children are our liabilities when young, however these days children are no longer our assets when they grew up too!
Now, for my MIL, I turn blind eye lor.
However,if you want to try for #3, I can share my research as we planned for both kids. No guarantee though...i can give u my ovulation kit, still left 1 I think.
JIAYOU!
SuperHappyMum:How's ur condition now? is it the same description like mine? what are the symptoms other than high fever? so now on medication can still bf?
I so demoralised! my menses come too so now, my supply dipped like crazy. Everything happened at one shot....
Jasmine: Take care! |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 336
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Friday, April 30, 2010 - 9:37 am: |
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Steph,
I have recovered from the breast infection. No more breast pain and fever but still on anti-biotic. I get the antibiotic from gynae, thus can still BF.
I am very stress now because my leave not approved and have to be back at work 3 weeks later. My group is in trouble again. Some colleagues resigned. They are waiting for me to go back. I was very happy 2 days ago when there is a job vacancy at the other department (which I can go home on time). Now with shortage of manpower, I don't think my boss will let me transfer.
If I want to resign, I need to work till August. 3 more months leh. By the time, no more milk loh. |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 337
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Friday, April 30, 2010 - 4:04 pm: |
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Hello mummies!
Steph,
Initially I am thinking wanting for a boy after 2 years (cos I am still bF this Jan 2010 baby), but now I knock-off the idea of having one due to one month ago an arguement with my hubby.
I'll never forget the incident - We have an arguement and I am BF'ing the baby. My elder gal saw us quarrelling, got frightened and started to cry... My hubby suddenly wanted to head for the door and I asked him where's he going... He snapped at me saying,"One more word from you lah, I'll just go off and don't care about you!"
I am very angry and said,"Stop that! You should now attend the elder one instead of saying such thing!" He repeated his sentence again... I am very angry yet I cannot do anything as I am still B'ing the younger one... I have no choice to apologise to him and begged him to stay and help me. He did... but the damaged has already been done, I am so upset that I cried and I told myself, I will not want another child since he dare use the children to threaten me.
After a few days, I wrote him a long long email at home and sent it to his office... I told him I'll never forget what he did that day and for this, I'll give up the idea to bear him a son. If his parents do ask, I'll told them you go and ask ya son why... I forgive him but I'll never forget it. This maternity leave is my worst...I didn't enjoy at all.
Oh.. the hotline I gave are from Parentcraft Centre... it said 24hrs leh.... Maybe you can call now before 5pm to see?
SuperHappyMum,
I think you should talk to your boss first when you went back to work... For the employee's interest, I don't think he has the right to prevent you from transferring the job, but he can only able to delaying you the date to transfer only.
Hey mummies, my elder gal got infected eyes... Again, no school for her this few days.... SIGH! |
Winnie Ng (maplely)
New member
Username: maplely
Post Number: 13
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Friday, April 30, 2010 - 4:37 pm: |
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Sorry to hear abt that Serene... Maybe he was also facing problems prob with his wk etc?? that's y he felt even more frustrated aftr yr argument.... i know its tough to forget this incident but both of u will have more yrs as a couple together.. |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 338
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Friday, April 30, 2010 - 5:37 pm: |
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Hi Winnie,
Yeah, that's why for the sake of the kids, I forgive him. As both of us are adults, he shouldn't use HIS own children to threaten me. I don't care how he will want to treat me when there's only both of us, but NOT using the kids, which I find it unacceptable.
If he going to say those words in front of me (when the kids not around), I'll just told him,"you go loh... I am an adult, I won't die if you are not around". His actual intention that day was to let me suffer with handling the 2 kids alone... However, on my email written to him, I told him straight and firm that, even if he just walk away, leaving me alone to handle the kids, I can do it too and it's not the first time I am handling 2 kids alone (when he's at work late). I told him very firmly that if he still does something like this again, the two children will immediately change their surname to mine, no question asked!
Sometimes, I just feel very upset that having going thru the period of pregnancy, confinement and long breastfeeding commitment, I still got this kind of treatment.... |
Winnie Ng (maplely)
New member
Username: maplely
Post Number: 14
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Friday, April 30, 2010 - 6:14 pm: |
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Agree with what you'd said. Big sacrifice on the woman's part. It's like the man's part is only wkg while for the woman, its giving birth + work + taking care of the baby.. Tough job being a woman....
Don't think too much abt it. Make you more unhappy. Must take care of yrself. |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 339
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Friday, April 30, 2010 - 6:56 pm: |
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Thanks Winnie!
For my kids's sake, I'll survive and continue to fight for the rights! =)
That's why I want to vent my frastrution in here and always make new friends! =D
You see, I have to bear him children, work, taking care kids, still got to endure his mum's ways.... yet I receive no support from him.
Lately, I found out that for this 2nd child delivery, we can have CASH gift + CDA... I thought only CDA, so that time never bother.... He credited the cash gift into his a/c...
The first kid cash gift he already took without informing me, the second one still like that... A bit feel like cheated...
However, I am going to work soon ... next week... may not have time to chat on SMH liao... sobs*..sobs* =( |
Winnie Ng (maplely)
New member
Username: maplely
Post Number: 15
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, May 01, 2010 - 11:31 pm: |
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Ya this place is for u to vent ur frustrations. We'll definitely lend u a listening ear. Can't believe that he took the $...u gt qn him? Oh u gg bk to wk.... Put aside all these ba. At least go bk to wk will tk ur mind of all these... |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 105
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 03, 2010 - 12:05 pm: |
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Hi hi....
Winnie is right, we are here for one and another
Serene: I think you are depriving yourself of 'ME' time. Your dedication to the kids leave u no time to relax and love yourself.
I got into a big fight lately with my hubby too, something reprecussion since my elder gal was borned. Well, my hubby is 1 yr younger than me and sometimes I felt that he's not growing with me I commence a higher income than him too so my earnings have been a big contribution to the family and becos of this, he takes for granted whenever money is involved and I felt unjust becos I give my 100% effort and my money too! Classic example, I got a maid to help out, I pay for the maid, feed the maid but he enjoys the benefit too of not helping in housechores and domestic stuff. Then instead of cracking his head to bond the family, he would never forget to leave his console games alone! and play till late night. So I questioned him, what contributions he had done? and made me regret of marrying in the first place? My gal only comes back in the weekend, and no quality time he does with the gal! I mean what can you expect a father to teach a gal on RPG console games? Violence! I told him, he made me feel like mother of 3! while, his things are taken care, house is clean, dinner is served on table. HE DID NOTHING...and totally neglected me.
When I got Mastitis last week and was crying due to the pain, he can actually turn to me and say "What can I do?".
Everyday of my maternity leave, taking care of the kids, teaching the maid to do things, runnign errands, work freelance with my friend (setting up) all back to back and I really drained and tired too. Then it's forever sensitive to talk about Money but I told him, it's money talk everywhere, if we both can't talk then who else I talk to? It's obvious he has no sense of monetary value and I can't be helping him to support the lifestyle...I felt so stupid!
Btw, I got myself treated at TMC parentcraft (thanks again for the number) and on antibotics too. Pain gone but many little block ducts, need to go back to TMC for removing this Thurs...Another OUCH session.sigh...
First thing my gynae saw me, she was like you looked so tired! and menses come, no wonder your immunity is so low to get infected. I
felt so sorry for myself for doing so much and not being appreciated.
Serene, want to meet up so that we go for some mummy's time this week (before I go back to work)? so that we can hear each other grouses? haha...all mummies welcome.
On a separate note, maybe we should meet up and have hi-tea to celebrate MOTHER's DAY!
SuperHappyMummy: Very envious of your nick...heehee...I hope I can be happy too! You want to transfer dept? but will it be better if you do? e.g. new dept...new scope, new KPIs etc...can cope then?
I'm going back next week...AIIII...so sianz! |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2697
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Monday, May 03, 2010 - 3:44 pm: |
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Hey mummies,
Im back again... Sorry to hear got mummies down with infection due to BF. Steph your menses come back so soon? Mine only came back after my boy turn 9-10mths old. When I start to slow down and extend my pumping session. #1 came after 7mths. Maybe becoz I stick to my pumping sessions closely ba. But I did heard my sis says when we stop BF must do message on our boots for at least 1mths, as my sis also gana the infections and went down to TMC, the consultant ask her did she do message when she stop BF, she say NO. But funny thing is that her 1st child and 2nd child gap is 3yrs, like that also will affect her 2nd BF. Lucky I did the message when I stop BF for my #1. My 2nd child my BF is smooth.... and will lots more supply than #1.
Steph,
I also 1 yr older than hubby. It seem like is real that I look after him rather than he look after me more leh. He is that type who will save for family which Im happy for that. But he is not the sensitive type. U know my birthday coming this month... he will just ask me straight what I want for my birthday... sometimes I will test him by asking him when is our ROM date or wedding anniversary.... and he will forgto lor...
Serene,
Its ok lah U can go online at night or weekends... to read our post.... CDA, we put 6K and gov. will put in 6K too. Only for our 2nd child as #1 born 2006 so dont have that, only baby bonus.
Husband:
I also will quarrel with hubby but he always like afraid that I will be angry, but there is times when he will get frustrated and shout at me too! I will tears and go into low mood, we normally will let things go at rest than discuss what to do or solve next. |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 342
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 9:41 am: |
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Hi mummies!
Jas,
I think I couldn't take out such big amount to put into my 2nd gal's CDA... If I put $2k then slowly increase thru out the yr to $6k, will the govt still give the max $6k?
Steph,
Thanks for the encouragement. Your hubby is also one kind! My hubby is not lazy on taking care of kids but when the kids cries or he "think" he couldn't control them, he'll pass all to me! He is a MCP man! He has his own thinking and I have to compromise!
Sure, when will you be available? I am having shortage of BM now....Not enough for my baby gal.. I am worry liao...how to go back to work??
I am thinking going online to ask if any mummies would like to donate to me at temporary till my BM resumed.
Winnie,
I didn't ask him and he also didn't tell me after I wrote an email to him that day to confront. Now already a week liao..... I don't want to ask because I know if I pop the qn, we'll have an arguement again! He is a MCP, got a lot of pride... |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2704
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 04, 2010 - 4:15 pm: |
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Serene,
Think its possible to do that. Think they should have hotline to check, maybe U call them to check? |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 110
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 2:31 pm: |
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HI mummies
Jas:I'm ok liao. left a few block ducts though, going back to TMC to clear them tmr. Ya my menses very regular during breastfeeding...without fail, every 28 days sure come, also dunno why and when it comes, my supply dipped again lor. my first one also like tat, then after i stop, i become irregular again. Think my body siao siao alr. :P
Serene: Me gg back next week, nice boss allow me to 'transit', take 2 days leave each week for my next 5 weeks (10days left from my 14th-16th week).
Let me know la, we can meet up tmr or fri my number is 90909466. if not, i can take leave on the day we are meeting.
Eh..if u don't mind,seriously I can give you my BM, been storing for my boy since 2nd mth..that's when I have overabundant. Freezer is packed and end up I have been bathing my boy with BM, hoping my boy catch up.
Must cheer up and not get worried over the quantity....Stress will affect your supply.
HAPPY MUMMY=HAPPY MILK=HAPPY BABY! Last resort, take supplement like fenugreek? or those yogi tea?
sigh...HUSBANDS...MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS!!! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 111
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 2:31 pm: |
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Finally see our first archive! hahaha |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 343
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 3:38 pm: |
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Hi hi mummies!
Tomorrow going back to work liao... Actually, I asked for early back to work, as I know I still have to go back to work one day, might as well go back to see and settle down quickly. BUT I miss my two girls! I don't trust my MIL anymore... After seeing she slap my gal on the thigh after my elder gal refused to take her nap... after seeing her forcing my gal to bath when she refused and cried... (she was the one who said CANNOT let kid go to bath when they are crying as they'll catch a cold..) and after hearing her said school is just a playtimes for my elder gal and she will pick her up anytimes from school...
My two gals prefer me more than my MIL. Whenever I am with them, my elder gal will said,"Don't want MaMa.." and my baby gal will scream and shout when my MIL carried her.
I know the happiest person to see me go work is my MIL...
Jas,
You mean there is a hotline for free donatation of BM to mummies? Do you know the number?
Steph,
My actually day to start work is on the 10th May. I left 2 days balance for taking my baby gal for jab. (very heartache to see her cry when she taking the jab...)
Tmr and Friday cannot liao, I am working loh...
Where are you working, maybe we can meet for lunch? My number is 96458584.
Steph, it's very kind of you to give away your BM to me! |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2717
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 3:43 pm: |
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Hey mummies,
Im clearing my gal clothes to make space for her new clothes. Please browse see if any of them catch your eyes. For Steph and Serene, since we stay in woodlands I will waives off the handling, can meet up at MRT or place causeway pt or admiratly MRT for collection yeah. Here's my link http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/449183/3936434.html?1273045103 |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2718
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 3:44 pm: |
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Oops just realized I shouldn't have post my link here, should have PM U mummies, sorry moderator for my mistake. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2719
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 3:50 pm: |
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Serene,
I mean for the CDA account enquiry which U wanted to know. Not for BM. U can open a thread in Free item session to ask mummies who have extra BM to donate, I ever see mummies do that and the respond is good leh. U have to post where U prefer to pick up and also ask for the mummy who donating got any medical problem which they need to take medicine for example, not forgetting when is the milk being pump. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2720
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 4:00 pm: |
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Serene,
I also don't think its good for your MIL to handle 2 kids at 1 go. Thats why I get a maid to help me instead, sometime a maid at least can follow what I want her to take care the most. I would rather the maid handle my kids than my MIL to be true. Anyway after resting for so long is for sure U feel bad to let your 2 gals follow your MIL more over why your MIL beat your gal! Kids tend to be fussy sometimes on feeding by or being shower by someone. If Im around my gal also will prefer me to shower her than my maid de, but if I not around than she got no choice. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 113
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 4:32 pm: |
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Hi Serene, I work in Changi Airport, the extreme end of Singapore :P
What a pity, but i can take leave twice each week, u let me know which day is good and I pop by for lunch then.
I agreed with Jas lor, having 2 kids to your MIL. well that's y I got my maid too. My gal was taken care by her since 2yrs old and now she learns that no mummy still got mah-mah :S
Serious leh, BM, u want or not? they are well-labelled indicating when pumped and quantity.
Where u work? tmr I pass to u to try on ur bb?
Jas: really? can give BM over SMH? I want leh. Rest assured that those are quality milk and store when I was medicine-free. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2726
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 5:16 pm: |
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Here's is 1 link which I saw people giving the frozen BM to others in needs. http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/449169/3934404.html?1273045754
WAH! Steph U dam good man can afford to donate your BM. Your supply must be over stock like me. I also took it to wash my face when Im over supplied. Keke... |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 337
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 5:51 pm: |
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Hi all,
I am so stress thinking going back to work and knowing 1 of my colleague has resigned and another will be transferred to other department due to medical reason. I don't know how long I can stay at my work place. Really want to transfer out of that place. The thing that I worry most is the milk supply. I only know I will pump less but hope the amount of every pump is still the same. PRAY !!! |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 345
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 5:52 pm: |
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Jas and Steph,
You two huh... me like worry like hell already on the decreasing BM, you two still saying using the BM to wash face and bath your kid.. =(
I have went in the SMH website before on mummies donating BM, but their location always very far away... I not driving and got to take one kid along, quite difficult for me to collect from them....
Steph,
I want I want! Of course I would be happy to receive it, so precious! That's why I am so happy, finally got one living nearby can able to donate the milk... Hey Steph, donate to me lah...
Wah! you work soooo far away from home! You must be waking up very early??
I'll update you once I manage to take leave from work... Jas & Winnie, you wanna join us? =D
Jas,
I have read thru the CDA website, my baby (Jsn 2010) has $4,000 cash gift... Yes, govt will top-up whatever we put in each yr till max $6,000.
There goes my gal $4k to my hubby!! I can see the cash gift dollar sign flying off.... |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 347
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 6:03 pm: |
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SuperHappyMum,
You have my support!!! At least yours is the same everytime you pump, mine is decreasing... up again then down... Where are you working?
My work place also have a lot of pple resigned and transferred. My boss told me when I come back tomorrow, I'll see most of the colleagues are new faces to me.... Almost all those I worked well with, have resigned or transferred.
I work at Raffles Place...
Hey mummies,
I losing a lot of hair!!! Stressed!!! =S |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 338
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 6:44 pm: |
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Serene,
Thanks for your support. I work at Industrial Park near Marsiling. I am in Semiconductor industry.
Where and when do you want to meet up ? |
Winnie Ng (maplely)
New member
Username: maplely
Post Number: 16
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 05, 2010 - 10:32 pm: |
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Me also losin lots of hair. When will it stop??? It's so irritating to have hair dropping everwhere...
Oh serene,me wkg at tai seng area...so far from everyone... |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2729
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 10:16 am: |
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Serene,
I saw another link who wants to donate BM, maybe U check where is her pick up place.http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/449169/3943305.html?1273111078
I work at Tanjong Pagar I do go raffles place for lunch sometime with my twin sister who work there as well. Maybe 1 of these days we can meet for lunch?
Hair-loss:
Its hormone changes which cause that, think only after 4mths or so it will slow down on the above of hair loss ba. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2730
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 10:18 am: |
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Can I ask U mummies age? Me lao kor kor le, turning 40 in 2 weeks. Sigh... time really flies... |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2731
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 10:44 am: |
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Serene,
I totally forgot that got Cash Gift for my boy too. He was born last year Feb. And hubby also never told me anything about it. I just called him to ask, he say have to check his account. I told him to transfer into our joint account which we opened for our kids monthly expenses. He say he will check and do the transfer. Never let them have a chance to hide thing behind us. I told him by now he should have received 3K by now. The first cash gift is given within 3 weeks after MCYS receives your properly completed forms followed by 6 months, 12 months and 18 months. So serene U still can ask hubby for the rest of the money since its not credited yet. So Just put in the special account for your kids expenses, tell your hubby the money need to be in good use for the kids. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 339
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 10:09 pm: |
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Yes. The money belongs to the baby !! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 116
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 12:27 am: |
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Hello!!!
Serene: How's first day of work today?
I agree that BM is like blood...so precious..glad that I can share since I have abundance. My supply also dip from previous but still baby can't catch up.
Serene/SuperHappyMum: Jiayou! don't give up. I learnt from TMC LC today, divert ur attention when pumping, take 5 deep breather to relax. OUr brain is a very funny thing, it will trigger and sense our body signals..so if u stress, it will lessen too. Can't fight this neuro organ.
Jas: Da Jie! me a horsey... turning 32 in sept.
winnie: i'm so afraid to go bald...i went to cut my hair short...hope not to have the long hair weighing down my head and cause hair loss. my first one, i started to lose hair from 4th-7th month. also after shampoo each time, i apply olive oil to the hair scalp and massage..now can see some baby hair ;) |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 117
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 12:33 am: |
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oh..for the CDA hor, as long u deposit $6K before child turns 6, government will top it up.
finally saw the statement for CDA, the top is 2mths after u deposit.
As for bb bonus...same lor, hubby quietly credited to his account, i told him to cough it out and put in CDA account. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2749
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 11:09 am: |
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Steph,
Haha... Man all the same come to $$ issue they just be quiet if we never ask them. U 32 niah still can try for no.3 lah. U got 1 gal and 1 boy? I stopped since already got a gal and a boy consider lucky as I married late at 32 and have tried for baby for 4 long years almost given up than its comes my gal , no more #3 for me no more energy for baby le. |
Steph (tanstephy)
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Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 121
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 12:52 pm: |
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huh..Jas dun like that leh...hving the 2nd one nearly want my life! been sick throughout the pregnancy! cant imagine 3rd one lor... |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2750
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 2:52 pm: |
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What happen? Why sick through out? U got confinement lady doing your confinement? My 1st I didnt get to book the confinement lady in time so end up my mum do it for me, eating wise is ok but she cant look after my baby in the night, so Im so tired as still have to pump milk every 3-4hrs that time. But 2nd child I book the confinement lady once I past 4th months haha kiasu mah. So my 2nd child I got enough rest as the confinement lady look after my boy so I can sleep and just do my pumping so still not too bad. So U have a hao zhi? Then its ok to stop le, anyway nowadays is so hard for our children education, now I already so headache on sending my gal to tis and that, so scared she cant cope if she enter school in 2 yrs time. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 124
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 3:28 pm: |
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aiya,...i shift the blame to my MIL who did my first confinement. She didn't do well for me and for 28days, it's the same food everyday and no tonic also. She didn't take care for me at nite too..so I was really tired. Hence I believe I was 'weak' since the first one.
2nd one I book CL but last min she withdraw cos her daughter forbid her to do during CNY. Then too late min alr...so I order postnatal tingkat and got a maid lor. At nite, still take care of baby but I do quite enjoy it.
For my #2, I knew I was preg on the 10th day of conception...All my symptoms came so fast and early for me to react. THen I got food posioning during my 7th mth and it's so hard to put on weight for me during this pregnancy...all in all only 8kg! and got me worried throughout and best thing is still I didn't get myself 'pu' lor. MIL acts blur. |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 348
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 6:19 pm: |
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Hello mummies!!!
I secretly login to SMH at office!! So busy, don't even have time to chat...but I have constantly looking in the thread using my HP..
Steph,
I feel so upset at my hubby on not supporting me till I am thinking of going into divorcing.... but for my kids sake, I "REN"! I refused to talk to him now.. cos everytimes, it was me who initial a talk...I want him to do it this time.
Pride...pride..already 3 days, still refuse to talk to me....
Steph, I really need BM, when can I get from you? Sorry for being so "direct" Oops!
Great! if you can come by to meet me for lunch at Raffles Pl... I always free for you!!!
You have my HP, call me....
Jas/Steph/SuperHappyMum,
I wanted to ask the money from him, but he act blur! My hubby is very sensitive to this topic, we always argue when we talk about $$! I give up already...I really tired to quarrel liao. |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 349
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 11:39 pm: |
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Hi mummies!
Today I feel very moody... My hubby argued with me in front of my elder gal and his mum.
I tried to act cool but I am very upset.
This Sunday is to celebrate Mother's day with his mum, should I go? But if I don't, its seem that I am a loser... not "da fang".
Actually, I treat weekend and public holiday are important days to bring kids outings and have fun! That's why when we have an arguement, I try to re-solve it asap... but ended up I have to apology even though it was not my fault.
I don't want to feel that I marry the wrong man but the fact is that I cannot justify it!
No point telling him that the cash gift is for the kids used... He will tell you,"Yeah, I use this money to buy their essential items lah!"
Jas,
I should call you "big sister"! I am 33 y.o.... |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 128
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 11:53 pm: |
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Serene!!! don't act rash! GOT KIDS LIAO....maybe u need a good talk with your hubby. tell him that this is a serious talk abt future and kids, telling him what changes/sacrifices you have over the years!!! and what u are not happy with him or he has any concerns?
we also lah, argue if it's concern $$! my hubby will flare too.
Men and their ego! hate that!
I want to give u my BM but I thought u maybe paiseh to reject! meet in town..hard leh..unless u got freezer in the office wor. i call u tmr...maybe i swing by ur place how?
btw, u got any milkbags or storage to give me then i can give u more? I'm running out of milkbags liao.
counting down to my first day of work on monday
now my boy like milk strike...didn't drink much, slept and salivating a lot...suspecting he's teething. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 134
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 12:59 am: |
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HAPPY MUMMIES DAY! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 135
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 1:01 am: |
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staying up for the nxt pump...wonder how i can coordinate timing when i get to work tmr!!! arghh...so not looking fwd back to work!!! |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2752
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 9:49 am: |
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Steph,
I told U to readjust your timing so U can get to bed like 11.30pm next pump will be around 4plus, if U can drag a bit more will be at 5am. Haha thats what I did when I started work.
Serene,
Dont be too upset, no matter what U still have to try to resolve the problem with hubby, 2 kids still young... Have to sit down and have a talk with him. No point REN lor. You will be with your partner for life so its better to settle any problem in the family. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 340
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 10:03 am: |
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Steph,
Same here. I was so happy with the amount of breast milk that I stored in the freezer. However, I sum them up and divided into the amount needed daily. It can only last for 8 days. Sad
I am very scared when thinking of going back to work. I WANT TO CHANGE JOB !!!!! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 137
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 10:13 am: |
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aiyo Jas, can't sleep last nite...now so tired.
i want to leh...but i try keep only 2 pumps in the office. so i did at 2am..next at 6.30am...in office at 8.30am then pump later at 11+am...and one more mid afternoon...let's see how lah....first day only...
sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeepy! |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2756
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 11:05 am: |
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Steph,
Why U pump 6.30am than 8.30am? If I were U I pump 6.30am next will be 11.30am than once before U go home around 4plus-5pm. When we started work we have to adjust fir out time. Our supply will be a bit more in each time we pump than usual as we cut down the amount of time we pump in a day.
Supperhappymum,
8days storage is good enough as U will still be pumping in routine right? After resting for so long is normal to be tired and scared to go back to work and will also worry if your baby will be taken care of. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 341
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 12:45 pm: |
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Jasmine,
I also plan to pump at 6.30am, 11.30am (office), 4pm (office), 7.30pm and 11.30pm. I am sure stress at work will interrupt the pumping time but I will try my best. I am actually have to serve for a least 2 more months. I will go back to try out. If I really can't stand the work stress, I will quit and look for new job. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 138
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 1:53 pm: |
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Jas, I need abt an hour to reach work and work starts at 9am. if i did at 8am; even in office,I will have to express 3 times in office. Don't really have the luxury of being MIA from the desk. + I'm expressing in the server room -brrrr cold!
Thus far, did 1.30am (home), 6.30am(home), 11.30 (office)...trying for the 4pm later too. at least, with this i can still sustain my 5 express per day. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2757
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 2:54 pm: |
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Steph,
How long U need to express? For me If I start at 9am. And I also need about 1 hr to reach office. I left home around 7.15am. So I reach office around 8.15am. I still can take my time to express when I started work at 9am. Next pump time is like 12.30pm than 5.30pm before I left work to go home. After that I will try to drag my time to about 11pm last pump than 4am, so I reach office around 8am is about 4-5hrs. It can be work out de. I tried that for both my kids. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2758
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 2:56 pm: |
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SuperHappyMum,
Which line are you working in? Stressful job? I work in advertising line. But there is time when Im jam up with work when all the deadline is like ASAP, than I will have to tahan until the job goes out in time. But I have a good colleague who support me, when I tell her I cant tahan anymore, she will try to help me out. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 342
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 10, 2010 - 6:18 pm: |
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Jasmine,
I am working in the manufacturing line. The company is making semiconductor chip. It is 24 hours manufacturing. Thus, once the machine is down, the assistant will call me for troubleshooting instruction. Now, my group is very weak with new assistant and colleagues. Thus, I am scared to go back.
Did you watch a 9pm show called 梦想成真 in Channel8 last year ? That king of the job.
If I were single or married w/o kid, I will fine the job very challenging. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2762
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 - 8:55 am: |
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SuperHappyMum,
Oh my brother also in tis line last time. I knew how is it like. Guess after having kids, it will be too stressful working in tis line. But when U not around who is taking over your job? |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 140
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 - 9:51 am: |
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Jas, my pumping time varies...sometimes 20mins done...sometimes 1hr esp if i leave it engorged > than the usual frequency.
SuperHappyMum: so you have to be on standby 24x7? I used to be on mission critical jobs and standby 24x7 is a challenge! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 141
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 - 9:51 am: |
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Wonder how's Serene? |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2765
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 - 10:07 am: |
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Steph,
You will have to adjust your timing so U will have your beauty sleep if not very shiong to stay awake and have to get up early, thats is bad! Yeah didn't see her posting... What happen to U Serene?? |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 344
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 - 10:51 am: |
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Jas & Steph,
I am grad that you can understand my worry. Jas's brother and Steph has left this kind of job. Good for them ! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 142
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 - 11:34 am: |
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SuperHappyMum: Rem? u r a SUPER MUM stay strong!
Jas: Me readjusting but kept going out of routine. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2771
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 11, 2010 - 4:58 pm: |
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Steph,
Slowly lah. Need time to adjust. Jia You. Since U have extra supply so still not that bad. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 346
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 12, 2010 - 12:00 pm: |
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I am very angry with my MIL. I find out something while chit chat with my maid.
One day, I went out with hubby to open CDA account for my baby. Thus, we asked MIL to stay at my place till afternoon. After banking, we went to Crystal Jade for lunch. Once I stepped into the restaurant, I remembered MIL at home. I called her asking if the maid cooks for lunch. If not, I will pack lunch for her. Who knows, she put down the phone and asked the maid if I always went out for lunch and packed lunch for the maid. The maid said no. She will eat at home. Then, my MIL told my maid that her daughter will pack for the maid when she eats out.
In the 1st few week after my maid came, she told my maid that she used to buy many clothing to my previous maid but she will not buy for her as i told her that my current maid has lots of clothing already. It is true. I did tell my MIL not to buy because I don't want to stack up so much place for the maid and I don't want my MIL to spend $$ on my maid.
My point of view:
Why does she need to tell maid like that ? This will only make the maid doesn't like me. What will my MIL gain if the maid doesn't like me ? |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 148
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 12, 2010 - 11:55 pm: |
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Thanks Jas!
SuperHappyMum: The fact that your maid confide in you then all is NOT LOST!
I notice something common in MIL, they seem forever pitting against DILs. Or they are perpetually 'recruiting' allies so that they are not alone. SIGH.
I left my maid and son at my MIL this week becos I'm apprehensive that my maid is new and not able to handle if I'm not home. While previously, my MIL will complain that having a stranger at home makes her feel uncomfortable. This time she is more than elated that all her housechores are duly done. I bet in no time, she will stir up stuff.
On a separate note, finally met Serene today! feels bad that i have her waiting for me as I was like a mountain tortoise walking obliviously around town; seldom go town.
It's a casual but friendly feeling sharing our woes over family, MIL etc...We should all meet up
She has been reading but not free to leave entries.
Keep writing mummies! |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 347
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 4:35 am: |
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Steph,
I am not worry about the confide from my maid. I am sad of why my MIL want to do that. If my family has problem, doesn't it means that her son is in trouble ?
2nd sadness of the day: when i picked up my 1st daughter from childcare center. The center is full for next year nursery (for my 2nd daughter) which I have decided to continue this center for my 1st kid. Now die lah, no school for my 2nd.
I am really very sick of thinking about it. All the problems are here because of I am working. If I dont' have to work then I don't have to depend on MIL to supervise my maid. No need to meet up with her at all ! |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2781
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 4:21 pm: |
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Steph,
Aiyah, I went raffle place just now too leh. But have a big bloe with the money changer there. He took $450 from my colleague as I have ask her to help me change, and the stupid indian guy says I only gave $400. My blood pressure went super high I think when my colleague and I say why he didnt use the machine for counting notes? Whereas my sis change he did uses it! He just ignored what we have say and insist that I only give $400 notes for change only! What a bad day for me |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2784
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 4:31 pm: |
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Steph,
How is your new maid? Altitude good? Is she married? Coz I find married 1 tend to have problems sooner or later de. Next year is my turn to crack my head and worry again... |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 150
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 4:40 pm: |
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aiyo Jas! what a rip! you should insist that he return u the notes and u count on the spot.which one? the one lvl2 corner at the arcade? i used to chg that when i work there leh...so far so good.
this new maid is good! i like her a lot, married with 2 kids. *crossed fingers* so far ok. u want to chg maid next yr? this one don't want to cont'd?
SuperHappymum: try on waiting list? they should give notice and priority to existing students with siblings. fret not, u still hv 6more mths to source.
ur MIL is probably too bored and also those yakadee-yak ones- go ard telling things to others!
mayb u can casually bring up to ur hubby and hope that he can tell off his mum? |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2785
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 4:51 pm: |
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Steph,
Note down its HASSAN & SONS Exchange(Opp POSB Banks), I will never change with them again even is the highest rate they have man. I did get back coz the guy check the camera clip cant see his partner counting the money and also ask him why he never use machine to count the money? So he say he will treat it as I gave the right amount $450. They will close their account at 4pm. If they find their amount not right they will call me wor.
Oh your miad have 2 kids le ah. Big already the kids? Coz my previous maid also have a 5 yrs old son, but when she return after 2 yrs of working here, she changed. No heart to work and can see for her face de lor. My tis maid I don't think she want to continue and also we are afriad she will be like our previous maid, so see how 1st, we will ask her in Feb next year see what she say, if she wants to continue we will have to consider 1st. If not we will look out for new 1 again lor. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 151
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 5:13 pm: |
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at least u got back the initial sum Jas.
yes, my maid has 1 9yrs old and 1 6mths old boys.while she misses them, she treats my son very well. usually if they go back and come back again, tends to be more ya ya thats y i prefer new maid too.
I did 'psycho' this maid telling her how much she lugi if she goes back to indo and back again, she will have to lose all her agency bonds and fees all over again! nearly 10mths of $$$ can buy herself a small plot of land! lol :P I so bad hor. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 152
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 5:20 pm: |
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just received a letter from MOM that i am liable to pay for 2 FDW levies!! Cos the first one wasn't transfer yet, damn agency didn't tell me what are the hidden cost i have to bear except for insurance!
If they didn't find her an employer yet so i have to keep paying levy and insurance!
having one but at the cost of 2! I'll make sure that I claim them next year!
time of the year again for income tax, sigh both maid and baby not eligible for this year...still have to pay over 1K! siong ah! |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 350
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 7:26 pm: |
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Hello mummies!!!!
Aiyo! What a bad encountered with the changer, if I am you Jas, I also blood boil super high!!! GIVE ME BACK MY $50!!!
Steph,
Then can you neg. with the agency? It's not fair to you leh....
Superhappymum,
Your MIL can make friend with my MIL liao... same same, busybody and like to poke on pple noses.
She also tell my elder gal that if she don't do that, mummy will scold hah... Lucky my gal still prefers me than her.... Phew! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 153
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, May 13, 2010 - 11:19 pm: |
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Finally see u Serene!
How? bb ok with bm? when are u ready to collect next batch?
i'm gg to call MOM tmr and see what they can help me with the levies. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2789
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 3:09 pm: |
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Steph,
The levies hor I think max they ask U to pay is 1 or 2 months if Im not wrong. Coz I also ever change my 1st maid as she got very bad attitude problems. But I lucky, coz when ask for replacement to a new maid, the agent already start looking for a new owner for her, so I think I only pay for the 2 weeks leavy. I think U better check with MOM to be sure.
Serene,
Nice to see in back in the thread again... misssssss U leh.... U R right I stand there with my colleague insisted they pay me the extra which I should have and they did! I was so boiled up totally yesterday, can't get over it till evening when I get to tell my hubby. He say U don't cry hor.... don't know why he say that to me... I tell hubby Im very pissed! And guess what they didn't dare to call me coz is their own fault! |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 156
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 3:59 pm: |
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Jas: your hubby so cute! tell u don't cry haha!
I called up the maid agency and they told me that they found a new employer for my previous maid since 8th May. What a coincidence! Wonder if i don't call, will they do the paperwork.
Now calling MOM to confirm if the levy has been cancelled and whether the refund will be reversed since they have deducted. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 161
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 4:34 pm: |
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Called MOM, was told that i'm liable to pay levy up to 30days! sigh..getting a maid is a 'heng-shuay' thing. End up paying extra.
Anyway, it's TGIF! Have a good weekend ahead mummies! |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 351
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 7:14 pm: |
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Hello mummies!
I MISS you all!
Jas,
Your hubby very nice leh... My hubby never even bother me when I cried! Last time courtship, very worry when I cried, now... he will said,"cry for what?" or don't even bother!
No wonder some women rather be a "mistress" than a wife.
Steph,
Thanks for the BM!!! I am so amazing that your thre packs of EBM can take up almost 3 3/4 containers of 220ml!!! Wow! I can only use one container everytime.... My BB very happy, got BM to drink, haha! When can you pass to me and for lunch again, I am ok, anytime... But I cannot take leave wor.
HAPPY WEEKEND!!!! I am still in office.. =( |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 163
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 11:50 pm: |
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Serene: TGIF, u still in office? aiyo...avoiding ur MIL again? :P
Aiya, MEN! I always told my hubby the 'before and after' treatment. Before, everything also can. After, everything also cannot.
Glad that your bb is responding well to BM...Meanwhile, don't give up ok, keep trying for ur bb!
I'm on leave next wed and thurs again but wed gotta bring Caleb for his jab again. Most prob thurs i meet u?
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Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2798
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Monday, May 17, 2010 - 3:16 pm: |
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Hello Steph & Serene,
My hubby scared when Im sad or angry de lah. He is a low temper guy, he does get angry once in a well when he is too tensed up with his work. If both of U do meet ups I dont mind join U gals for lunch just let me know by wednesday. Friday I will be flying off to HK for my company D&D. Be back late on Monday midnight. Waited so long for my holiday finally after giving birth to my boy since last year... I must really shop till drop too as its my birthday this Friday haha... 1st time spend my birthday out of town and is with company event. Hope they will not disturb me though. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 348
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 17, 2010 - 4:48 pm: |
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Hello all,
Do you know how to reduce the photo size/resolution ? Which software should I use ?
I used to post photos but now I don't know why I can't do it anymore. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 349
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 17, 2010 - 4:49 pm: |
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Jas,
Happy Birthday in advance.... |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2799
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Monday, May 17, 2010 - 5:18 pm: |
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Thank U.
Resizing my hubby uses the resize when U double click to open the pics in your PC just need to change the pixels ba. When I use my photoshop no matter how I do it still cannot get the right size to post up in SMH, I also dont know why coz Im using MAC not PC in office. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 170
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 17, 2010 - 5:56 pm: |
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Jas: HK!??!??...bring me along! ahhaah...guess I won't be traveling for a while.
So good...HK for D&D...my coy sucks...everything low cost.
Ur hubby must be very doting...so envious.
SuperHappyMum:I use fireworks, photoshop CS as well. If you want, i can do it for u. |
serene Lee (serenelee88)
Junior Member
Username: serenelee88
Post Number: 352
Registered: 9-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 17, 2010 - 8:03 pm: |
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Hello mummies!!!
Jas,
Wow! HKG for D&D! My D&D in S'pore, everything low cost (even though its a BANK!)....
Happy Birthday in advance!
Steph,
I am ok to meet on Thurs... Lets celebrate for Jas if she is joining... yeah?
Sigh.... I still cannot increase my BM, how??? I don't even have time to pump at office, always do the pump before going back.... at 7pm! HELP!!!!
Superhappymum,
You wanna put your photo here? Great! Tell me how if you have figure it out... I also want to put my two gals pic in. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2800
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 9:23 am: |
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Steph,
What time U both meeting on Thursday, let me know?
HK for our D&D, have been waiting to go there since I join this company long ago... for the pass company don't allow to take budget airline if we travel. This time boss say can so all go by budget airline. But hor don't envy me too fast, I have to pay for my return ticket as they dont allow us to do extension, so I have to buy my own tickets back and pay myself. My twins sis also joining me but she do her own booking that why I extended 1 more night.
Serene,
How did U BF for your #1? How long did U do it for #1? If your work place can't afford for you to pump guess you will have to stop at least 6mths but can't you pump using your lunch hour? JIA YOU for another 2 more months ba. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 171
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 9:40 am: |
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Serene and Jas: I'm ok on thurs too yeah...let's have a little cake for Mummy Jas! SuperHappyMum and Winnie can take leave to join us? kekeke *ambitious*
Serene: relax and try your best! like Jas said, tahan at least 6mths ok? I can share mine with u if you dun mind.
Jas:At least ur coy pays for 1 way ticket. You traveling Tiger or Jetstar? I work for LCC(low cost carrier) airline, imagine airline also won't pay for a proper D&D! And forever last year bonus payout was always delayed until the next year Aug!
Another of my coll resigned, can't take the crap here. He doesn't even get pro-rated for bonus. This coy is like that, if u leave before the payout, u'll lose it. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 350
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 10:25 am: |
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Steph,
I will start work only on next monday. This Thursday is ok for me. Where do you want to meet ?
There are 7 photos that I want to post. Is it ok with you to help for 7 photos ?
Thanks for offering !
I also don't know why I cant do it this time. I used to be able to reduce photo size 2 years old. Getting old, I can't remember how i did it. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 178
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 12:15 pm: |
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Kewl! ok this thurs then!
u bring them in a thumbdrive and I will bring my lappy. can do on the spot for u
Serene:Somerset @313 again? ur call cos it's ur territory.
Jas/SuperHappyMum: Serene and I have met prior so it's easier for us to recognise. I give u my mobile #90909466. Easier to coordinate.
so happy and looking fwd |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2801
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 12:28 pm: |
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Steph,
You mean meet at somerset at what time? Not raffles place ah? Hummm... I not on leave leh, don't think can go that far too. I can meet around 12.30 and have to go off like 1.40pm the most. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 179
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 1:21 pm: |
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Jas: let's see if Serene can compromise a mid-pt between the both of u? since SuperHappyMum and me more flexi? What about Cityhall? |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2802
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 2:09 pm: |
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Steph,
Have PM U my contact. I have sms serene to ask her. See what she says. |
SuperHappyMum (superhappymum)
Junior Member
Username: superhappymum
Post Number: 351
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 2:47 pm: |
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Steph,
Didn't know you want to meet Serene in the afternoon. I thot is evening time as some of us are working. Kind of hard to come out in afternoon. Have to leave the kids with maid alone. MIL went to Malaysia for vacation before I start work. |
Jasmine (jasminenbc)
Intermediate Member
Username: jasminenbc
Post Number: 2803
Registered: 2-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 3:02 pm: |
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SuperHappyMum,
Bring them along since U not working.
Steph.
Serene replied liao. So fix meet up at City Hall 12.30pm at the shopping mall entrances above the MRT station near escalator there. |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 184
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 3:03 pm: |
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Hi Jas! got ur num
SuperHappyMum:Afternoon was becos mummies who are working might miss their LOs since they r at work for 8-10hours. I don't mind any time as long i got adv notice then i can coordinate things back home.
Jas/Serene: Evening how? |
Steph (tanstephy)
Junior Member
Username: tanstephy
Post Number: 185
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 18, 2010 - 3:04 pm: |
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ok Jas + Serene see ya thurs!
That's right SuperHappyMum, bring ur LO along |
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