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Agnes Chew (gnes)
Junior Member
Username: gnes
Post Number: 469
Registered: 5-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, May 23, 2010 - 4:10 pm: | 
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scrumpee,
Administering epidural is painful? I hardly feel any pain and didn't even know its over..That's why I will look for the same guy next time in TMC. If you need the name, let me know.
The Dr was so skilful. Told him that I am scared of needles, we talked about this. I told him to tell me before he 'poke' so that I can take deep breaths. By then he told me its done!! phew!! |
reverie island (reverie_island)
Member
Username: reverie_island
Post Number: 569
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, May 23, 2010 - 4:33 pm: |
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Don
is it better to get a condo for tat price? Quite a few gd sch. But difficult to get in. |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 991
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, May 23, 2010 - 10:09 pm: |
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Agnes
Can you give me the name of the doc that gave u Epi? The lady doc I had last time gave me hell lor!!! I cried so badly that she had to stop halfway to let me cool down before continuing.
Don, Missycandy, Jasmin
Yes....time flies. I don't know how I can cope with 2 and I salute my mum first cos she will be helping me with both. We see how it goes. But I can definitely close shop and start looking for a new job next year. Have put on hold about job hunting due to my back to back pregnancy.
Feedback on GUG
My hubby accompanied my boy in so I can't say much. But my boy seems to hate it. The lesson was 1 and a half hours but he tahan for 50mins only and started getting whiny and burst into tears. We tried to bring him out and cool down. But he cried even louder when he knew that we were trying to bring him back to the room...in the end we had to leave the class. I think I will not sign him for any such structured classes for now, let him finish his Gymboree classes first which he totally enjoys. |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 994
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, May 23, 2010 - 10:12 pm: |
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Agnes
I am delivering in TMC, hope your epi Doc is also from TMC |
missycandy (missycandy)
Intermediate Member
Username: missycandy
Post Number: 4537
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 2:50 am: |
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does anyone knw if the kidstyle trade in ur shoe promo is still on? |
don (donroxx)
Junior Member
Username: donroxx
Post Number: 459
Registered: 5-2009
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 7:52 am: |
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Reverie.. yes possible to get a condo at the price however not at similar location. hubby and i are very dependent on MRT cos we got no licence =P so the proximity to MRT was very important. CV happens to be 10mins from both parents' houses too.
Think if you are within 1km of a good sch, chances to get in is pretty high.
Srumpee.. maybe try JG? a girl friend had the same comments abt GUG. However her girl liked JG. |
don (donroxx)
Junior Member
Username: donroxx
Post Number: 460
Registered: 5-2009
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 9:13 am: |
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missy.. it was still on when i went yesterday. i heard it will end this month? |
sinmey (sinmey)
Junior Member
Username: sinmey
Post Number: 414
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 1:18 pm: |
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missy,
i wanted to buy another pair for M last friday, but kidstyle northpoint 'closed' liao .. i remember the promo should be till end may. Maybe u wan to check out the novena outlet.
let me know if it's still on, as i think i wan to buy another pair .. haa |
missycandy (missycandy)
Intermediate Member
Username: missycandy
Post Number: 4538
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 3:11 pm: |
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ah ok ok... like that il be going tmr after my physio appt...  il go to the united sq outlet |
Sharlin Tan (precious_janelle)
Junior Member
Username: precious_janelle
Post Number: 162
Registered: 9-2009
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 3:20 pm: |
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sinmey & missy
I just went 2 united square kidstyle. they still have the promo! but just tat not a lot of choices liao. |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
Intermediate Member
Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4273
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 3:29 pm: |
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re: Gap and Old Navy
Anyone want buy stuff from Gap or Old Navy or anyone of the 5 websites??
www.gap.com
Saw some items that I am keen but only 7 pieces, see if anyone wan order then we can share the shipping cost =)
PM me ok ... |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 995
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 3:47 pm: |
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Mummies
I have a question. Need your advice.
We are moving into a new plc end of this year, big place with 4 bedrooms. And my hubby recently raised the question of inviting his parents to stay with us for several reasons:
1. His parents are old (actually, only the father is old, mother still quite young and working).
2. Wants our children to spend more time with his parents as they only see my son once a week now.
3. When my no. 2 is out, he is worried my mum can't handle both my son and no.2. We are also thinking of putting no. 1 in childcare at 18mths and with a no. 2, my mum will not be able to pick up no.1 from school. Hence, hubby thought his mum can do the job if they stay with us.
My issues:
1. I get on with his parents fine, but I just don't like the idea of having to stay with in-laws as that will be no more privacy in the house like...I can't walk around braless.
2. My hubby's younger sis is not married yet and is currently working overseas but heard that she has plans to come back next year. If my in-laws are to move in with us, that means my sis-in-law too. My sis-in-law is actually a nice person but my prob again is ...no privacy.
3. Rooms. I have 4 bedrooms, husband will take up one as study room and we intend to hack two rooms to make the master bedroom bigger. If in-laws and sis-in-law move in, that means my children will not have a room by themselves which defeats the purpose of moving. I wanted a bigger space because I want my children to have their own room in future.
4. With in laws and sis-in-law moving in, I felt that my house has become their house...I paid for it and yet, I have to give up my privacy and space to them. I also worry what if we have conflict, then the relationship will be affected.
What will you do if you are me? To let in-laws move in or not? |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
Intermediate Member
Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4276
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 4:12 pm: |
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Scrumpee ...
Not trying to be mean here but if you let them move in and eventually if conflicts arises ... it would be tough to get them to shift out.
You can always suggest to your hubby that you can have a guest room for them to stay over as and when they want and oso when the kids are bigger, you have the freedom to convert the room into the kid's room.
Getting along by seeing once a week is different from staying together ... so if possible try not to =p |
Agnes Chew (gnes)
Junior Member
Username: gnes
Post Number: 470
Registered: 5-2004
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 4:18 pm: |
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scrumpee,
I delivered in TMC. I will go and find the name of the Dr. Cos I want to use him next time if i am pregnant again. He is really good. Once I got the name, will PM you. |
don (donroxx)
Junior Member
Username: donroxx
Post Number: 461
Registered: 5-2009
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 4:24 pm: |
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Srumpee.. wow ur situation sounds like my friend's except her in law n sis in law already moved in. from the "issues" i hear from her, i would say best not to stay together unless you are very pro extended family and your hubby is a great conflict resolver and enjoys being a sandwich.
Your concerns are very valid. maybe bring it up to hubby and let him know your preference? |
missycandy (missycandy)
Intermediate Member
Username: missycandy
Post Number: 4540
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 4:47 pm: |
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avoid staying with in laws at all costs. |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
Intermediate Member
Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4278
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 4:58 pm: |
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Scrumpee ...
When I first had my own place ... the MIL relatives oso started saying things like .. got 2 empty rooms what ... why you all dun shift over.
Kept quiet cos before that I told my hubby ... if you enjoy been sandwiched bet us then go ahead and INVITE - of cos when I said that it was with a TONE and THE LOOK =p
Anyway now that we are filling up the house with kids ... no one ever dare say anything abt staying together again. My hubby oso says that he rather not too heehee
See once a week (min) is good enough for him ... |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 996
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 5:27 pm: |
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Mummies
thanks so much for your advice. More advise is welcome.
I agree with all of you, that's why whenever my husband sound me out on this, I just keep quiet because in my heart I really don't want to stay with in-laws unless no choice but yet, I don't want him to accuse me of being unfillial.
Seabreeze
yah..I should ask my husband, if he is prepared to be sandwiched and affect my current relationship with his parents, go ahead. And I should quantify that if I ever raise my objection in future, he has to send his parents back. If his parents stay with us, they will rent out their own house.
Also, the thought of his mum cooking in the kitchen (his mum is a great cook, I enjoy her food but I don't like the kitchen to be messed up, I want to maintain my designer kitchen..haha), his father's nagging (his father is a retiree, once he talks, cannot stop) really scare me.
My hubby's elder sis's family used to stay with my in-laws for a year, during the time when they stayed together, mother and daughter, mother and son-in-law got into conflicts. And my mother-in-law always black face whenever she comes back from work cos she can't stand my elder sis-in-law and family messing up her house.
I told my hubby, even mother and daughter stay together also got conflict, some more I am the daughther-in-law, how to avoid conflict. But he kept saying his elder sis is different from me. Haizzz....
Oh..and sometimes, I will nag my hubby to help me with housework and I can't cook. I can imagine his mum or dad complaining to my sis-in-laws that why I have to ask hubby to do housework and why I don't cook for the family at all...u know, that kind of small talks. Urggghhhh..........I can imagine all these happening. |
✿sunshinebaby✿ (sun96)
Advanced Member
Username: sun96
Post Number: 9444
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 5:46 pm: |
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missy, sinmey
the promo for kidstyle still on... got a pair of sandal for my boi with trade-in $10 off the RP... for shoe will be $20 off...
u can try suntec outlet, more choices ba...
actually clarks bb shoe/sandal oso not bad... i passed by their boutique when we r abt to go home... too bad, alreadi got a pair fr kidstyle... keke
missy
u better now?? take care n rem cannot carry kris right... for how long?
srumpee
GUG allow wkend trial huh? how much? consider to bring my boi there to see whether he like it anot...
regarding staying w IL, tat's really depend on u... see which one more important - privacy or yr kids
for me, my mum bbsit for me so i actually want them to move in but they hv their own unit so they are not keen,
i suggested to her to stay at my place during wk day, so my boi no need to wake up early to travel to her place but she said she not used to my place... =(
if i'm planning #2, my hb said his mum can help me to take care if my mum cannot cope but they will be staying w us...
i told my hb shouldn't be an issue as i really need someone to take care of my #2... i oso wan privacy but if really no choice i'll put my kids first...
well, i agreed w seabreeze, once they r in will be forever... think more or less sure got conflict, just hope things dun get worst ba... |
Mummy Bean (mummy_bean)
Junior Member
Username: mummy_bean
Post Number: 142
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 5:51 pm: |
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Scrumpeë:
I had the same problem as you. Recently I had become a SAHM to take care of my boy since my in laws say they are old and reluctant to take care of my boy for us which they had been doing for the past one year. Suddenly a few days ago, my father in law called my husband and suggested to us to get a bigger house so that all of us can stay together.
My husband also had an elder brother who is still single hence he would move in together with them. Hubby is keen on the idea came back and discussed with me. I am only keen because we would be moving to a bigger house but my concern is if ever conflict arises, how am I ever gonna open my mouth to send my in laws back to their house and my husband sides his parents alot. So i can imagine the worst scenerios happening hence I rejected his idea.
I think seeing them once a week is good enough to maintain the bonding btwn them and my son and also us. Sometimes I think I am very mean to think this way but I guess staying together will only solve my son's caring problem yet we are inviting more problems to the current situation.
So I think should avoid staying together at all costs. |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 997
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 6:41 pm: |
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Mummy Bean
We are in the same boat, the only difference is hubby has not informed his parents about his suggestion because I have been putting hold on this idea.
I also think that worse come to worse, I xin ku abit to rush back to pick my son from childcare if the need arises.
I just shared this with my colleagues and they also highlight that there will be money issue. Like increased utility bills etc. I can imagine that cos my in-law cooks and my father-in-law takes 1 hour to shower, dun know what he does in the bathroom. |
missycandy (missycandy)
Intermediate Member
Username: missycandy
Post Number: 4541
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 8:57 pm: |
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sunshine - wooo! thanks. im ok. but nt feeling better. thought i was.. went to buy dinner at the coffeeshop nearby just now... jus crossed the road and already regretted getting out of the house... felt woozy... right leg numbish... i slowly walk to get food.. then slowly walk back home... quite an experience... think i shall stay put at home n rest for another 1-2wks... 
by right not supposed to carry anything more than 5kg for 2-3mths... but sometimes really no choice... i still carry kirs off n on... but short term... sighhh |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
Intermediate Member
Username: lenny_susanty
Post Number: 2536
Registered: 8-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 9:54 pm: |
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Scrumpee...
I would suggest not staying with in-laws under the same roof.. u can stay nearby but not under the same roof...
its very different living under the same roof than meeting often.. the little nitty gritty habits of individual will drive each other nuts and cause conflicts..
To be honest.. when my parents and Bro stayed with us before their unit is ready, i was so pissed and always confine myself in my own room..
we actually talk more now after they have moved out.. i do visit my parents at least once a week..
then whenever my parents offered to come over to stay with me while my hubby is outstationed.. yep.. conflicts arise again..
for us.. if its our own parents.. even there are conflicts. it will be resolved.. after all.. we are bonded by blood.. but if the conflicts are between us and in-laws.. then its really bad.. Hubby definitely become the meat patty in the hamburger..
if hubby really can be impartial be the judge.. and reprimand whoever is in the wrong for every conflict .. fair enough.. (he will be very tired of playing this role his whole life.. eventually will stray? - going to another for peace and quiet)
if hubby choose to avoid and take sides with his parents.. i think marriages will be affected as well.
Once u have agreed to let them in.. its almost impossible to get them out.. Think twice and have a good discussion with hubby |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 998
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 10:59 pm: |
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Lenny and all
I think I m going to have a sad baby....I am really scared my baby girl will not be a smiley baby. I cried so much during this preg, not because of myself. First, is for the teenage girl that I told you all sometime back, she has a new set of issues now that she is tietiary education until I am emotionally drained...and now with this staying under one roof issue with my in laws.
Just now during dinner, I asked my hubby how is his planning for the new house, then he said he has something to discuss with me. Then I told him I also have something to discuss with him. He asked me to go first, so I asked him can we not invite his parents and sis to stay with us for now...because I feel that its his whole family moving in and my house become their house. He kept quiet. So I asked him what does he want to discuss, he said 'no need liao lor'. Then I asked is it that he has suggested the idea to his parents and what did they say. He said his parents are ok with the idea of moving with us. Then both of us total silence. We did not talk during the car journey back home until now...:'( and I don't dare to ask him about the planning of the house again. I really feel like crying now......why why these people give me such pressure when I am pregnant ...why!!!! |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 999
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 11:04 pm: |
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Sunshinebaby
U can try the weekend trial at $50. |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
Intermediate Member
Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4286
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 11:15 pm: |
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Scrumpee ...
Then just leave it as that ... dun go and start the discussion now that you have made a stand. Let him go and talk to his parents and un-do the damage that he has done.
Dun cry lar ... just stick by your decision and leave it as that. If you keep changing your mind just to make other people happy ... you have more things to cry about next time.
*hugzz* |
Mummy Bean (mummy_bean)
Junior Member
Username: mummy_bean
Post Number: 144
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 11:17 pm: |
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Scrumpee:
hugs !! I can really feel for u since we r both facing the same thing. I think there is still room for discussion since ur house is not ready yet & ur hubby should have got ur point jus now. Give him sometime to digest what u have just said and let him sort his thoughts out. Men are always quite slow in digesting info. I guess he won't insist his way and will talk to his parents again k ?
cheer up ! big hugs to u and bb gal !! |
chocolate15 (chocolate15)
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Username: chocolate15
Post Number: 72
Registered: 4-2010
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 11:18 pm: |
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Sunshinebaby,
I'm also considering bringing my son for trial next weekend coz this weekend we've got something on. Spoke to the lady at GUG united square today and she said we can only register for the trial one week in advance so i will call them next monday.
Oh yes, one point to note which i found out today: the bilingual class option is only available at the GUG Suntec branch. The United Square branch doesn't offer the bilingual class. |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
Intermediate Member
Username: lenny_susanty
Post Number: 2537
Registered: 8-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 24, 2010 - 11:20 pm: |
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Scrumpee..
Don't say things like ur baby is going to be a sad bb.. when she arrive.. just love her will all ur heart.. a mother's unconditional love will make a bb happy
i was frustrated a lot while i was preggie with Bree. Its war zone almost everyday at work, company restructuring and i chose to leave.. then when i come home.. i had to handle my own parents cos they are staying with us at that time.. and then my B****** Outlaws... etc.. i almost went mad.
but Bree is a happy bb.. Yes she is cheeky and mischievous, drive me nuts and up the wall but she is really happy.. laugh and giggle a lot..
don;t worry.. you will be fine.. take a step at a time. |
reverie island (reverie_island)
Member
Username: reverie_island
Post Number: 570
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 12:23 am: |
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Scrumpee
my heart goes out to u. Similar prob too. Think positive. By thinking neg u r grooming ur unborn to b sad. Mayb I share w u nxt time. Rem, e key to marriage n communication is.not to use YOU & I but WE. When u discuss, use word like WE than MY. |
missycandy (missycandy)
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Username: missycandy
Post Number: 4546
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 1:15 am: |
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*hugs hugs scrumpee* |
✿sunshinebaby✿ (sun96)
Advanced Member
Username: sun96
Post Number: 9445
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 8:52 am: |
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chocolate
can u book a slot for my boi since u'll be callin them next mon?? let me know wat info i need to provide u n oso payment method =)
great! my boi got companion... ^_^
btw, wat's the bilingual class abt? should we go for or anot during the trial since UE branch doesn't offer?
scrumpee
missy
aiyo... rest more la, dun walk ard if yr condition doesn't allow u... wait for yr hb or mum to tao bao for u... ok... speedy recovering!!! faster recover n organise another gathering!! hee hee
actually miss kris n bree... feel like playing w them now... lolx |
alfafa77 (alfafa77)
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Username: alfafa77
Post Number: 2494
Registered: 10-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 9:11 am: |
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srumpee,
be firm. As an outsider it seems clear to me that you don't want to do it. You're just feeling guilty for putting your hubby on the spot.
You know, once they move in, you will get this conflicting emotions 10x more often. Your hubby will only feel sandwiched much more often. Explain to him and ask him, is this what he really wants?
I trust that he respects your views as long as you could explain to him calmly. I believe if you can be bold and tell him you honestly don't want to do it because .... xyz ... he will understand and drop the matter without feeling upset with you.
Be strong, babe. You can do it. And your baby will be a lovely happy child, sweetie. |
pinksorbet (pinksorbet)
Member
Username: pinksorbet
Post Number: 1810
Registered: 8-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 9:20 am: |
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Re: GUG
I brought my boy for a trial two sats back but it was a total nightmare. He couldn't adapt well at all. Hubby and i took 1/2 a class each, and was struggling with him all the way cos he wanted to crawl about, and was refusing to sit in one position. He started to make a fuss when i was holding him and refused to give him the toys that the teacher has put away. I guess all in all he didn't like and concentrate in the class. There were two teachers in the class. Being the only toddler who was on trial, i guess the rest of the babies knew one another except him. The english teacher also didn't seem to mind my boy much, which kinda puts me off cos hubby also said she portrays an unethusiastic attitude of teaching. Halfway we left the class cos my boy is simply not interested. I guess he doesn't like these kind of structured classes and prefers an environment which his actions are not being confined.
So after my experience with GUG, i told myself perhaps i should only send my boy to classes when he turns 18mths.
Scrumpee - i empathise with U. However as i'm staying with in laws myself (just shifted to my new house two months back and in laws rented their place out), i guess i can only offer advice based on staying with in-laws. I know my MIL is a nice lady, my FIL is naggy but well, i have to take it. No choice. Sometimes i do have issues with them but i told hubby to tell them. They are unhappy with me sometimes too and ask hubby to tell me. All in all, he's the meat in between the hamburger. My hubby is those sort who doesn't like to hide, so whatever we unhappy about he jus tell the party. Lucky for me, he doesn't side his parents all the time. Thank goodness.
I think i have learn to open one ear, close one ear whenever his dad nags. Just have to take it no choice.
However i find that one thing is fighting for attention from my boy. As my mil is the caregiver my boy tends to stick around to her and prefers her over me, which is total upsetting. But i have to learn how to manage it. One pro is that everytime my FIL will bring my boy out for a walk so he doesn't get confined at home.
All in all, i would say privacy is definitely one issue u have to forgo. Besides that u have to learn how to give and take...open and close one eye/ear. However if u have already make your stand, i guess your hubby has to learn how to deal with it. Afterall its YOUR home.
After they shifted in to my place, hubby and i make the stand v clear that it is our house and what we want to do with it is our business. There was once my in law actually said we cannot keep saying its our house cos they are staying in it too. Of course they didn't say it in front of me but my hubby, which after i hear, i was a lil unhappy. Then my hubby retorted back..."but its really my house ma"...hehe
Sorry for the long post. |
Northvirgo (northvirgo)
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Username: northvirgo
Post Number: 307
Registered: 5-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 9:34 am: |
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Srumpee, it's very difficult to live together with in laws. Different sets of expectation. Talk to your hubby. After 1 year of living with my mum in law, i was severely traumatised by her. Don't be pushed into doing something that your hubby feels is CORRECT for him.
Take care. |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
Member
Username: scrumpee01
Post Number: 1000
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 9:50 am: |
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Lenny, sunshine,alfafa,pinksorbet,northvirgo
Thanks for the comforting words. I want try to maintain my stand.
Pinksorbet
Your situation is similar to mine, MIL is a nice lady actually and FIL is naggy...initially I also think staying with them will not be a prob but the thought of them invading my privacy and with a sis-in-law taking up another room in my house really made me think twice. Moreover, my mum is the caregiver of my boy, not my MIL.
Anyway, we haven't spoke about the house again, I will try to ask him again about the space planning because we don't have much time left, need to vacate our current place in end Sept. |
pinksorbet (pinksorbet)
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Username: pinksorbet
Post Number: 1811
Registered: 8-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 10:09 am: |
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Scrumpee - best not to stay with yr SIL. I think it will onli complicate the already present complicated situation. Moreover u r preggie so don't add more problems or issues to yourself.
Good luck babe. |
chocolate15 (chocolate15)
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Username: chocolate15
Post Number: 73
Registered: 4-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 10:38 am: |
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sunshinebaby,
just sent you PM.. |
Jennifer Chng (jennifer79)
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Username: jennifer79
Post Number: 114
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 10:55 am: |
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Scrumpee,
My heart goes to you. What you need to do now is:
1. Find a quiet place to sit down.
2. List down the "unhappiness" or things which may be a problem when your in-laws move in.
3. Present the list to your hubby.
Be strong and know what is best for your family.
You have us here....
Take care dear gal!
Jenn |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
Intermediate Member
Username: lenny_susanty
Post Number: 2538
Registered: 8-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 11:57 am: |
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Hi Mommies..
need some advice here.. kinda desperate that Bree is not eating.. Her PD gave us a bottle of Appelin syrup. to boost her appetite..
does anyone knows how long prior to meal time do i have to feed Bree?
she is prescribed to have this once a day in the morning.. trying to call PD clinic but no one seems to answer the phone.. haiz.. |
sinmey (sinmey)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 12:45 pm: |
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Lenny,
i can understand your frustration.
M was previously has no problem taking her meal/solid.
Now, she simply rejects the solid that I feed her.
For the lunch(12pm) & dinner(5pm), she used to take 1 bowl of porridge. Now, she will eat only 1/3 of the solid and cry liao. tried cook other thing but she will also take very little only.
She used to take a meal at abt 7.30pm b4 sleep. Now, she will scream, turn her head away and stick her face to her highchair.
I gave up and just gave her what she like(biscuit/puff/fruit).
I guess she is still taking enough food, it's just that her sudden of rejection solid makes me sad/frustrated.
Me too dunno what to adv u .. but i did try to eat in front of her more frequent, act like the food is 'very' nice and i am enjoying it so much. It does work sometimes, to interest her to try the food from my bowl. Else, i will give what she like every now & then, like fruit, cake, biscuit, puff ... or milk (she like the Pedisure, which i think it's a bit sweet)
Good luck to u .. i am sure u will find some food that Bree like. |
missycandy (missycandy)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 1:09 pm: |
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lenny - give her ur food ? sometimes Kirs also has moods... she will refuse to open her mouth or shake her head... so i wil give her water... sometimes after some water, she wil continue with her porridge... if not, il keep the porridge one side(usually left less than 1/2) then let her play a bit... then half hr to hr later i wil try again... then she will finish it... nw sure if its good or not... but whatever it takes to make her eat i guess... funny thing is, when she sees us eating, she will want to eat our food.. even if she has finished her bowl of porridge -_-" i always tell her. u eat mummy's rice then nothing left for mummy... then she will jus smile n open her mouth... zzz ... she's quite piggified...
ive given her quite a bit of outside food... wanton mee... fried bun(western shop but only the inside white part)... chicken rice... soups... teochew porridge with steam egg or fish or wadever i can mash up previously... now with gino cutter, anything also can!!! ho ho ho! but not curries n those with a lot of sauce kinda foods... other food as well.. basically whatever im eating or hb is eating... heh... |
lizy (lizy)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 3:11 pm: |
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Scrumpee, I just read your posts about the issue of your in-laws staying together with you. I can understand your worries and concerns. Whenever hubby talks about living together with his parents, I do feel uneasiness deep down in my heart too. I think this is the kind of situation that most of us are going through in this generation -- I also have a mil who is a nice and a naggy fil and my hubby is their only son. They're nice to me but we're from different generation afterall. Our values are different. No matter what there will be gap somewhere. There is a saying 相见容易相处难, living together will definitely has conflict. But how to make our men understand and agree to our worries leh? I know if I tell my man that I'll have no privacy he won't see the point and won't agree my concern is a concern. He can't feel it. So instead of telling my problem, I shift the problem to children - Something that he can feel and see it. You see you have a boy and your girl is on the way. The reason for moving to a bigger place is so that the boy and the girl can have their own rooms. Even if now they're still little won't need it now but sooner or later they'll grow up and they'll need their privacy especially for the girl. I used to share room with my siblings and I understand that kind of inconvenience... So I gave hubby examples of those 'inconvenieces' I faced when I shared room with my siblings to make him understand the issue. When come to disciplining our children. If living with parents, they're sure gonna interfere. Again, there will be conflict -- conflict in different ways of bringing up the children. When more pppl living into the house, that means living expenses will increase too. Is he ready to cover that. And also the housework. A lot of time our men only think about the good points of living together but overlook these little details that will definitely become the root cause of future conflicts... Anyway, hope these points help... hee... |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 3:42 pm: |
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Scrumpee, hugs to u, don worry, talk with ur husband calmly.
Actually I have the same experience as u last year. Not to include my MIL in this topic as she is already staying with us from the very beginning as my FIL pass away many yrs ago. I'm very happy she stay with me as she takes care of bb Jo very well (close 1eye).
Its actually my SIL's problem. She has a family with 2children. His husband applied for overseas job for 1yr. thus she said she scared to stay alone at home with her son(her daughter 2yrs old staying with her MIL). So she ask if she can stay with us and treat it like she rent the room from us. I dont think tat is the reason as her husband always work night shift(7pm - 7am).
Im de 1st to object and don't agree at all & just like u, me & husband keep silence and I just don wan to talk to him abt this topic. I tot he understand tat I dont agree but the opposite he thinks. he tot i keep silence means its ok.
So i no choice as the SIL also keep asking my MIL. then this SIL very clever, rent out her whole house (abt 1k plus but pay us only SGD300/mth).this 300 includes air cond(on from 10pm-6.30am), unlimited internet, watch tv till midnite, everyday use washing machine(sometimes 2times a day), charge laptop, cook, use microwave, use my sandwich toast till oily & nvr clean, foods, tidbits, noodles, bread, instant coffee...without topping up...the SIL also take my potty(traditional potty) which I bought for wedding and give her son to use without asking me as I put inside de store room!
worst is when the SIL hubby got injured overseas & sent back to sg and stayed with us!!! she only add another SGD50!then everyday charge 2laptop, we watch tv at living room they watch in their room, afternoon at home also switch on the air cond...
wat im not happy is, they are taking advantage of us and her own brother who earns peanuts. my MIL is like their maid. sometimes help them to wash the clothes. weekends they sleep till very late, my MIL go buy breakfast for them and ask my MIL buy Straits Time for them. U know the newspaper so heavy plus all the foods!the SIL ownself is property agent, earning so much and the husband is working with SIA which has so many bonus..yet rent their house to other ppl like 1k plus but pay us only 350 including all the PUB. they also driving Honda car..so rich ppl u see...
its really a nightmare they stayed with us...lucky they are moving out end of this week and I will be so free!!!
Scrumpee, sorry im nagging here despite giving u some advise...hope u can settle this problem with ur husband. tell him how u feel and how sad u r. Im sure he doted u more! |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 3:46 pm: |
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Lenny, mayb u can try feed her some sour fruits like Kiwi or Strawberry to boost her appetite? |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 4:28 pm: |
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Jo's mummy,
Bree is not keen on fruits.. especially if its sour.
Missy & Sinmey.
i/ we tried the following methods just to make her eat
1. Hubby entertain her juggling or headbutting balloon
2. My mom sing, clap put toys on her head trying to balance them and purposely drop it to make her laugh so she opens her mouth.
3. i gave her toys to play while feeding
4. we let her meddle with our lap tops and watch her own videos taken in class
5. hubby lets her have his iphone to play
6.my dad.. a very stern person.. "dance" in front of her to make her eat
7. my bro and his gf tried to tease her and make her laugh.. so she will open her mouth
8. gave her a set of similar feeding utensils and put some of her food inside so she can play.. she end up trying to scoop and feed me..
9. me eating the same food as her every meal using the same utensils
10. she make me feed hubby/ my mom or my bro one spoon of food then she had to take the next..
11. gave her her doidy cup and let her learn to drink from it.. she normally pours all the water on her tray and play with it with her palm.
12. gave her another bowl with her favourite puff.. so she can eat them together.. she self feed and i feed her porridge.
13. brought her out of the house to have her meals.. cafe, restaurants, poolside, playground
14. carry her in my sarong sling at home and walk around trying to feed her
Food wise:
i have 3 basic cereal base and different food jars to give her a wide range of variety for breakfast..
lunch and dinner.. porridge.
will alternate between pork, beef and chicken cos she dun like fish
then organic vege: carrots, broccoli, peas, pumpkin, corns & spinach will alternated with different combinations (puree and finely chopped to mix into porridge)i tried giving her steamed pumpkin cubes so she can self-feed
tried zucchini, parsnip, turnip, potato, sweet potato, butternut squash
all porridge will be cooked in vege stock or chicken stock and added Shi sen Powder
i tried different consistency of porridge.. from watery to lumpy
i also tried red lentils casserole , she used to love them,.. and tried chicken casserole too..
snacks wise.. i give her her organic puffs. biscuits etc... cheddar cheese toast
recently i tried her on white rice, beehoon, mee tai mak and noodles.. after a few mouthful.. she dun want as well.
she has asked me for Bread, cheese and puff.. and of course.. her all time fav.. Fresh BM - Direct from the source.
don't know what else i can do now. |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 4:31 pm: |
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I have bought a tin of Pediasure for her to try.. hoping to boost her appetite.. but she is allergic .. her skin flared up.. cheeks, elbows, chests and neck. |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 4:38 pm: |
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jo's mummy
your SIL is terrible...sorry to say that. Really taking advantage of you. Ok...at least for my case, my SIL is a nice 20 something young lady, clean and neat, so I don't think she will mess up my house. But is the giving up of my space and privacy that I am not comfortable with. I mean now we all have our own house, own space, why need to change the status and create unnecessary trouble and tension.
I can't guarantee to my hubby that I can live with my inlaws in harmony and i will ask him to think what if one day, we really can't stand each other, will he ask his parents to move back? Is he prepared to be passing messages for me and his parents whenever we are not happy about each other. I mean I never stop him from being fillial to his parents, I never question why he gives his parents so much etc.
And I agree with Lizy, we are from different generation and brought up differently, conflict is inevitable. And when we first bought the new place, he never mentioned abt inviting his folks over, i had planned it nicely that we have a master room, a room for the boy and a room for the girl and he get his own study room. But I am sure if I raise this as a reason, he will say that he will find an office space to work then so that the house can accomodate his parents....I am like 'urgghhh!!!!' If I had known that this is the plan, then I won't move, so that we won't face this staying with in-laws issue.
I think I will raise this with him tonite, can't drag already or else the renovation can't be finished on time. If he wants to dilly dally, then I will move back to my parents with the kids, he can go back to his mum's arms. |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 4:50 pm: |
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Scrumpee, I understand that its really NOT ok to stay with in laws...
I can feel u really "hot" now, try to cool down & don't use the "will move back to my parents with the kids, he can go back to his mum's arms." when discussing with ur husband. im sure this will hurt ur relationship with him..try to manja manja and tell him u don wish to stay with in laws..tell him that u both bought the new place and want to stay happily..don wan ppl to disturb etc etc... |
pinksorbet (pinksorbet)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 4:57 pm: |
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Lizy - as i read through your post, i got reminded by the reasons that i actually gave to my hubby too. I told him that in future his parents may need to move back to their own place cos of space constraints should we have more kids. The reason he retorted back? "i've been sharing room with my sister when i was young too and it turn out well! Moreover we should not cultivate selfish thinkings of having their own rooms to our children, must learn how to share loh". As for living expenses, he thinks having parents to stay together will lower cos don't need to give so much household income to them since they are renting their own flat out. So i think it really depends on how individuals think. My hubby is always so smart to come up with a reason to defend my arguments! Sigh.
Lenny - My boy has feeding problems too...i did some of the actions that u were listed too, so that sounds v familiar to me! Nowadays he has associated the tv with his meals. I know it isn't good but i guess i dun have a choice cos this can be one way to make him eat. I also let him play with phone, my hp, the remote control, etc. I guess i was being desperate in searching for ways. It takes two persons to feed him too, one person to entertain him by reading him books and the other feeds him.
Jo mummy - your SIL and family is terrible. I guess your case is similiar to my fren's. The SIL wants to move in and rent out her house, which she did but the worse thing is, she doesn't pay a single cent to my fren and her hubby.
Scrumpee - yes be honest to your hubby and give explanations why. I hope your hubby listens and understands. All the best! |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 5:03 pm: |
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pinksorbet, yes the SIL family is really terrible.more terrible story which i cant finish if i wan to continue writing here. i just wrote a 2 or 3 paragraph u all already can feel they r terrible..not to say I had stayed and stand their whole family for 1yr!!! got 1 period where i really cant stand them,after bathing bb Jo and myself, eat dinner, i just go into my room with baby, close the door until bb sleep. nvr hav eye contact with them nor any conversation..just like im the one renting the room from them. also tat time had a hard time with hubby as i keep complaining to hubby and hubby just keep quiet. i know he has no choice as his sis ask him and my MIL. very hard to reject.
however, im glad that 1yr passed so fast!! thank god they moving out this weekend when im not ard as i bring bb Jo back malaysia!! hahaha |
strawberrys79 (strawberrys79)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 5:25 pm: |
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Hihi...
The "staying with in-laws" topics discussed here kinda freaks me out. brought me memories....
The last time when we were searching for a flat..hubby kept telling me he wanna stay with his mom (of cos will include his step-dad even though he didn't say but they are married how to separate right?)(hubby is also the only son, only child) I could feel my heart 'drops' each time he brought up this topic.
So in the end, the solution was to find a flat near theirs. We did and now we are staying opposite block.
This is the best solution for me to avoid staying together.
My in-laws would still pop over as and when but until now, i've not given them my flat key. I know it's very mean of me...but i need my privacy. I want to walk around bra-less or wear super short shorts..etc etc |
strawberrys79 (strawberrys79)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 5:27 pm: |
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Scrumpee, if u really don't want to stay with in-laws, u will just have to voice out to your hb. I don't think your hb will force u. Yes, he may be upset for a while..but talk to him nicely to let him see your views. It can be done.
Good luck! |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 5:29 pm: |
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i found that many of us likes to braless at home..hehehe...same goes to me...even my MIL also..i can walk ard braless next month!! |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 5:38 pm: |
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Pinksorbet
yes yes yes! my hubby also thinks he can give his parents less since they will have income from the renting of the flat. That is also one of his reasons. But i feel that the sronger reason is because he can't help but felt sorry for his parents that our son is not close to them. But I think that is invalid, our son is not the only grandchild, my in-laws have another 2 grandsons from my elder sis-in-law whom they see quite regularly. Right now, I am trying to find a childcare that provides transport to fetch our boy to and fro and that will be an excuse for me, that I don't need my MIL to stay at my plc just to fetch our boy. I called up My Little Skool at Pearl Bank which is near my mum's plc, they have arrangement with this uncle to fetch children to and from school, I will pay a visit to the school next month and check it out.
Lenny
can't help you with Bree's eating prob cos my son can eat super well, will cry for food. |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 5:42 pm: |
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hahah...jo, wearing a bra is very uncomfortable, wear whole day at work, so must let loose at night.
Thanks strawberry, I will talk to my hubby nicely, I an naturally not a hot-tempered person. |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 6:41 pm: |
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Scrumpee..
Words cannot describe my envy for those moms whose babes who ate really well.. |
missycandy (missycandy)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 7:16 pm: |
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lenny - u eat her food... hw abt she eating ur food? like hawker food u knw... try chicken rice? previously i had to give kirs a bowl to play with when feeding her.... but stopped after awhile... now is watch tv while eating... shes a fast eater.. so must have tempo when feeding her n be fast... if too slow after awhile she wun wana eat .. -_-"
i guess every kid has their own way of eating and wants... just have to try n see what works best... if all else fails... just give milk... according to my parents, my eldest brother was a super fussy eater... refused a lot of foods... so no choice just gave him more milk... as a kid he was chubby lor... then teenager thin... then adult become rounded... lolX! |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 7:30 pm: |
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missy..
at this stage can give chicken rice? oily right?
Bree takes a long time to swallow.. she will play with food in her mouth then swallow
now all she wants is Breast Milk.. and i am latching her on much more frequent.. having sore nipples already |
miss83 (orange_juice)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 9:45 pm: |
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lenny
my boy is not a very good eater as well.. he is choosy.. he used to only love cereals and for 5 months I had been struggling to feed him other healthy food other than cereals. he didn't like chicken, beef, fish, porridge. but at 11th month i tried rice and he likes it. but only rice without the meat or vege! and then a friend told me that her daughter started to refuse porridge and soup..so she made everything fry with onion. and so i tried too..i fry the meat with onion and vege..and feed him with rice. first 2 weeks he still cried and cried..but he did eat! although with crying..I did force him too eat too. I never force him before because I read that it's not good to force bb to eat. but what to do... I consult with 2 PD..and they all say this is just a bad habit..he was not used to the taste of meat..so how to get him used to it if I don't make him eat? and after 2 weeks..he got better..he eat without crying and there are days he eats so well and finish it... but there are also days when he refuse the meat but eat rice only. but I am still relieved because i know I have achieved some improvement.
I know how stressful it is. I've been there and I did cry occasionaly out of stress.
I hope you have a breakthrough soon too! hang in there. |
Ann (annt)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 9:45 pm: |
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lenny,
how abt not giving in to her milk demands? i read somewhere that if the kid is hungry, she has no choice but to eat what you offer her. of course, easy in theory, hard to practise cos we are all afraid to starve our kid or result in them losing weight...
Oh ya, when my son keeps food in his mouth, i will gently poke his cheeks then he will swallow..
i also have some feeding problem with my son, but not as severe as yours, he just does not like fibrous stuff, even like apple, where there is still "zha" left behind after you chew as opposed to like cooked carrots. I'm just waiting for more teeth to sprout to help him in chewing cos he only has 6 teeth now.
Is Bree teething, i have also read other mummies complaining that her babes just want milk when they are teething cos their gums are sore.. |
missycandy (missycandy)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 10:40 pm: |
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lenny - ya oily. heh. but nt say give all the time. once in awhile. its ur preference really. u cn also try the japanese sushi rice. Kirs likes it. or chawanmushi. |
missycandy (missycandy)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 10:59 pm: |
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next wkend is the motherhood exhibition at expo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! anyone going? heh heh heh |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 11:02 pm: |
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miss83,
thanks.. everyday.. or i should say.. every meal is a torture to me, i am drained trying to feed her.
Ann,
She has lost half a kg over 1.5 weeks.. this half kg is my effort over 1.5 mths.. i cannot bear for her to lose more weight since she is already so small sized
missy..
i am tempted to give sushi rice.. but i am concerned about the prep.. if the chef is using the same glove to prepare raw and cooked toppings.. and apart from that.. Bree is allergic to seafood.. chawanmushi does have prawns in it |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 11:03 pm: |
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Missy..
would love to go to the exhibition.. but too far for me.. by the time i get there with Bree.. Butt and back crack liao.. |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 11:04 pm: |
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oh Missy..
forgot to tell u.. i also cannot eat chicken rice or food that are too oily in the likes of KFC and Pizza hut.. i will LS... muahahaha |
reverie island (reverie_island)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 11:26 pm: |
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Lenny
Sorry to hear that Bree is not improving.. so far, i nvr encourage watching tv, playing toys etc during eating. At most i distract her by looking at something or sing her songs etc. I am not sure why bree is not eating. i give similar food and bb eatin. however there was a period of time she ate at most half each meal. Maybe she was teething.. Generally she is still ok. 3 meals 3 milk and 2 fruit and sometimes star puff.
Hope bree will get better.
Dear all
We sold our place at kovan last yr and moved in with in laws to save costs so that i can be sahm. It is hell. hear of 1 mountain cant have 2 tigers? Here is 2 tigress and 1 tiger... haha... u will be amazed all how petty a thing they can pick.. it is too lengthy to write and hubby does not like me to share...
Staying her i have learnt to close one eye, keep my mouth shut, being igorant, one ear in one ear out blah blah...
I am glad that we are finally moving out and this also mean that our expenses will go up too... we are moving one road away fr them...
opposite is, their parents care nothing about us once we move out...
Just to share, when we went for honeymoon for 3 weeks and we asked them to come and see see our house some days and they said not free and really din come. but when granny and uncle went for holidays, mil so free! she went to each house to clean every week for 3 weeks! why the double std?! Hubby oso disheartened but he just live with it cos they are still his parents... |
don (donroxx)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 25, 2010 - 11:33 pm: |
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pinksorbet..
re: GUG
sorry to hear about your experience at GUG. my boy was the same - unable to sit n concentrate during class. some days he would be a good boy, other days he will climb table and chair. they will need to get used to the environment and that takes time.
i've also discovered a lot of "pre class preparation" is needed to have him be a good boy. He needs his nap, be well fed, feeling comfy and happy and not be rushed. We make it like going for a big fun outing. During class, i'll encourage him to participate (which is hard for me cos i'm not out going but i try) and making a mess is ok. We also do not switch care givers as it distracts him.
the person going to class with him is also important. according to the teachers he is a different boy - very giggly, very outgoing, very excitable, very cheeky - when my husband brings him to class. with me, he is very "zen" haha.
my boy's english teachers at GUG United Sq are quite good. they know how to handle fidgety kids and my boy loves one of the teachers. personally i prefer the structured environment cos his parents are super unstructured. we are hoping he will not become naughty like his parents haha.
Lenny and Sinmey.. my boy is a non eater but i found his "weak spot" - Chicken Rice (shao ji fan). sounds crazy but maybe try chicken rice? if scared oily, can DIY. here's what i do..
Ginger
Garlic
Pandan leaf (optional)
a bit of milk
a bit of butter
rice
just cook everything like u cook normal rice.
Jo's mummy .. yeah happy for you that your sil is moving out! |
missycandy (missycandy)
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lenny - wow... okie... hmm they sell pumpkin chawanmushi wor... maybe u have to ask them if have prawn or not.. not sure abt that... im not sure how they prepare the sushi n the rice... if you are concerned, u might want to buy the rice, vinegar n cook it yrself... or no harm just buying 1 piece to let her try... i do understand that Bree has allergies and ezcema... but do see if you can expose her a bit... not sure if it will be harmful to expose or to avoid... both also have probs n cons i guess... but 1 thing for sure... Bree is feisty! hee |
missycandy (missycandy)
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wah donrox... nice recipe to share... hee hee... maybe il try for kirs one day... hee hee...
actually for me.. before 1 yr old i was quite particular abt what she ate... but after that, slack a bit... let her eat outside food.. taste... shes quite piggified when it comes to outside food... lolx.. i guess she likes all the new and salty/oily taste... lolx...
for her dinner today.. i made beehoon soup... very strt forward... i jus use ikan bilis powder(home made), beehoon, dried scallops, mince pork and brocoli.. throw all into her slow cooker... after 1hr ready liao... heh heh heh... has soup also... so she ate it all up... kekeke |
st (stjt)
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Post Number: 2259
Registered: 4-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 9:50 am: |
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morning ladies...
lots of "sick cats" around do take care..
missy hope u getting better and got my whatapp msg too |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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Post Number: 1204
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| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 10:01 am: |
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thanks donroxx!! |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
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Post Number: 1004
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| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 10:27 am: |
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Hi mummies
Had a talk with hubby last night over the in-laws staying over issue. Both of us heard each others reasons, while I do understand his points, we agreed that we will put this on hold until there is a need to raise this again. So now, our plan for the house is status quo, no in-laws. Thanks to all mummies for your comments. Really appreciated. |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
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Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4288
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 10:29 am: |
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Scrumpee ...
Glad that you spoke to your hubby and make your stand clear. Actually I dun mind my MIL cos she is q ok and qin cai by nature but have to 1 ear in and 1 ear out type cos she talk faster than she think hahahaha but now still got my SIL and BIL who are not married.
In fact my SIL (32yr old) is not even dating yet so whenever my hubby said eventually my MIL need to stay with us ... I said wait till my SIL is married then come and talk to me. My greatest challenge is actually my BIL cos he is abit 'slow' in terms of mental and physical and lives in his own world. Even my hubby got more and more problem communicating with my BIL these days ... so I guess he himself might not bring it up too as he knows they all come in a package.
Lenny ...
I guess Bree belongs to the category of fussy eater ... how abt giving her smaller portion but feed her throughout the day? Dun get too stressed abt it k ... you are already doing a great job!!
On pediasure ...you have to dilute it cos its v heaty ... my #1 had fever and broke up in rashes aft he tried pediasure
So for SH ... since he is eating well (though he prefers standing around while we have dinner to eat our food) but oso need 'entertainment' during meal time .. I didnt bother to try pediasure. But he doesnt drink milk/water from bottle so we need to spoon feed him is milk and water.
Thank goodness that he recently learned how to drink from straw ... save some trouble too heehee
Missy ...
I saw Kris video on climbing up the highchair ... she SUPER SUPER ler heehee |
✿sunshinebaby✿ (sun96)
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Post Number: 9457
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 10:40 am: |
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lenny
mayb tis talk will be useful...
http://imcms2.mediacorp.sg/CMSFileserver/documents/006/PDF/20100526/2605SPP047.pdf
dun stress yrself, u r doing a gd job already... *hugs* |
Jennifer Chng (jennifer79)
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Post Number: 116
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 10:52 am: |
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Dear all mummies,
I have a problem and I need help....
M elder gal, Jermaine, refused to go school since last week and complained to my mum that her teacher "scold her in a loud manner". She also said her teacher "scold her because she asked many questions". She was very unhappy and had high fever followed by 2 days MC.
When I checked with her teachers, they denied everything and said Jermaine is very clever and quiet in school.
When she saw my cousin, she wanted to stay with them knowing she would not need to go school if she goes to stay with my cousin. When my cousin wanted to send her back after 2 days of stay, my gal was very moody and told my cousin she doesn't want to go school and she is scare of the teacher.
I feel very sad and hurt that my gal used to be very chatty and lively but ever since she went to school, she is seen moody and refused to talk. I thought of withdrawing her from school since she is so unhappy.
Any advice here? I need help...
Thanks. |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
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Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4290
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 11:07 am: |
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Jennifer ...
Suggest that you have a good talk with your girl and which teacher in particular is she talking about. Good to clarify that cos at times the school might be really noisy and the teachers just happen to raise their voice at that 1 instance.
How long has she been in the school? |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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Username: lenny_susanty
Post Number: 2547
Registered: 8-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 11:18 am: |
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sunshinebb,
Thanks for patting me on the back..
i am so tempted to go.. just concerned about how Bree will behave throughout the whole seminar.
Seabreeze,
Thanks for patting me on the back.
Mommies,
I have been having nightmare that Bree has been admitted to hospital due to malnutrition. |
meebaby (miyomee)
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Username: miyomee
Post Number: 739
Registered: 12-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 11:46 am: |
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Don..
Wow not bad what..you can cook chicken rice somemore.. at least your cooking is better than mine haha, I don't know how to do it. Did you add some brown rice? Brown rice is very nutritious..
As long as you have been making an effort to make homecooked food for Lucas, he will understand and appreciate your effort! =)
I hope she will be eating homecooked food as long as she could.. junk for now are baby cookies and pinched marmite.
Mummies, what tv programmes are you showing to your LOs? Care to share She loves the story telling session by this Dutch girl on babytv..umm I'm slogging in the kitchen most of the time so didn't take note what it is called but she loves it.. I must get her to give me a storytelling session one day haha! |
meebaby (miyomee)
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Username: miyomee
Post Number: 740
Registered: 12-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 12:05 pm: |
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Scrumpee..
Gratz! Great to hear about no inlaws for now, hope you are able to find peace now and enjoy your motherhood for the second one |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
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Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4297
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 12:18 pm: |
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Lenny ...
Think you are too stressed up liao ...
Relax and if Bree is still alert and active ... I guess she is doing fine except that she is on a smaller side.
Meebaby ...
SH usually watches Barney, Leapfrog and Mummy & Me (its a 30mins song and dance video which is those playgroup setting)when he is having his meals. No TV unless the Gor Gor is watching ... usually oso things like sesame street and stuff from OKTO - no cable at home heehee
Ok maybe some korean serial if my mum is watching hahahaha |
meebaby (miyomee)
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Username: miyomee
Post Number: 741
Registered: 12-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 12:43 pm: |
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Now she'll hand me the remote control 'ask' me to switch on the tv for her.. faintz.
I'll only do that sometimes for her don't wanna make it a habit..
About watching tv programmes during meal times, I've succeeded in getting her to sit on the high chair throughout the meal..so am cutting down of letting her to watch tv programmes while eating already.. |
sinmey (sinmey)
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Username: sinmey
Post Number: 416
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 1:57 pm: |
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Lenny,
OMG, so sorry to hear tat Bree had been admitted ..
Don't worry, she will be fine under the medical care there.
You too .. take care and rest more.
Meebaby,
M loves to watch baby Einstein (Mozart), baby IQ, baby first song from Babytv ... guess what, she likes to watch the weather forecast from channelnewsasia .. haha |
chocolate15 (chocolate15)
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Post Number: 78
Registered: 4-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 2:07 pm: |
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Sinmey,
my boy also loves the weather forecast from CNA too haha... think it's the tune.. |
sinmey (sinmey)
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Username: sinmey
Post Number: 417
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 2:14 pm: |
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Lenny,
sorry ... it was just in your nightmare ... i thought it's real .. scare me !!
u r too stress over this liao ... dun worry too much
Hugz to u & bree ... |
sinmey (sinmey)
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Username: sinmey
Post Number: 418
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 2:15 pm: |
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chocolate,
especially the spinning globe ... she sure will run & stand in front of the tv & watch ... pointing at the globe and talk in her alien words... u r right, maybe the music too .. haha |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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Username: jo3309
Post Number: 1205
Registered: 5-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 2:24 pm: |
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sinmey,
r u a property agent? mind telling me which company? keen to work as part time! |
sinmey (sinmey)
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Username: sinmey
Post Number: 419
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 2:32 pm: |
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i am with ERA ... u sure ma ? |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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Username: jo3309
Post Number: 1206
Registered: 5-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 2:33 pm: |
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oh..my friend's fren's husband is also in ERA..earning very much oh...
hmm..wan to earn $$$$ also..then i can quit and be SAHM!!! |
sinmey (sinmey)
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Username: sinmey
Post Number: 420
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 3:05 pm: |
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haha .. but you will need to prepare to sacrifice your weekend & weekday evening lor ..
good ambition .. become a tai tai .. no need to work & afford to spend $$$ .. haha |
don (donroxx)
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Username: donroxx
Post Number: 464
Registered: 5-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 3:10 pm: |
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Missycandy.. alamak i havent eat lunch and got hungry reading about your beehoon soup. did you throw in the bee hoon in the slow cooker too? my boy also crazy about outside food - french fries, chicken nugget (he dislike meat but will eat chicken nugget), ice cream, steam corn, milo, ribena. hard to say No to him when he screams til the whole mcdonalds stare at us.
Srumpee.. yeah for you! glad it worked out.
Jennifer.. go with your gut, if you feel it is better to withdraw then do it. i would think a child is always innocent and expresses what they feel and think outwardly. so if there is something amiss or she is not comfortable with, her behaviour will change accordingly.
Lenny.. oh my, don't stress too much cos our babies need us. if she does not want to eat, then drink more milk? change recipes, change tastes, change environment?
Meebaby.. trial n error la. see adult recipe and remove what i don't want my boy to eat. so far he likes the chicken rice and is ok if i hide chicken in his rice. he also likes nasi lemak rice. now headache what other rice to cook.
i dun think Lucas understands the effort but hubby does. so i'm using to it "persuade" him to eat healthy too. small monkey see big monkey eat always want to eat same thing u see haha.
re TV.
i dun have babytv so my boy watches playhouse disney. he likes the music segment only - mickey mouse clubhouse, handy mandy, pororo, special agent oso, etc etc. other things he likes - wiggles, barney, thomas and bob the builder.
re remote.
at least your girl ask you to switch on. mine will self service then hide the remote (faint). |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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Post Number: 1207
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don, so funny ur boy..my boy will snatch the remote too, then press and put into mouth also..he also likes outside food. he will wan to eat our food when our food is served then he don wan his porridge anymore...
Scrumpee - Happy for you!!!
Lenny - Jia You! |
Srumpee (scrumpee01)
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Post Number: 1005
Registered: 9-2004
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 3:57 pm: |
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My boy also wants to eat whatever we eat On top of his own food. If we refuse to give him, he will also cry out loud and start to throw tantrums.
TV, I did not really have a fix TV prog for him, he watches whatever we watch so more of HK drama. But he is not a TV addict, only like certain commercials because of the jingles and weather forecast.
Oh..just to check, do your kids likes toys? My boy don't really like to play with the toys we got for him. He likes to use his fingers to scratch corners, the floor like digging for gold like dat. And when I give him a toy, he doesn't grab it with both hands, he will use one hand to push it around or again use his fingers to touch it, that's all. So I hardly buy him toys, most of his toys are presents from his full mth and birthday parties. |
Queenie (bel_vodka)
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Post Number: 3026
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 4:07 pm: |
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hi every one
hope all doing fine.. and still rem me i hope haha..
working now.. so stress but juz got a lil time to read a lil..
srumpee
so glad that you n your hb come to an mutual agreement .. keep your moods as light as possible ok.. i wan see u n mei mei happy and of coz eames and papa happy too
missycandy
heard u had an op, hope u recovering well n soon.. :P
got a Qns to ask:
Tristan boy stop latching on me for at least 3 - 4 consecutive nights already! but when i squeeze i still see Milk supply. but doesnt engorged. anyone know how to make myself stop the BM supply? coz i wan go do some lift boobs treatment.. haha im so saggy now.. :|
TIA |
SeaBreeze (seabreeze)
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Username: seabreeze
Post Number: 4299
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 4:16 pm: |
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Queenie ...
Just leave it ... the milk will take some time to go away.
And give you a 'warning' ... now v fertile so if you are trying for #2 ... Jia You if NOT ... XIAO XIN!!!
Hahahahaaha |
meebaby (miyomee)
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Username: miyomee
Post Number: 742
Registered: 12-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 4:51 pm: |
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haha.. funny reading all the mummies' posts here..
think she is one silly girl lah.. she aimed the remote at the tv trying to switch on the tv but in vain thats why she 'ask' me to do it for her..
Don.. piangz. But yes that's a good way to influence since they imitate the adults.. haha
Oooh.. so the tune of weather forecast so attractive to them yea..I'm suprised wow wow mine too! she likes the 6:30pm channel 8 news' forecast tune too! And she will dance too.. now her moves are swinging from left to right, right to left along with the grooves! rofl! |
jo's mummy (jo3309)
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Username: jo3309
Post Number: 1209
Registered: 5-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 4:57 pm: |
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bb Jo also likes the weather forecast for 7.30am. my MIL always ask him wan to watch 早安你好 o not. then he will also dance. left to right and swing his hand and shake his head too! |
Celine Low (celineysl)
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Post Number: 177
Registered: 6-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 6:11 pm: |
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HI all mummy go and see this thing GOOD AND VERY CHEAP leh!!!!
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/581296/4027811.html?1274867836 |
Lenny Susanty (lenny_susanty)
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Username: lenny_susanty
Post Number: 2548
Registered: 8-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 9:22 pm: |
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Sinmey & donroxx..
Thanks for comforting me.. i will try to hang on.. |
Ann (annt)
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Username: annt
Post Number: 254
Registered: 2-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 10:08 pm: |
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Hi Lenny,
not quite a solution to suggest to you per se, but i read about this shop in United Square that sells prepared meals especially for babies and toddlers. Rather than you spending time cooking different food for Bree to see what she might like, you might consider buying the premade food from them instead so that you at least cut out the stress of cooking?
http://www.petitbowl.com/
their menu seems quite interesting and they actually do delivery.
i must add though that i have not personally tried any of their stuff... |
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