Recent content by queen17

Interesting. this is new for me to hear. I guess something must have happened for your wife to give slient treatment? Have you spoken to her and your mother to try to find common ground? Forbidding you from speaking to a parent is odd. I have never told my hubby that. The CCTV thing, sounds...

My husband told me to confront his mother myself too. He also told me to break the ice with her when she give me silent treatment. I wanted to be a good DIL so I decided I will take this advice and action on it. I broke ice with her few times and confronted her about why she was giving me the...

Are you me or in the position of my hubby? I think mainly, main gripe is, my husband should have my back and shouldnt forget that we are a team.

I hope you find peace with the situation soon.

Sorry to hear. Divorce and separation is always challenging to deal with. I hope you find some solution/peace soon.

hmmm he doesnt sound like a stable guy. Three affairs.. and then tricking you into moving out and separating. how many kids do you have with him? He doesnt sound like a good guy. Maybe count your lucky stars and try to move on? maybe someone out there for you, can make you happy again.

Agree. Actually getting a divorce and co parenting is not so bad if husband and wife can mutually split. Maybe we can find other partners that are more suitable. But my son is very young. These are the formative years, I do want to keep my family 2gether as much as I can. Sometimes trying too...

I feel like we are the same people, so many similarities. My husband acknowledges finally now, after years, that his family is toxic and have unhealthy conflict resolution methods. He is trying, but sometimes he slips back into bad habits which he learned in his home growing up and it causes...

Thanks but I need time to think about this.

Just to be clear, I am not the one pushing him into a corner, and making him choose.

I don't own my son. After interacting with his wife, If I sense she is good hearted and treats him well..that's enough for me. His wife does not need to do things the way I did. She is a different person, different generation etc. I definitely won't start a power struggle, which is what alot of...

Yes. I want to teach my son how to be a good partner and father and standup man. I am not selfish. I don't see my son as my "retirement plan". Having kids, was my choice. It wasn't my son's choice to be born.

You're right Abt my husband, he is stuck in the middle. Thanks for your suggestions:)

Agree. I also think, men often have this conflict - mother or wife. But they don't understand, we are two different people, with two different roles, and if they serious about the relationship, they must pick wife (assuming wife is not a raging psycho or narcissist) and if the mother was mature...

Yes I do want to maintain relationships. But I realize not everyone is reasonable. I have told him that I feel he doesn't have my back. At first, he disagreed with me. After a year or two, he started to realize my point and he realize our relationship is cracking bcos of drama coming from his...