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jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 2
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Monday, March 22, 2010 - 10:27 am: | 
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Hi All
If you know anyone willing to employ pregnant mum to be, please let me know.
My boss has been picking on me and the whole company doesnt seem like me around.
My boss has employ someone to take over my job and he keep picking on me.
I had been mentally down and is very tired of this. I am sick and tired on giving it my last fight.
I had a strong feeling that they will be firing me today as they had proposely ask me to go back office at 4.30pm today which i will have nothing to do for half of the day.
I really very sick and tired of all this type treatment.
Can anyone help me please ?
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Diana (september)
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Username: september
Post Number: 1756
Registered: 3-2005
| | Posted on Monday, March 22, 2010 - 10:39 am: |
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if you did not make any big mistake, then file a complain to Ministry of Manpower. |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 4
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Monday, March 22, 2010 - 11:48 am: |
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I had tried talking to my boss, asking them if i did anything wrong. They wont tell me.
I told them, if i did anything wrong, please tell me, i will amend or change for the better but they just kept quiet.
Its really scary and make me worry daily about my work.
I know i can file a complain to MOM if there is no mistake make but they are using excuses like slack performance to attack me.
They are not communciating with me on whats wrong with me. I also not sure what i did wrong.
If i make a mistake, please tell me and i am willing to change and work for the better.
Its a painful for me. I am like sobbing daily.
Its bad for me and my baby. I really need help.
I can only wish for the best and let them decide my faith.
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- (juv)
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Username: juv
Post Number: 13
Registered: 3-2005
| | Posted on Monday, March 22, 2010 - 3:22 pm: |
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if it is due to slack performance, the company must show proof that they have spoken to you on several occassions but there is no improvement. Are you still on probation? |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 7
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, March 23, 2010 - 4:27 pm: |
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Nope
They had only spoken to me once only |
Yvonne Low (yv0nne)
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Username: yv0nne
Post Number: 88
Registered: 1-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, March 23, 2010 - 4:42 pm: |
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jocelyn, i got asked to leave..
pls go to the MOM now before they ask u to leave or wad. and remember DONT tender if they ask u to leave. And MOM can only do things if ur company sack u within 6 months before ur EDD.
If u feel pressured or wad, pls go book an appt n see MOM and tell them what u feel now. They will launch a investigation. only do this when u feel tt u r leaving d company liao..
REMEMBER: DONT TENDER URSELF. only if they terminate u, MOM can fight for ur 4 months maternity benefits! |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 11
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2010 - 10:10 am: |
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Thank you Yvonne.
Will note your advice.
I will not resign.
I will see if they terminate me or just keep on pick on me .
Hope you are well now. |
LT (lovelybun)
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Username: lovelybun
Post Number: 12
Registered: 7-2009
| | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2010 - 11:08 am: |
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They are not suppose to do that as its against e law...go to MOM and ask for advice..n please do nt be sad cause BB will be sad too..tink of BB and all will be good
Cheer up babe. |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 13
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2010 - 11:43 am: |
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Thank you LT.
I will try to stay cheerful.  |
strawberrys79 (strawberrys79)
Junior Member
Username: strawberrys79
Post Number: 271
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, March 27, 2010 - 10:11 am: |
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Hi Jocelyn,
Like what LT said, dun resign or be force into resigning, meanwhile still try to do your work as well as you can.
don't let them affect you. take care! |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
New member
Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 14
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, March 27, 2010 - 11:44 am: |
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Thank you strawberry.
I will not resign. i will see what they can do, i will do whatever i can to stay in the job.
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kueh dah dah (kuehdahdah)
Junior Member
Username: kuehdahdah
Post Number: 228
Registered: 8-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, March 28, 2010 - 9:49 pm: |
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Jocelyn,
stay strong. How many months pregnant are you now?
I understand how you feel, don't cry everyday, it's bad for baby. Jia you! Not matter how bad things are now, it will end. Try your best to drop all the ill feelings invoked by the lousy company after work. |
Sheryl Yeo (sheryl85)
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Username: sheryl85
Post Number: 44
Registered: 11-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, March 28, 2010 - 10:37 pm: |
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stay strong for ur baby!~ MOM will be there to back mummies like us~ dun worry and put too much ya li on urself!! |
maybemummy (maybemummy)
Member
Username: maybemummy
Post Number: 606
Registered: 9-2008
| | Posted on Monday, March 29, 2010 - 7:47 am: |
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This seems to be a common issue with companies in S'pore. Although the government is encouraging woman to bear more kids but unfortunately unscrupolous company such as this one makes it hard for woman to have a baby. The best option is to speak to MOM and get them to lodge an investigation do not let such companies get away with treating pregnant woman with such disrespect. if they have an issue with your performance proper process and procedures needs to be followed and documented and from what I read they have not complied. |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 16
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Monday, March 29, 2010 - 1:18 pm: |
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I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and its tough for me to stay clear of mind. My mind keep thinking that i will lose my job. I will try to keep myself happy and so will my baby.
I am working hard to keep myself employ. I am really stress out but i will try to stay cherrful for the sake of my baby.
Thanks all for your encouragement.
Here i understand that i have someone who understand how i feel and can advise what to do.
Really a big THANK to all of you.
I will still need to work harder to keep myself happy and in the job.
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Angel (the_gift)
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Username: the_gift
Post Number: 14
Registered: 12-2009
| | Posted on Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 5:57 pm: |
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Hi Jocelyn,
Stay strong and positive.
Guess the reason your boss is not communicating with you is they want you to tender so that they dun have to pay you the 4 mths maternity benefit.
Just stay positive at work and do your best. |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
New member
Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 18
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 31, 2010 - 1:13 pm: |
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Thank you Angel.
I will stay as positive as possible. |
Wellness (health)
New member
Username: health
Post Number: 57
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 31, 2010 - 2:33 pm: |
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Hi jocelyn,
its hard to handle work stress and your own mental stress esp when you are expecting...
My heart goes out to you...
However, responding to your 1st post i actually have an opening and seriously, i do not mind if you are pregnant or not...
I welcome part time and full time, call me some day if you are still considering.. |
tt8310 (tt8310)
New member
Username: tt8310
Post Number: 23
Registered: 9-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 12:23 am: |
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Hi Jocelyn,
Be strong and stay happy! Though you are only 15 weeks pregnant, but trust me, your baby can feel it. So, for the good of the baby, you must stay calm and cheerful.
p/s: if you are considering other options, pm me. |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
New member
Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 19
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 9:40 am: |
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tt8310 & health - how am i suppose to contact you ? how can i know more about the details ?
I will try to be strong but it is very tiring to keep on fighting. its really very stress and tiring. I been trying to be strong and try to stay cheerful but when ppl around you are behaving so badly to you. you will really like to think twice about it. |
Ivy (karena)
Junior Member
Username: karena
Post Number: 340
Registered: 1-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 3:12 pm: |
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Hi Jocelyn, pls be strong n try to hold on~
Me too, have similiar experience. Tendered my resignation B4 i knew I preggie, then they keep on wanting me to stay which I did, BUT they did not give me back the letter. 2 weeks later, I knew abt my pregnancy, told them abt it, their attitude 360deg CHANGED!
Once I took MC cos of my severe morning sickness, the next day, gave me excuse saying that cos of my pregnancy, productivity will be low n will affect work. I was so pissed off, moment of anger, I say very well, I resign immediate lor! N they somemore can say I no need to give them any notice period of 1 month cos the letter is still with them!
So, u see, this is 1 of their MEANS to force you to leave~ |
Sheryl Yeo (sheryl85)
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Username: sheryl85
Post Number: 73
Registered: 11-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 4:47 pm: |
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I think all mummies face empolyment wif local companies esp working with small firms.
For mi, i'm having gynae visits issues and leave prob. Cos my #1 frm previous marriage wasn't legal hence no benifits.
Now expecting #2, my leave nor mc isnt even enuf to cover. Gynae MC i dunno if they do accept but i'm trying to push for it.
Aft birth, they request mi to take onli 1mth maternity stating they are reali super short-handed if i go for straight 4mth.
But my plan was to go for 3mths, keep that additional 1mth as back-up leave. But i think they wun allow..
At a lost now also, to take 3mths or 4mths straight.. |
Diana (september)
Member
Username: september
Post Number: 1794
Registered: 3-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 4:54 pm: |
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kids from previous marriage why no benefits? wat u mean by nt legal?
then if company dun allow u to take all 4 months, then how are they gng to compensate you? i do heard of companies paying their staff for those maternity leave they do not take. do check it clearly wif ur company. |
Wellness (health)
New member
Username: health
Post Number: 58
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 9:10 pm: |
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Hi Jocelyn,
I believe i replied your email already...
Hope you seriously consider and give yourself a chance to change your life...And give me a chance to HELP you change your life...
Cheers... |
Sheryl Yeo (sheryl85)
New member
Username: sheryl85
Post Number: 76
Registered: 11-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 9:37 pm: |
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not legally married to the father hw to be eligable for gov benifits?
ya, do haf to check on that. |
Lingbel (lingbel)
Member
Username: lingbel
Post Number: 896
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 9:49 pm: |
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Hi Jocelyn
Mark your EDD date on the Calendar, Whenever U feel frustrated and angry, look at the date and calm now. Always feel happy and relac. Tell yourself, my company is paying me to sit here, I dun tender, see what U can do to me...
If U realy wanna tender after U taken all the leave, then tender |
tt8310 (tt8310)
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Username: tt8310
Post Number: 27
Registered: 9-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, April 01, 2010 - 9:50 pm: |
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Jocelyn, you can email me at hmtt2303@gmail.com |
Siti Fatimah (yoyoblue)
Member
Username: yoyoblue
Post Number: 533
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, April 04, 2010 - 7:14 pm: |
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Hi mummies, my company pays me well but they dont know i am pregnant till now. I am almost 24weeks. I wear big clothing thus nobody knows. I am waiting for 26 weeks than i will informed them.
Especially private sector, once they know we pregnant, we are handicap to them. They torture us mentally. The pressure makes us wanting to Quit. So better keep quite, dont tell the anything, received normal treatment.
My buddy lost her job, they retrenced her when she is 20weeks pregnant. MOM does not help her at all, they just tell her to deliver earlier 7t month so that she can claim from the EXcompany.
She did not informed company her pregnancy but she is BLUR , she wear pregnancy cloting, as her tummy is expending.
I had checked with MOM two matters
After 3 months pregnancy - Company cannot terminate a staff. IF ther TERMINATE they have to pay your 2 months maternity leaved.
After 6 months pregnancy - Company cannot Retrenced a staff. If they do so they have to pay your 2 months maternity.
But all the above still means you lost a job for few months and nobody want to hire a pregnant woman. So better keep quite, take annual leaved and Medical leaved for check up to avoid company to find out. Unless we work in GOVErment service we can declare our pregnancy earlier cause goverment would not go bankrupt and they obliged MOM law.
Do not resigned is my adviced. Stay cool. My job is tougher cause i am in Safety LINE. So i have to do alot of work, Diving also at times but now i told Doctor to state i am Asthma patient so i cant dive temporary till next year.. |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 20
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Monday, April 05, 2010 - 9:18 am: |
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Dear All
For me, i cant hide my stomach, my stomach start showing when i am 2 months preggy.
sheryl, if i am not wrong, you are still entitle to the 2 months benefit that the government give. Company additional 2 months you may not be able to receive.
Health, can we talk thru email about what you mention ?
I am in my 16 weeks soon and i hope all will be smooth running and just sit in office, do what i am task to do, dont do less and of course with some initaitve and try to see if its improve.
I have decided to clear my leave the during the last month of my preggy. meaning i will choose to go on leave on my 36 weeks. while it seem like i have another 20 weeks to go. I only wish this 20 weeks to be flying pass (during at work) and slowing down whenever i do my scan and relaxing at home (enjoying myself).
I think i am trying to be strong. I am like having teary eyes daily at night, my hubby is worry but also he find in annoying. Maybe God wants me to learn it thru my life journet thru it.
Count down to 36 weeks!!!!! (20 weeks to go)
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Diana (september)
Member
Username: september
Post Number: 1797
Registered: 3-2005
| | Posted on Monday, April 05, 2010 - 10:20 am: |
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Siti,
I dun think the above compensation will apply if u deliberately hide your pregnancy from your empolyer lor.... |
Siti Fatimah (yoyoblue)
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Username: yoyoblue
Post Number: 536
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Monday, April 05, 2010 - 10:58 am: |
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I email MOM and asked when i was 12 weeks pregnant, i still keep the email for documentation proof against my employer. MOM say it is not a must for us to tell our employee if we are pregnant.
We can even informed 1 week before we go into labour. Unless it stated in our working contract it is a must to tell the employer. Than there is a breach.
http://www.mom.gov.sg/publish/momportal/en/communities/workplace_standards/employment_standards0/Maternity_Leave.html#eeo
You can see above link under Advice to Both Employees and Employers . |
Siti Fatimah (yoyoblue)
Member
Username: yoyoblue
Post Number: 538
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Monday, April 05, 2010 - 11:04 am: |
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A company does not have a heart. Some are so mean that they find fault with you and due to stress you loss the baby.
Only human have heart, but due to system in the company they become heartless. They refused to pay the maternity leaved for 2 months ( For 1st & 2nd baby ) they find fault with you till yoi resigned or they terminate or retrenced you.
Lucky i am having 3rd child so 1st-4th month maternity Goverment will pay during my employment.
If company retrenced me after i declare 6 months pregnant, than they have to pay my 2 months another 2 months will be goverment.
This is not about hiding or cheating, this about benefit goverment gives us and some employers take advantage of pregnant woman like us. we are like handicap to them. |
Sakie Sake (sakie)
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Username: sakie
Post Number: 4
Registered: 12-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, April 11, 2010 - 3:46 am: |
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I'm pregnant and I got laid off. I'm currently 32 weeks and it's not worth looking for work now as no one would hire me or holds a position for me. I'm the bread-winner of my family. I can only advise you to look on the positive side; otherwise you may experience a very negative pregnancy since your body is now going through major hormonal imbalance which also causes great mood swing. If you allow too much stress and negatives into your life during this time, you may even experience a more severe postpartum syndrome. Take this opportunity to enjoy motherhood; and again, look on the bright side. |
Wellness (health)
New member
Username: health
Post Number: 60
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, April 11, 2010 - 11:37 am: |
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Hi SAKIE,
Regarding your posts, I believe I can help...
PM me if you still looking for an opportunity... |
Zolldoll (zolldoll)
Intermediate Member
Username: zolldoll
Post Number: 2334
Registered: 6-2007
| | Posted on Monday, April 12, 2010 - 11:43 am: |
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Hi, i was in the same flight as you few months back before i delivered my gal. My boss is one very horrible man, and he tried all ways and means to make me go on my own accord. I was very sad and depressed and did not know what to do. Wanted to resign but felt silly in doing so and forfeiting all my maternity benefits. He used to be very nice to me till i was pregnant.
Almost soon when he knew i fell pregnant, he assigned another girl to take over all my duties leaving me to feel useless and not having to do do anything. Next, he made me feel very small by the words he used or by showing me his black face almost daily too. I tried tolerating as much as i could and did it. My advice is if you cant, then take maybe one whole month of unpaid leave, that still beats resigning and you need not see them for a month before you deliver. You can destress and be happy for a month before delivery.
Good luck, all the best. |
BDreamz (babedreamz)
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Username: babedreamz
Post Number: 2
Registered: 4-2010
| | Posted on Monday, April 19, 2010 - 11:20 am: |
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hi jocelyn,
Is this your first pregnancy? I empathize your situation and i was once in your shoe. Hear from us, you must stay strong and hold your stand firm. In Singapore, pregnant women has protection from MOM. Don't fall for anything, just do your daily work like usual. Business is as usual even if you have any physical disabilities or pregnant.
Pregnancy is not a disability and women have to perform as normal. In fact pregnant women is putting in additional effort and double productivity, fyi.
Stay put and be strong, for yourself and for your future. |
MummyTiger (mummytiger)
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Username: mummytiger
Post Number: 5
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 20, 2010 - 10:33 pm: |
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Mummies,
Just hang in there.
Somehow i feel that bosses, especially male boss, have this type of problem. They cannot understand woman's pregnancy cos they will never have the chance to experience it.
Sad to say, I am also facing the same problem.
I used to have good working relationship with my boss - male. Now he is worst than MCP/Bastard!! The day I informed him about my pregnancy, this is where it all started or "begin" to change.
He started to load me with lots of double workload, very unreasonable workload. Lots of last minutes request and expect immediate response. Hand me with difficult tasks and expect wonderful results!!In summary.. he is going "all out" to make your life miserable.
This is my first pregnancy, after 2 years in the company, i dun feel that i am taking any advantages from the company or from him personally. Yet he can react in "funny" ways. He cannot get over the ideas of 16wks maternity leaves.
He also have a family - wife n kids, yet he cannot understand everyone wants/needs to start a family too!!
For many months, i dragged myself to office, enduring his "torturing" treatments day-by-day. As i keep telling myself.... soon.. soon.. baby is coming out. Feel positive... be cheerful.. else baby will be affected.
For me.... now i am on my last lap... going for ML soon, but not soon enough. Anxiously waiting to "get away" and have some peace of minds. Long periods under "pyscho" torture.. might affect own self.
I sincerely hope that.... people that do not have compassion towards mummies... will get to "feel" it someday... somehow... get the similar experience. I believe in Karma.. retribution... God is watching us
"What goes around.. comes around"
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." |
Creamie (facial_creamed)
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Username: facial_creamed
Post Number: 96
Registered: 9-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 21, 2010 - 11:29 am: |
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Hi mummy tiger,
I am using my wife acct to say this.
Wat you say is true, those male bosses are really ridiculous.
I have my own nutrition club and i need some help.
For those mummies who are experiencing difficulties at work can contact me. I will help those who ask for it and i do not mind if you are preggy or not. All are welcome |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
New member
Username: jocelyntsm
Post Number: 41
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 21, 2010 - 3:56 pm: |
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Hi all
I am getting better day by day. I will focus on my work and start to like " you talk all you want, and i just do my job and my best". Now i dont bother about what others say, just do my work. My boss just give me work and i just do my best. Cant finish, i tell him that i cant do some much and will finish tomorrow for him.
Its just life and i have a baby boy coming soon. I should not let this bring me down. I am beginning to plan my daily thinking. Meaning plan to buy things for baby, imagine this and that. staying positive. This make me more happier in work.
Yes i agree, God is watching and i will be better and get stronger day by day - beside we are mum to be or Mum. Nothing is more difficult than to see your baby grow and learn.
Thanks you mummies for your encouragement.
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eun (eun)
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Username: eun
Post Number: 4
Registered: 7-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, April 25, 2010 - 3:34 pm: |
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Hi Jocelyn,
Stay Strong! Do drop us a good news with your new born baby. I would be willing to help if you need any job vacancy which I can ask from my previous colleagues Hr/acct/ admin etc.
Take care. |
crescent (crescent)
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Username: crescent
Post Number: 82
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Monday, April 26, 2010 - 12:18 pm: |
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me oso looking for job till now since i was told to leave previously in feb when he found out i was preggy... |
tt8310 (tt8310)
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Username: tt8310
Post Number: 45
Registered: 9-2009
| | Posted on Monday, April 26, 2010 - 12:26 pm: |
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Hi Cresent, PM me. I'm hiring. We can have a chat to see if u fit the role.
Any mum who has been asked to leave just because u r preggy, pls pm me. I have a few vacancies to be filled. |
Siti Fatimah (yoyoblue)
Member
Username: yoyoblue
Post Number: 626
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Monday, April 26, 2010 - 12:39 pm: |
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tt8310 - Very kind of you to offer Preggy mums jobs. God Bless kind person like you.
I had told my employers i am pregnant for 27 weeks.
No comments yet waiting for them to drop the bomb shelf. |
crescent (crescent)
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Username: crescent
Post Number: 83
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Monday, April 26, 2010 - 12:54 pm: |
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tt8310 - i have alr dropped u a pm |
Wellness (health)
New member
Username: health
Post Number: 62
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Monday, April 26, 2010 - 11:09 pm: |
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Hi all preggy mums and SAHMs...
I have some vacancies in my company as well...
Pls contact me if you are keen...
I am willing to take you in anytime you are ready to start... |
vijaya sharmini (sharmini)
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Username: sharmini
Post Number: 1
Registered: 5-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, May 06, 2010 - 2:36 am: |
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hi there, i am new to this page and was reading the forum.. well i am also currently umemployed and i'm desperately looking for a job as its extremely hard on my hubby. and i am afraid i am getting bored facing the wall almost every minute. if anyone is knows any vacancy is it possible u could inform.. thank u so much |
Jolin (callmew)
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Username: callmew
Post Number: 24
Registered: 4-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 10:35 am: |
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i am facing similar situation as Jocelyn too.. feeling very down and depressed recently..
facing a dilemma if I should quit my job anot..
I recently just joined a new company for 3 weeks already, when I went for interview, i wasn't preg, it was during the time when i was serving notice at previous company then discover i was preg.
after 1 wk working here, i tell my immediate boss that I am preg, because my job require me to travel ard singapore, and also travel to US. after telling him, he express understanding. but he actually went to inform the HR and Director.
later the HR actually called me and say they will be extending my probation till after my maternity leave - no reason given when i asked them , but i will still be entitled maternity leave if i have completed 3 mths of service according to the SG govt law.
i feel very discriminated and unjustified.
shouldn't confirmation be based on work performance ?
ok this is the first unhappiness i felt in this company
next, the moment they knew i am preg, they kinda "down grade" me, my position is supposed to be doing marketing & management tasks, but they make me do all sorts of clerical jobs, like print, filing, binding, pick up calls, keep track of appointments etc,
whenever there is any important meeting or event, my immediate boss will tell me you take a rest and handle back end office work, you no need to go. this end up alot of people in this company guessing how come I don't have to attend. and now almost the whole company know i am preg, cos the HR big mouth go around gossip, and now people treat me see me differently. making me very difficult to adapt to new environment.
I wonder if this is a plot, trying not to make me perform, and feel difficult at work so that i can resign on my own, or they can extend the probation "officially" based on reasons that I cannot contribute.
next the 3rd unhappiness, is my workplace is actually in industrial area, every morning / noon time, evening when i knock off, will smell of the strong COCOA smell in the air, i really want to puke. I very worried it will be harmful to my lil one.
and my office is not ready yet, now I am being seated with 2 smokers in the same room, every day at 10am, 1pm, 4pm, they will smoke outdoor and they will come back smelling of strong cigar smell ! I really don't want to become 2nd hand smokers esp my lil one is now developing ...i have already told them I cannot take the smell and I report to HR and my boss, but they did not do anything simply tell me, ok noted. so frustrating !
every day i feel very depressed in coming to work having headache what should I ta-pao for breakfast and lunch, because eating is a problem here, there is no canteen, no eatery.
I have no lunch kaki at work also..
worse still..yest i had diarhoea, and i went to raffles medical company appointed clinic,
but company refuse to pay for the medical bills cos i am still on probation ! pissed no wonder they say wanna extend my probation. have very strong feeling they are trying all means to make me leave
at 9wks preg now, i know i should be happy and think positive...so i tender last fri, but my boss asked me to stay on, i take back my letter, but still wondering if i shd quit
if i quit, it is difficult to find another job at this period as many companies refuse to hired preg woman. a few job agrency called me, but the moment they knew I preg, they did not get back to me.
facing a real dilemma if I should quit or not.
If i do so, I will lose the 4 mths maternity leave and income...am I very stupid ???
I really regret my decision to enter this company ,never expect this company to turn out different from what they say during interview !
sorry for such a long post...... |
Diana (september)
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Post Number: 1909
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I will say juz bear wif it and hand on there....if u change ur mindset that they are out to make u quit, u will feel happier. Juz take it tat they do not want to overwork u and let u take on lighter job scope nw so tat ur little one can grow well. so mayb tat y they extend ur probation until after ur ML...so tat once u back from ML u can start to take on the actual job scope u apply for.
as for the smoker coglis, as long as they dun smoke in front of u it shld be ok....if u can stand the smell...then rub some axe oil or shang biao you to block off those smell u dun like lor...
if u open up, and take the 1st step to talk to ur new coglis, i believe, u will soon hv lunch kaki and frenz at work soon.
remember, juz take it tat ur company and immediate boss are being nice to u by letting u take on a lighter job scope first....as they still hv to arrange within themselves to hv someone cover u for the post u apply for at the moment till ur baby is born. |
Christine Tham (christine77sg)
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Post Number: 3
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Friday, June 11, 2010 - 4:52 pm: |
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Currently I m 16 wks preg.
I infm my immediate boss (male) of my preg immediately after I get to knw abt it. Cos due to my condition, I hv to tak MCs and HLs. My boss is vry nice. He asks me not to worry and just relax. As I hv impt pjts on hand w tight datelines, he passed these pjts to another colleague.
My main job was to handle projects. But my boss doesn't giv me anymore new pjts and I m currently doing more back stage duties which involves mainly the MD and my immediate boss. So most colleagues thought I m jus a free lodger...everyday jsu sit in office, no wk and jus get paid. Some not so nice colleagues will pass nasty comments and mak things difficult for me at wk.
Actually, I c 2 scenario here.
1) Boss strip us off impt duties.(As in my case) Maks us feel useless and we get nasty comments and reactions fr nasty colleagues due to "red eyes". But some bosses mayb doing this for gd intention, just like my boss. (I really appreciate him, although I can't help feeling lousy at times for being seen as "useless")
2)Boss double our workload. This cld be to force us to resign or thy jus wan us to clear our wk b4 delivery.
I think there really is no perfect situation. It is jus hw we handle it. For me, I try to ignore those nasty comments and think of my baby. I also try to get together with encouraging colleagues to make me feel more positive. |
hunnymummy (hunnymummy)
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Post Number: 269
Registered: 10-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, June 13, 2010 - 3:16 am: |
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I just want to share my experience and lessons learnt months ago.It's a long post but hope it'll help mummies out there
I worked in a company from Trainee up to an executive employee for 3 years plus.3 months Into the third year, I found out that I was pregnant. I then told my HR after 3 months into the pregnancy because I had just transferred from accounts to MICE department begining of the year and was now taking more MCs due to early pregnancy ailments and doctor's visits and upsetting my new dept head.HR then told my HOD and I was given less workload, cut off all site inspections, and later, under the disguise of unsatisfactory performance, my performance appraisal was bad and my probation was first postponed, then terminated and I got transferred to Security dept to handle admin. My HR director dared me to go to MOM, saying that internal transfer, as long as the nature of the job and benefits are the same, even if you are not agreeable, the law will still be on their side.
During that time, I was very depressed. I wanted very much to resign and I know it will be much better for baby also, as the company is known for this kinda wicked acts and they will not stop giving me a hard time until i resign.i was unwilling to take on the new role they assigned to me as that was not wad i wanted when i joined the company.However, my DH wasn't earning a good pay and we would be super tight if I lose my job.But in the end, i still left.Who knoes wad would have happened if i stayed on. i may have more money to spend, but the un happiness may reflect in the mood of my baby, and be with her for the rest of her life. What if i got over stressed and lost her?Money and baby, i chose baby.
Now, 4 months after her arrival, no paid maternity leave although i worked for a long time before my pregnant days with this company, but I have no regrets.I must say we are indeed very short of money.But without money we can survive. If i lose her then over earning more money, i would definitely regret for life.Money can be made, spend wisely and you'll be ok.You learn prudence along the way and the tough times makes your stick closer together and weather it out!i believe we'll laugh at the memories when our kids are grown ups and we're grey.
But i have this advice for mtbs in this predicament.You can have the cake and eat it too.After you divulge your pregnancy to anyone, prepare yourself mentally to take things easy and place baby over everything else. At the end of the day, you didn't wanted baby for the money, but you wanted money for the baby.get your priorities right. if you dun focus on the job and your expectations in it, then you will not be upset by it, wadever happens.until you are sure the company still treasures you and you can still do your part for the company, just do your best in tasks assigned to you, the lighter the job the better, don't expect wad is initially offered. Go to work happily everyday, until the end, if they terminate you, take a deep breath, make sure you get the termination letter, then pack your things and go.If that is such a company, it's good to know it early so you do not pin your hopes high working in the company.When things turn ugly, just be practical and not emotional or sentimental about anything.if they know feelings, they wouldn't do wad they did.the bottomline now is, you must get the maternity benefits.after you pack your things and leave officially. Ask your HR about the 2 months paid maternity leave.The reason you only bring up after you have officially left is so that they will not eat their words and u-turn their actions in a bid to make that part worth - they might as well use you since they're payign you for it - then you'll be in for a longer time of bearing with their nonsense.at this point, you just need them to deny you maternity benefits. Best is to have the issue documented like email or conversation with time, who said wad and word for word jotted down and witness(people around)you can get a friend or your hubby to follow you to the company.You'll have a use for it when you approach MOM later.no need to let them know.just proceed. if possible to stay on,treat their actions and words like kids, don't take it to heart.After work, forget about everything, go home and hug hubby, go shopping, watch movie and do wadever makes you happy.Later on when bay arrived, no more time for these activities already it will do you good if you can earn your way to birth of your child.Becos the money will be impt.That is, however, unless you honestly can do it without affecting yourself and baby, getting depressed all day and night over wad they do or say, i left becos i cant. if that's the case, leaving is the best option. You will not regret. My baby girl is easy to look after because she feels happy and secured, just as i was after i resign, albeit living on maggie and bread for 2 meals followed by a proper nutritious and balanced dinner daily throughout my pregnancy. Her temperament is good because without the influence of others and their stupid actions, i can decide whether to be happy or not.She is healthier than most of babies her age- she's more than a 75% baby!You do need quality food so my proper dinner made up for everything needed for the day!Afterall how many meals you eat a day are healthy?sometimes, not even the dinner is nutritious and balanced.The most important part of the human body is the brain - the state of it determines the wellbeing of the other parts.So happiness is the most important food for baby - being loved and support by DH and the excitement of the new arrival is enough to keep me busy and happy!More so if you're expecting a boy!during my pregnan days, i read in a medical journal that estrogen levels can overpower testoterone levels when mummies get too emotional and upset all the time and girls dun produce testosterone, so wad will that do to the baby boy when his testosterone levels diminishes and no replacement for it?He becomes more feminine than he should be!!dun expect things to turn out well if things has started to turn for the worse.Everyday you go back to the company to work is a bonus, an opportunity to exercise and keep fit before you're stuck at home from the point you're out.All in all, be happy, be confident, be prepared, be healthy and all the best to mommy and baby!i'm sure everything's worth it.Afterall, you may not miss working after baby arrivedTrust me*wink!*Safe delivery and take care!! |
Jolin (jolinr)
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Post Number: 11
Registered: 6-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, June 13, 2010 - 7:22 am: |
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Actually i don't quite understand, the salary that our employer pays us during our maternity leave is claimable from government, right? They are not losing actually, but how come they still treated pregnant mum in this way? |
Jolin (callmew)
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Post Number: 38
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| | Posted on Tuesday, June 15, 2010 - 11:45 am: |
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I truly feel hunnymummy 's words are very well-said !!
same Sentimentals exactly !!
my situation is very much like hunnymummy
further to my earlier post, I have tendered resignation despite the loss of a highly paid salary & 4 mths maternity. I faced alot of exclamation from friends though, sounding out to me that I am so silly etc but only true friends and Mummies who will truly understand the need and priority of placing your baby and health above anything else after hearing my story!
I tender my resignation when i was in week 11.
Before that I was in a great dilemma and was in great depression, causing not only depression and stress to the unborn baby inside me, but also my hubby and parents who truly cared for me, their heart ache seeing me like this.
At week 11, I was already feeling much better in my Morning sickness already. but situation in the office doesn't get much better. it was becoming worse. Director (who is also overseeing HR) wanted my GM to reassign job JD. isn't things obvious ? and whenever she saw me, she will start to give me the kind of "i dun like you" stare look. and other dept see me as a free lodging & clerk as well, started to scream at me at slightest thing, many times alot of things are unknown to me or not my fault at all. I cannot scold back, because I am pregnant. I tolerated I expressed my displease to my GM, but my GM is also facing the same treatment, so he just asked me to let go. everyday i go back feeling down. and i can sense baby inside feeling likewise because I started feeling nauseous again which i don't experience during weekends when I am not working and by right the MS nauseous shd be subsidizing.
I read, when you are stress up, or low in spirits, your hormones tend to be up to help you maintain stability in your pregnancy. and these hormones causes you terrible sickness.
now I am into my week 15. just started staying at home to "yang Tai" for 2 days...
I admit I started off feeling a bit out of place on Day 1, because seeing everyone going to work, while I go to market for breakfast, doesn't feel good..i started thinking about the Money, alot of "what if" comes across my mind. feeling useless, feeling the loss of a high paid salary...tears fall again in the evening..Hubby comforted me, told me, though we have no money, but we are happy, he never feel so happy and peaceful before, I should feel the same too.
today i feel calm. because I know the baby inside me is happy...after reading hunnymummy post, i feel more glad too...this is my first baby, i definitely want my baby to be a happy, secured baby. not a crybaby like me...so I will go on and tell myself to be strong.
one of my friends is encouraging me to open up for business opportunity...
i wrote my pregnancy journal this morning..
recalling back the joy and happiness when first knew i was pregnant, yet the next moment, all the ups&downs emotionally, suddenly feel i have given too much stress to baby from week 5 - week 11..time to make up for baby...
i surf the net looking at cute babies pictures...
thinking of what I can help my hubby, eg iron his clothes, so that he can focus on his career
thinking how to take care of myself eg ensure I drink enough water, eat regularly...
thinking how to make myself light hearted...
watch a comedy , enjoy music...
my friend told me, her 5 mths old baby like to laugh out loud, she feels this probably due partly of her pregnancy, she was taking things positive and light-hearted. i definitely feel the truth in what hunnymummy says.
yes now I am still looking out for a job...i try not to lose hope..though i know the chances of getting a job /company that hire a pregnant woman may be low, though I want to lower down my expectations. but still, never know until you try..so i just try..whenever i see a suitable posting will just apply first.
meanwhile, this is a 6 mths holiday break for me, till delivery..
yes yes..
i keep telling myself, i worked for almost 7 years..never never really have a break, i don't need any travelling trips...i just need some time by myself, time to do things i like, relax and sleep the way i always want and not restricted by weekends ..now is the time to do it !
4 months maternity leave ???
forget it forget it...
yes ... there are many things you need to buy for newborn baby, for your pregnancy, ...but we can always scrimp and buy 2nd hand or ask for handsdown..
but there are many many more things you cannot buy with money...laughter, smiles, happiness, blissful ... |
Jolin (callmew)
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Post Number: 39
Registered: 4-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 15, 2010 - 2:29 pm: |
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i was thinking through Jolin (jolinr) question.
most companies have this sterotype thinking pregnant women will not give their heart and soul in their work, and tend to skive taking MC to go on gynae reviews etc..but have they think about, what about those smokers ? haven't they been taking breaks every now and then from work and went on smoking breaks ?? and what about those who surf net, play facebook, watch youtude in office ? aren;t they even worse than pregnant women ??
actually personally now being a pregnant women, i feel they are even more hardworking than others because they know they need a job more than any others if possible and all they hope is employer can be understanding. it is reeally tiring especially your body going through so much changes, and yet you are trying to give the best to the company
at the same time, actually the government may have overlook this factor, by giving 4 months maternity is actually depriving many women from being productive, because company tend to discriminate them instead !!!!
government intention of giving 4 months is to encourage working women to give birth, but many knew if they are preggie, the company might discriminate them !!
so why is the 4 months / 2 months claimable from govt, given to only working women ??
cos govt want productivity yet also want babies...
singaporean women are deemed as super women ???
what about those stay at home mums, or pregnant women who can't find a job ?? shouldn't the government be thinking of them as well ?
they are doing their part as well to produce little singaporeans for singapore as well !!
well perhaps they prefer to give the tax-payers $$ to support the growing population of FT...rather than taking care of true singaporeans who are burden down by difficulties of finding a job in midst of pregnancy.. |
jocelyn tan (jocelyntsm)
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Post Number: 44
Registered: 3-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 15, 2010 - 3:15 pm: |
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Dear All mummie
image your babies been unhappy inside you !!!
You will start to cheer yourself up.
I am not the only one who will tell you that, But i think i have been thru the low period and i start to think of my future for the baby. They can ask you to left your job but they cant ask you not to want your baby. Decision will be hard to make and time may be tough. I think i learn to bite the bullets and look at things on the better sides.
They can bully me and make me work like hell but i keeping myself in the job is for myself and my baby. Get yourself a life, speak to us (mummies to be in this forum) and i think i get lots of support and courage. You will know not it its not end of the world.
Baby moving inside your body is something that not a 2nd person can share. We should just enjoy it. God will provide. Family will help, Friends will support and encourage.
The world will be better day by day. Remember whats goes around comes around. If they bully you, someday someone will bully them. Remember been kind and good to ppl will help you to be more happy and help to gain good karma for your baby. You can always resign anything you want or just leave after your maternity but happiness during the period of time relay on your mind and your doing.
Take a deep breath and look at the bright side, your baby is by your side.
Like i am writing this now, my little one is moving in my body and supporting the things i write.
To all Mummies - JIA YOU.
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crescent (crescent)
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Post Number: 94
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 16, 2010 - 10:25 am: |
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sharing my experience, I was retrenched in Feb after my ex-company founds out that i'm pregnant, but i'm not able to get any compensation/ maternity benefits due to I was 1 week short from my 3mth. Till now i have been looking out for a job...
I got an offer on last tue and was goin to sign the letter, but after make known to them that i am pregnant & going to due in aug, they rejected me.
I'm very stressed & depressed now due to being jobless and financial wise is very tight as my hubby's take home pay is ard 2k plus less then 3k and we have lots of bills to pay.. not to mention the delivery charges etc.... |
lamb (angrylamb)
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Post Number: 49
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| | Posted on Tuesday, June 29, 2010 - 3:19 pm: |
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hi,i've gt 3 kids n my youngest is 10mths old.i'm oso facing alot of stress at wrk too.my boss is a male n i'm e only sg mther in my dep.there r mummies too but r malaysians.so their kids r in jb.i take care of my kids at nite myself.all 3 will slp with me.my colleagues r olways complaining n gossiping behind me dat i'm owaz on leave or mc.my boss will oso join them in gossiping.i'm rili tired of this work life too n no motivation at all.sme times my boss cn even ask me hw cum i cn't ask my mum or other family members to help bring them to doc take care of them.i mean,yup,my mum is helping me n i gt 2 maids.but they cn only help me but nt take over my responsibilities as a mum rite?my mum is also suffering from depression.so i rili cn't leave her wif kids for too long or wen they're sick.my boss transferred me to another division which requires to work long wrking hours n he's nt increasing my ot allowance.he used to be my ass manager but coz my actual boss retired so he's promoted to my boss nw.he oso stated to me that he WILL NOT approve any of my upl if i ever finish my al.he transferred me over coz he don like me to go bac early.i official time is 5.30pm but i leave bout 6+pm.nw i start at 8.30am n leave earliest 9.30 smetimes 10pm.i gt to wrk on sat too.i cn't do anyting coz i gt no qualifications.so i cn't resign as will be difficult for me to find jobs dat pay me as much as nw as i've wrked in tis co for bout 5 yrs.tho considered low for a 5 yrs service but no choice lor.there's nothing i cn do as my boss picks on me. i feel that government wants us to hav mre kids but oni verbally sets law but nt much actions.rili puts us mums in a dilemma. |
Jolin (callmew)
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Post Number: 46
Registered: 4-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 06, 2010 - 3:25 pm: |
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Hi Lamb & crescent, do not feel despair...
at this moment must cheer up and take things easy
for the sake of the little one inside us...
i agree with Lamb, our govt wants us to have more kids but only verbally ...there are NO laws that protect pregnant women from discrimination etc
unlike in other countries, there are laws that protect pregnant, for instance if employer unreasonable increase work or reject you (after they express interest in hiring you) upon knowing you are pregnant ..etc..they can be fined / face penalty
too bad our government do not see this ...
well..so we have to depend on ourselves...
crescent, we can explore ways to earn income
it may not be as much as before, but at least we know we are putting on efforts to help ourselves and earn some pocket money for baby..use what you are good at and see if they can help you earn some income...for myself, i am good in handicrafts, so i did some corsages and try to sell online..
lamb, understand how you feel...dun bother what people say people do...focus on yourself and baby, tell yrself you must hold on to the job for the sake of $ and baby
they want to pick on you, let them be, so long you have clear conscience. it may be unbearable, but keep reminding yourself, they are not related to you....you have a husband that love you, parents who cares for you...what's more impt than these.
I also been through the depression stage..
especially shortly after I left my job per above
i feel useless and feel the financial stain when my hubby tells me we need to save on this and that
I breakdown and keep crying...
but thanks to my hubby and parents and friends...they encourage and did not give up on me
they give me ideas on what i can do at home, and help to relieve my hubby burden for instance, help to do some light housework like wiping, cleaning the pots etc, and cook a nice dinner for hubby, so that he gets to eat homecooked food after a hard day at work. at this moment, hubby may not be earning alot, but every cents count so mentally yr hubby must feel yr support as well since he is bringing the bacon back
at home, you can also surf net...no need to buy first hand for baby stuffs...we can get 2nd hand stuffs ask around...
we can do it one !!!
Jia You !!! |
penguin_88 (penguin_88)
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Post Number: 184
Registered: 6-2010
| | Posted on Friday, July 09, 2010 - 1:12 pm: |
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Hello all,
I've also been through this stage as well, when I got to know I was preg, I told 2 of my closest colleagues and asked them to keep mum about it. Disclosed it during the 3rd month into the pregnancy to them. One of my big mouthed management team actually went straight and told my boss about it, so on that very same day, he asked us (a few colleagues and me) for a meeting, from there he hinted that if we are not happy with our job, we can simply leave. Don't you think it's really obvious? That's the first hint I have gotten, I struggled on...
Lots of things happened after, he went on to transfer my workloads and reorganised me to another team this April. It was really a tough period to go through as the importance of me being at work is being reduced day by day. I felt I am not needed at work. Further, being in another team required me to learn new stuffs from scratch, the stress added on with my close colleagues drifting away from me, having outings by themselves, not asking me out.
Now, i'm being totally ignored by one of them. My boss refuses to talk to me, I am not asked to join meetings, emails are not being forwarded to me ever since my announcement of maternity leave which will be starting soon.. Fortunately, all things are going to be over soon and i'm still counting down to the day where I can leave this company after my maternity leave have been exhausted.
crescent: your due date is in Aug 2010? Don't worry, it's going to be over soon |
Mums At Work Singapore (mumsatwork)
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Post Number: 5
Registered: 6-2010
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Hi Mums,
If you are looking for work of any kind, you can come check our site out. More details on our Forum listing. We are not a business - we are just a career portal especially for Mums!
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/450761/4089000.html?1279157256 |
Joanne Yang (joanneyang)
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Post Number: 1
Registered: 7-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, July 18, 2010 - 11:17 am: |
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Hi all, I'm new here! ^_^
Am facing the same problem as most of you..
I am currently 14 weeks and EDD is on 31 Dec 2010 and working as a contract staff in EM.. I started working there in Dec last year and contract is supposed to end on 31 Oct 2010. However, I was previously told that the contract is renewable..
When I discovered my pregnancy, I told my head abt it.. At first, she reassured me tat my contract renewal will not be affected by my pregnancy. They may either renew it till 31 Dec 2010 or even till next year.
Fri morning, she arranged for a meeting together with my recruitment agent (cos my headcount is under the agency). Apparently, my manager told the agent tat they will not be extending my contract. Main reason she gave was tat though the company do need the headcount but due to business needs, they need someone to be physically working. Meaning to say she cant extend my contract as I will be on leave and will not be working physically in the office...
Damn disappointed with the way things turned out. I tot being a mum herself she shd understand my situation but apparently not.. Juz bcos I am pregnant my contract is not renewed.
And I recently went for an interview wif an investment bank. I was already confirmed for the position and went down to sign the offer letter. However, after I signed the appointment letter, I informed de manager tat I am pregnant (cant hide cos I am required to go thru a medical check up) and on the spot, they retracted the offer!! How unfair is it! Discriminating issn't it?~
And now I am stuck, with my contract not being renewed and not able to find a new job..
Damn stressed about this! |
whitecookies (whitecookies)
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Post Number: 28
Registered: 5-2010
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oh guessed i am not the only one after reading you mummies' stories. my boss trf me back to the head office and gave me a new scope that i knew nuts about...reason being she cldnt justify me fitting the original scope since I am preggie...dun push it all to the pregnancy..i was upset for 2 whole weeks and decided i will hang on for the next 3 1/2 mths just for the maternity and bonuses. hang in there all mummies! |
Madam Yip (mdmyip)
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Post Number: 51
Registered: 1-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 21, 2010 - 11:32 am: |
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Dear MTBs,
I have 2 temp job vacancies at the moment. assignment is till Oct 2010 - but may extend.
Deskbound job, hourly paid, rates depending on experience. Government agency located at bukit merah.
Basically you are just required to do:
- occasional research
- marketing duties (e.g sourcing for quotations)
- do up powerpoint presentations
- other admin work required
Please note as this is a temp assignment, if you need to go on leave, it will be no pay leave, no medical benefits either.
Friendly working environment, I would say 80% of the time the work is stress free. (I'm in one of the position myself, leaving coz popping soon)
It is ideal if you are currently not employed, and able to commit for the next few months.
Interested parties please email me at inexed at gmail dot com
Thanks! |
flowerjo (flowerjo)
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Username: flowerjo
Post Number: 21
Registered: 5-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, August 07, 2010 - 11:18 pm: |
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Hi mummies,
I am helping my fr to look for a part time helper for his salad shop around Raffles place area. Basically working hours is from 11 am to 3pm. He can only employed Singaporean or PR.
Can PM me for details if interested. Thanks |
flowerjo (flowerjo)
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Post Number: 23
Registered: 5-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 10, 2010 - 10:47 pm: |
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Hi,
sorry to be more precise, the job required standing on the feet for at least 4 hours and helping with food preparation and serving customers. May not be suitable to preggy mummies as it may be tedious and dangerous for them as the kitchen is quite small and tend to bang into each other.
It will be more ideal for those mummies who had some spare time while taking care of their children. |
- (juv)
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Post Number: 31
Registered: 3-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 11, 2010 - 10:39 am: |
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After reading all the posts, I can't help but share my story too. I have also been a victim of discrimination at my workplace. It really sucks cause we are viewed as liability to the company and have to work doubly hard just to prove otherwise. The worse part is no one appreciates it. At one point I was under so much mental stress that my baby was not putting on weight. This was the final straw.
I have also chosen to forfeit the maternity leave for my own sanity and dignity. I figured that my dignity and health is worth more than the leave.
As course money then becomes another issue especially when we are so used to double income and with a baby expenses will go up. But I agree with other mummys here that there will be a way out. I tell myself that if I am not working, I will not need to buy clothes, shoes etc and will not have to eat out for lunch etc. Cooking dinner at home also helps to cut cost. Afterall this will be a passing phase and I'm sure all of us can find something soon. Else, I tell myself that at least I'm around for my baby's firsts. Jia you everyone. |
ettralyn (ettralyn)
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Post Number: 2
Registered: 8-2010
| | Posted on Monday, August 23, 2010 - 9:05 pm: |
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Hi all...
I'm sad to hear that u guys r facing difficulties at workplace just cause u guys r preggy.. I'm currently 25 weeks with identical twins.. came to work today and got send home(not sacked) but on No pay leave cause my boss forced me to rest and so does my gynea... I had used up my Hospitalization leave cause i had an earlier accident that put me on cast for 3 mths.. So i had no choice to take NPL. Terribly looking for a part time job as well cause hubby just quitted his job.. Gosh.. Good luck everyone and hopefully all will make it thru.. And anyone needs to hire to inform me.. Able to work for another month or 2.. |
Joanne Yang (joanneyang)
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Username: joanneyang
Post Number: 2
Registered: 7-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 01, 2010 - 5:47 pm: |
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Hi all.. Yeah.. Damn sad tat we are facing such discrimination. I emailed to MOM to ask for advice & they referred me to the Fair Employment Tripatrite. But no use oso.. They say if the company dun wan to employ preg women we oso cant sue them or wat..
Asked them if got any organization that helps out preg women looking for work & they cant give me any.. Damn sad..
I oso in need of money urgently cos previously owe credit card + study loan.. Every month need to pay $1.5K in total.. Haf been doing so cos now still got job.. Cannot imagine once my contract ends, how I am going to come up with this amount..
Damn damn sad.. |
DTYG (davgwen)
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Username: davgwen
Post Number: 2
Registered: 10-2010
| | Posted on Friday, October 08, 2010 - 12:17 pm: |
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Jocelyn Tan, had u delivered? I can help you look out for jobs. |
seraph (seraph929)
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Username: seraph929
Post Number: 4
Registered: 9-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 12, 2010 - 2:18 pm: |
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Same thing happened in one of my pregnancy. my company --a US company, keep giving me pressure, asked me travel continuously even knows I got pregnan, I was exhausted and depressed. I tried to fight back, but they told me that if I could not take the job, I can resign.
I tried stay on, and i got miscarriage at 4th month! God damn that stupid company -- many many people there divorced and got all kinds of mental problems, HR are just puppies to the US bosses and never really care about local employees.
later in my next pregnancy, I quit immediately after I noticed my pregnancy. It just does not worth that much pain -- you can fight, but yourself and baby will suffer...
Now I am working for myself, and helping mommies. if you would like to consider some work opportunity, can contact me. we may not be rich by this work, but we will be happy and flexible. |
happymother2008 (happymother2008)
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Username: happymother2008
Post Number: 915
Registered: 7-2009
| | Posted on Friday, October 22, 2010 - 4:27 pm: |
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hi davgwen and seraph929, can email me at wendychua1981@hotmail.com for work opportunity, thanks. |
darris guo jinliang (darris)
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Username: darris
Post Number: 1
Registered: 11-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 24, 2010 - 8:55 pm: |
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Hi joycelyn,i think can help you if you need to find a job,or a part time.can call or mail me if you need my help coz i know a few friend in different trade
Darris
91910427/93369546
guodarris@gmail.com |
Hershey (choz_cai)
Junior Member
Username: choz_cai
Post Number: 172
Registered: 6-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, December 11, 2010 - 10:29 pm: |
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hi sunshine,
the onlines survey is it true?
i am also a SAHM too.. no work no income.. >_<||| |
happymother2008 (happymother2008)
Member
Username: happymother2008
Post Number: 1171
Registered: 7-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, December 11, 2010 - 10:33 pm: |
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hi all mummies, I mean i am a SAHM so can email me at wendychua1981@hotmail.com if u have any good work opportunity, thanks. |
HappyFamily (blessedfamily)
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Username: blessedfamily
Post Number: 3
Registered: 12-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 14, 2010 - 7:11 am: |
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hilo
Currently im 26 weeks preggy, but im lookin for a job urgently.
hoping for a home based or office hr job (temp 1~2mth) s i got a daughter to take care.
Do email me jewel_20098@yahoo.com.sg if any1 has lobang
Thank you |
Serene Tan (serkit)
Junior Member
Username: serkit
Post Number: 205
Registered: 8-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 29, 2010 - 1:15 am: |
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hi,
I just came back from Australia last mth and was 4th mth into my pregnancy by then.. no luck in finding job as i noe firm dun employ pregnant woman..
my hubby frez introduce mi to his friend.. talk over the phone.. but nvr get back to mi.. now currently 5.5mth preg..
hubby going back australia for 1 more year studies.. if there is any temp or part time job, i do not mind taking up.. my edd is 1 may..
baby, overseas study and new flat coming next year.. really stain finance..
email me at serenetan82@yahoo.com for any lobang..
thanks a million |
Serene Tan (serkit)
Junior Member
Username: serkit
Post Number: 206
Registered: 8-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 29, 2010 - 1:34 am: |
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hi,
I just came back from Australia last mth and was 4th mth into my pregnancy by then.. no luck in finding job as i noe firm dun employ pregnant woman..
my hubby frez introduce mi to his friend.. talk over the phone.. but nvr get back to mi.. now currently 5.5mth preg..
hubby going back australia for 1 more year studies.. if there is any temp or part time job, i do not mind taking up.. my edd is 1 may..
baby, overseas study and new flat coming next year.. really stain finance..
email me at serenetan82@yahoo.com for any lobang..
thanks a million |
wens (wens)
New member
Username: wens
Post Number: 13
Registered: 2-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 15, 2011 - 5:14 pm: |
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Hi Mommies,
I'm 17 weeks pregnant and have quit my job a few months back. Now I'm with a company working on my spare time and generating passive income for myself. They are expanding now and are looking for more people. If you are interested to find out more, you can either PM me or email me at wenykho at gmail.com |
PLL (pll)
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Username: pll
Post Number: 6
Registered: 4-2011
| | Posted on Thursday, April 07, 2011 - 2:58 pm: |
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Hi, I am a mummy of 2 also and work on my own time on consulting, accounting and hr jobs as well.
My company actually paying commission to person who introduce new clients to us on Recruitment matters. I think this is suitable for mummies who really like to earn some extra money and no commitment of time and work required.
Very easy, just introduce us the HR in charge for the companies and engage us as their recruitment consultant. No cost for the engagement to the client. So long the company hire someone through our company within these 2 year time and the introducer will get the commission of certain % on the fee.
If you are interested, do pm me for detail. |
Magdalene Tan (magdalene99)
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Username: magdalene99
Post Number: 2
Registered: 4-2011
| | Posted on Thursday, April 14, 2011 - 2:13 pm: |
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Your boss doesnt give you maternal leave ? He shouldnt be treating a pregnant lady this way.... |
Sheryl Yeo (sheryl85)
Member
Username: sheryl85
Post Number: 1608
Registered: 11-2009
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 10, 2011 - 3:28 pm: |
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anybody willing to try out http://www.dataentrywork.net/?id=523951 |
happymother2008 (happymother2008)
Member
Username: happymother2008
Post Number: 1275
Registered: 7-2009
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 24, 2011 - 4:33 pm: |
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hi papillion,
where is ur location, can email me more details, thanks
wendychua1981@hotmail.com |
Sheryl Yeo (sheryl85)
Member
Username: sheryl85
Post Number: 1617
Registered: 11-2009
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 24, 2011 - 9:21 pm: |
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Hi papillion
Can email more details? Sheryl8285@yahoo.com.sg |
chewlaichuen (chewlaichuen)
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Username: chewlaichuen
Post Number: 59
Registered: 4-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2011 - 2:04 pm: |
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HI,
this is a very simple referral / data entry job which is online based.. i have tried it out and is working well for me.. so far i have earned some money thru this.. just click on the below link to find out more..
http://www.dataentrywork.net/?id=498393
Cheers,
Lai Chuen
ps. no startup cost involved.. |
CT (yoyoblue)
Member
Username: yoyoblue
Post Number: 1269
Registered: 7-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 27, 2011 - 8:34 pm: |
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Help me to like the post at this link, we might be able to change the fates of Pregnant Mummy that are JOBLESS...
http://www.facebook.com/REACHSingapore |
sapphiree (sapphiree)
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Username: sapphiree
Post Number: 90
Registered: 3-2007
| | Posted on Saturday, July 23, 2011 - 9:57 pm: |
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hi,
its sad to hear that the companies are so heartless in treating pregnant woman. I do understand that being away for 4mths is a long time but its a huge adjustment that the new mother has to make.
Fret now. I have a friend who found a job when she was 5mths preg. And they paid for her full 4mths of maternity leave. Have faith in God and he will provide.
cheers! |
leshia (leshia)
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Username: leshia
Post Number: 12
Registered: 7-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 03, 2011 - 3:43 pm: |
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I've gone thru this before. My company knows I'm pregnant and force me to work in the busiest branch (got stairs to climb up and down) During my mid preg, I have bleeding no choice but to rest but my boss (married woman with no kids) kept stressing me. HR department was informed by my request but they turn down my request. And my lady boss and male boss force me to sign paper the paper that I agreed to leave. They ask me to go in the (small conference) room to talk. They ask me to sign if not I can't leave. I went thru interrogation asking me numerous questions like whether I still can continue to work? Why not stop working? Am I normal? Questions and questions! I'm just an admin but need to do sales. (The rest there dun care about their sales) in the end tendered. After I tendered I left another 3 mths to my edd, I suffered depression and give birth to pre term bb. Medical expenses cost abt 30k (I wasnt prepare) Ive no choice but to ask family for help. My poor son staying in ICU everyday, tried forcing doctor to let me bring him home but unsuccessful coz he stopped breathing. Twice doctor tried and still the same so everyday I pray for him. His body full of tubes and his veins swelled badly so need to poke different part of hands. My heart sank! I learn kangaroo baby from nurses, he start to get better! Although now he fully healthy but I thank GOD for giving me strength and courage to go thru all this.
Mummies out there dun give up juz becoz u have such inhuman bosses! Shld fight back! Let them know how inhuman and cruel they are! |
Chloe (durian02)
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Username: durian02
Post Number: 6
Registered: 8-2012
| | Posted on Monday, October 08, 2012 - 5:30 pm: |
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i m oso jobless soon..i m on a contract job but its going to be expired soon, i told my mgr about my pregnancy n asked her whether i will have contract renewal? cos i need the maternity leave..she said my pregnancy wont affect the contract renewal n ll keep me posted after the status of my contract..after 2 wks, i asked her n she told me there is no approval for contract renewal...tis is reli bullshit excuses, isnt it? she muz b dun wan to gif me the maternity leave benefits,tats y dun wan to renew my contract..rite now,i m so vexed n donno wat to do as contract staff r not protected by MOM laws once the contract is expired...i tried to find new jobs but once companies heard tat i m pregnant, they dun wan to interview me i m so worried abt financial expenses..cos only my husband is working,plus wif baby expenses in future,i scared we cannot cope wif the expenses anyone have any part time or home based jobs to recommend, pls email me at little_rilakkumar@yahoo.com.sg, thanks alot! |
Wellness (health)
Junior Member
Username: health
Post Number: 147
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Monday, October 08, 2012 - 6:16 pm: |
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Hi chloe,
Sad to hear your situation...
I sent you an email, dunno if its thru coz i cant find it in my out box...
I think i can help you with a part time or home based job...
You may call me back if you wish or maybe check your email 1st... |
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