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sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 13
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 5:33 pm: | 
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Hi
Have a feeling that the mummys here are rather young.
Wonder anyone of you are of 35 and above? Do you already feel your body ageing? Ha, I mean the spare parts already not so good. Recently I started trying for a third child. Haven't been successful even with calculation and timing. Wonder if my eggs are no longer good... |
Janet (janet_lee88)
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Username: janet_lee88
Post Number: 6286
Registered: 9-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 8:46 am: |
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Hi SK,
It's more difficult to conceive when a woman hit her 30s. Women are different from men. Men can still father kids even in their 60s. Relax and all the best in trying. Hope to hear good news from you. |
couscous (couscous)
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Username: couscous
Post Number: 1
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 9:40 am: |
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hi sk,
glad tt u started this thread. am also a mum +35. actually, just became a mum this yr.
i also feel my body is not wat it used to be. stiff shoulders, backaches, harder to cope with insufficient sleep, the list goes on...
also worried about my ageing eggs. wd like to have 2nd bb, but wonder if i can beat the biological clock. i bet in near future, women will routinely freeze their eggs when they r in their 20s. i wd have done so if given the choice... |
yap (yap)
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Username: yap
Post Number: 158
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 11:31 am: |
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no worry, I had my 1st child at 34 and 2nd one at 38, oopss... i'm nearing to 4x |
sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 15
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 2:46 am: |
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Yes, biological clock. When I havent been successful, it dawned on me what docs always say not to put off having children for too long cos when you want it you may not have it.
Yap, I think you are one of those lucky ones. My SIL also had all her 3 children after 35, no problem. I hope I can be lucky too. I wished I had made this decision for another child earlier. Freezing eggs? Hmmm, good idea!
Other than that, my knees have become weaker, after squatting need more effort to stand up again. Back also weak. One of my gf just turned 40 got long sighted already! My goodness! |
boo (eleven)
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Username: eleven
Post Number: 1284
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 9:51 pm: |
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hi..i'm close to that.. hehehe...34 this yr.... have been inactive for a while. not like b4. running around like crazy. still want to but just can't with the kiddos... |
yap (yap)
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Username: yap
Post Number: 159
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, June 25, 2006 - 11:03 pm: |
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hi sk, i'm lucky to hv 2 of them, though I have waited till neck long-long for each of them.
Hosp twice for dehydration fr morning sickness for 1st one. 2nd one morning sickness was not so bad.
Don't give up hope, lots of bb dust to you... |
tamarind (tamarind)
Intermediate Member
Username: tamarind
Post Number: 2197
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Monday, June 26, 2006 - 9:44 am: |
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sk, yap,
I am happy to find this thread. I had my first baby at age 34, second baby at 35. I used the ovulation test kit to conceive both of them. Both successful on the first try. I had an easy pregnancy with almost no morning sickness, can still walk for 2 hours shopping right up to the day before I delivered.
But the really tough part is taking care of baby. If I had to wake up at night, I feel like zombie the next morning, sometimes even had to take MC. I used to be able to survive with 4 - 5 hours sleep when I was a teenager, how I wish I had my babies at that time hehehe
Then when baby started to crawl, and I had to crawl after them, my knees hurt easily. When they started to walk and climb everywhere, I feel dizzy when they move around too fast. Sigh...now I hope they fast fast grow up so my life will be easier. |
aa (happy_33)
Junior Member
Username: happy_33
Post Number: 159
Registered: 6-2005
| | Posted on Monday, June 26, 2006 - 11:09 am: |
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Hi Mummies,
Like Boo ...
I'm not 35 yet, but already having problem catching up with my boy.
Currently with one boy, and with no intention to try for 2nd baby. Had always envy mummies with little girls, but the thought of starting all over again puts me off, as my pregnancy had not been easy.
Since we are all 'too old' to run after the kids, any idea or tactic to share on "how to keep them down", at least for a while? |
boo (eleven)
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Username: eleven
Post Number: 1397
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 26, 2006 - 12:53 pm: |
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hi aa,
not thinking of sedating him, right? alternatively, can get thim to do lots of activities in the day so that night time will be a breather..
:+) |
aa (happy_33)
Junior Member
Username: happy_33
Post Number: 168
Registered: 6-2005
| | Posted on Monday, June 26, 2006 - 10:22 pm: |
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Ofcoz not bear to sedate him.
he seems to be very energetic ...
feeling bad rite now as juz now scolded DS ... was very tired today and he's talking at top of his voice since the minute i reach my mom's place. tried to endure but ... ...
seems that my temper getting short these days, maybe need a break these days. |
tamarind (tamarind)
Intermediate Member
Username: tamarind
Post Number: 2211
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 8:18 am: |
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aa,
May be you can try letting him watch some interesting DVD/VCD ? I just bought the Leapfrog Phonics DVDs for my girl, she loves watching them and will quietly sit for 1 - 2 hours watching. Previously she loves Finding Nemo and can sit still for the whole movie.
She also likes Playdough, and building her Lego Fairy tale castles. When she is doing something interesting, she will be able to sit still and concentrate.
I let her attend the Little Gym, where she can do all those "dangerous" and exciting routines. So when she comes home, she is not so interested in monkeying around since she already has all the fun at the Gym :-)
Sometimes I will just bring her to take the MRT on very long trips. She tends to behave very well when she is outside with me. |
aa (happy_33)
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Username: happy_33
Post Number: 171
Registered: 6-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 8:39 am: |
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tamarind,
Recently actually subscribed to Disney Playhouse for him to watch, he'll actually sit still watching his favourite programmes for at least half to one hour. Initially let him watch "Polar Express", "Snow Dogs", "Madagascar", "Ice Age 2", ... noticed he picked up a lot of funny actions from this shows (like used his hand to clean his mouth after milk and sticking out his tongue). Nearly faint ...
Does your gal play on her own? My boy always wanted someone to sit with him, not exactly to play with him (as he'll play on his own), but he just want someone to sit together and watch him. Don't really understand his logic 
For Little Gym, is there any instructor around to coach her? Ever been to see their classes, but seems all quite big boys/girls. Or my timing is wrong. Only concern is whether he'll try to practice all the 'stunts' at home as my mom cannot have 24hrs eye on him.
For the Leapgfrog series, is it really good? I am still deciding whether to buy the Leapfrog series or Vtech (something like that) series. |
tamarind (tamarind)
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Username: tamarind
Post Number: 2213
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 9:53 am: |
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aa,
My girl plays on her own most of the time. Sometimes she wants people to play with her, mostly to help her with more complex puzzles she cannot figure out by herself.
At the Little Gym there are instructors guiding the children to do basic gymnastics skills. They have classes for babies as young as 12 months old ! My girl does not do the stunts at home, because she knows that at home there are no paddings and it will hurt very much.
I find the leapfrog series quite good, there are 3 DVDs which teaches phonics in a fun way. I haven't watch Vtech so don't know how they compare.
I am looking for rock climbing classes for my 20 month boy. He loves to climb everywhere like a monkey, well he is born in the year of the monkey. Do you know of any places where they teach toddlers ?
My girl is going to start attending a new playschool next week. She is 3 years plus now, hopefully she will not get sick so often like before. Any tips on how to improve her immunity ? She has been taking cold liver oil, but seems like not much use. I am thinking of flu jab and tui na. Do you know of any chinese medicine that can help ? |
sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 17
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 11:12 am: |
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I'm using the ovulation test kit also, that's why I suspect my eggs are no longer good that's why with planning also cannot conceive.
Wow Yap, you must be very happy to have your baby after waiting long long. And tamarind, you are really smart to quickly have two consecutively.
Actually as we age, we must really take care of our body. We can only know the consequence from 50s. Like my mom who is in her late60s, I think she did not take care well,now, she has diabetes, high blood, high cholestrol and did a ballooning in her arteries. Recently her arthritis give her a lot of pain. She has to take a lot of medicine and hardly can walk for long. I see her quite pathetic. Compared to others of her age, some are still looking after grandchildren or working. It is like a long race, you only know it towards the end. |
aa (happy_33)
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Username: happy_33
Post Number: 172
Registered: 6-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 5:42 pm: |
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tamarind,
Had always thought rock climbing are for kids like 6 and above. If happen to come across, shall let you know.
Your girl actually takes the cod liver oil, original taste? My son vomitted when I fed him with the original taste one. Whether effective think depend very much on the kids' body.
Think flu jab does not work for my boy. He's been taking flu jab but he still down with flu easily. PD said his problem is more on sensitive airways, than the actual flu. Quite confused when he's down with actual flu.
Tui na? Will it help? Will it too painful for kids?
Lately, my boy's condition is improving. Do not know its due to his better immune system or the soups my mom prepared is working. Now and then, she'll add some chinese herbs into his soup or porridge, but do not know what exactly are they. Will check out and let you know via email lah. |
boo (eleven)
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Username: eleven
Post Number: 1449
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 28, 2006 - 12:10 am: |
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hi,
my 5 yr-old girl went for rock climbing at Climb Adventure at Keppel Rd. That was fun and she managed to scale to great heights. That built her confidence too.
:+) |
couscous (couscous)
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Username: couscous
Post Number: 5
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 28, 2006 - 11:23 am: |
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it seems i'm so far the only 35+ mum with a baby. rock climbing? mine can't even sit by himself... if i could turn back the clock, i'd be a mum at 32. |
tamarind (tamarind)
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Username: tamarind
Post Number: 2221
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 28, 2006 - 1:21 pm: |
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boo,
My boy is only 20 months  I thought it is a good time to let him start learning rock climbing, because his body is so light. I called Climb Adventure, their minimum age is 5 years.
aa,
My girl takes the orange flavoured cod liver oil. I haven't tried Tui Na, just heard that it works for some children. But it is so far away at Changi Road, difficult for us to go.
Thanks in advance for your information about the soup.
sk,
I agree with you that we are more conscious of our health now. I am starting to watch what I eat, when I was younger I don't care at all. Now my cholesterol is borderline high, starting to worry already.
couscous,
If I could turn back the clock, I would give birth at 27 years old, the year I got married. Then now my kid will be so big already. |
KelvinMum (kelvin_mum)
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Username: kelvin_mum
Post Number: 90
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 28, 2006 - 3:26 pm: |
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I've my boy when I'm 35+ and he is 5 yrs old now. Never thought of having a 2nd one cos I was nausea the whole day for almost 6 months. Other than that, no problem at all. |
boo (eleven)
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Username: eleven
Post Number: 1455
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 29, 2006 - 10:50 am: |
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hi tamarind,
the other time i took my girl, she was about 4. i think they let her climb anyway bec of her built. i know why they stick the rule to 5yrs..cos it can be really scary up there...i've tried it too.. intially, rather sceptical. after a while..very shioklah..
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couscous (couscous)
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Username: couscous
Post Number: 8
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 29, 2006 - 12:21 pm: |
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unlike aa and kelvinmum, my pregnancy was smooth-sailing and it was the happiest 9 mths of my life. i miss being pregnant...
however, i have mixed feelings abt trying for the 2nd one. on the one hand, i feel i should be contented that i have one kid,
cos he came along when i almost gave up the hope. i dun feel like going through that monthly disappointment again.
on the other hand, i worry if my bb will feel lonely and yearn for a sibling to play with. many of my frens say tt their kids keeps asking for baby sis or bro.
wonder if anyone feel the same way. |
boo (eleven)
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Username: eleven
Post Number: 1467
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 29, 2006 - 12:59 pm: |
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hi couscous,
it's really true about them asking cos that was what happened to me. however, that was not the reason why i had my 2nd. i just love kids although they can really tear u to bits sometimes.
the only thing i hate about conceiving again is the losing weight after that part cos i gain weight easily.
hhhmmmnnn.
:+) otherwise, i love being pregnant too |
sammi (sammi)
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Username: sammi
Post Number: 169
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, June 29, 2006 - 1:47 pm: |
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Hi all..
At last found some mummies around my age group...
I had my boy when I was 36..now he's 13 going 14mths old...I wanna try for another one..hopefully girl..this year, deliver next yr. But sometimes the thought of it scares me coz dunno i can cope with it or not. But i see my newphew and nieces who are the only child very poor thing...they are so bored at home coz no playmates..and when they meet they play like there's no tomorrow.
Tamarind..u k add more garlic to your kid's meal to boost their immunity. I always put alot of garlic into my boy's chicken soup for him to drink and oso 2 cloves of garlic to cook his porridge. Alternatively, u k try to double boil cordylcep (about 2 pcs) with a pc of chicken meat with about half bowl of water. Double boil for about 2 hrs. I give this to my boy every week (unless he's sick then i won't give)..this is good for clearing phlegm and flu. |
tamarind (tamarind)
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Username: tamarind
Post Number: 2229
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 30, 2006 - 2:06 pm: |
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sammi,
Thanks for the information ! I have heard that garlic is good, but never thought of putting it in their porridge.
boo,
My oldest girl is only 3 years old, may let her try when she is 4 years old.
couscous, sammi,
When I decided to have another baby, the only purpose is to keep my older girl company, so that she will not be so lonely. Now I feel so happy looking at the 2 of them. My girl has learnt a lot of things by having a brother, like she finally understands that she is not the centre of the universe, and she learns to share. |
boo (eleven)
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Username: eleven
Post Number: 1504
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 12:31 am: |
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tanarind,
yup..she had great fun there and still begging us to bring her there. now waiting for my son to turn 4 to bring both there.
:+) |
sammi (sammi)
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Username: sammi
Post Number: 170
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 1:10 am: |
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Tamarind..yup garlic is a very powerful n good veggie..I usually grind the garlic with his porridge so that my boy eats the garlic as well. I noticed that he doesn't get flu or cold so easily like before...he has sensitive nose like i do and I do not like to keep giving him medicine.
I'm planning to hv another bb..i enjoy being pregnant actually despite the 1st trimester morning sickness n gaining all those weight. |
couscous (couscous)
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Username: couscous
Post Number: 10
Registered: 6-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 10:27 pm: |
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i also feel scared if i can cope with 2 young kids as i can't expect much help from my parents & in-laws, and not very keen to have a maid.
i didn't have anyone helping me during the confinement, and the first 3 months after giving birth were really really tough...
anyone here taking care of 2 or more kids alone? would appreciate if you could share ur experience. |
aa (happy_33)
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Username: happy_33
Post Number: 188
Registered: 6-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 01, 2006 - 11:15 pm: |
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Sammi,
garlic taste and smell normally quite strong, how did u conceal the smell or taste? or your boy is ok with it?
pls share. |
sammi (sammi)
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Username: sammi
Post Number: 173
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, July 02, 2006 - 12:45 am: |
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Hi aa
I jus cook the grains, veggies and meat with the chicken soup (wic oso has lot garlic) in the slow cooker..the sweetness of the veggies like pumpkin, carrots, parsnip etc and meat will musk the sharp taste of the garlic..smell wise..not very strong garlic smell leh. My boy has been eating this combination since he was 6 mths old..
Plus he drinks the chicken soup with his lunch / dinner everyday. The garlic actually gives a very nice aromatic smell to the soup n food. |
cln36 (cln36)
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Username: cln36
Post Number: 2
Registered: 7-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 9:22 am: |
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I understand from MIL garlic also helps to make the soup sweet. 'natural sweetness' |
aa (happy_33)
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Username: happy_33
Post Number: 198
Registered: 6-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 11:12 am: |
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Will try to make the soup this weekend.
Another prob is DS dun eat vegie at all. Used to be able to cook the vegies in his porridge, ever since he dun eat porridge, not able to get him to eat any vegie.
Any 'remedy' for that? |
sammi (sammi)
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Username: sammi
Post Number: 182
Registered: 1-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, July 06, 2006 - 2:11 pm: |
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Try hidding the veggies, eg make meat ball with some mashed pumpkin or carrot, pies with some veggies..look into baby cookbooks like Annabel Karmel's to source for ideas. |
sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 20
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Friday, July 07, 2006 - 2:23 am: |
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Hi couscous,
I'm one who is taking care of two kids alone without any help. I'm a SAHM for two years wo maid nor in laws. My kids are now coming 3yo and 5yo. The initial period is tough. It took me one whole year to get used to this lifestyle. Can't remember when was the last time went "pak tor" with my hubby. Whenever I want to do things alone, say go facial, I need to arrange with my hubby to look after them at home. Go marketing also need to bring the younger one along, as older one schooling. Sacrifices yes, but rewards aplenty too. See them grow up together, learn things together and of course fight with each other too! Now that they are older, it is much easier than before. At least they can play with each other while I do my household chores. I used to think if people with four kids can do it, I can do it too. |
sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 21
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Friday, July 07, 2006 - 2:27 am: |
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sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 23
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 12, 2006 - 3:23 pm: |
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Hi
I come across this Women's Public Forum advertised in the Straits Times by TMC titled "Stay Healthy, know Your Body!" and thought it is quite interesting to attend. It touches on brittle bones, gynae cancers, fibroids/cysts and breast health. Unfortunately, it is held on 22July which I have something on. |
miracle bebe (miracle_bebe)
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Username: miracle_bebe
Post Number: 73
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 26, 2006 - 9:53 pm: |
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Hi Mummies,
I am 41yo sahm and have a ds who is 33mths old.I love girls and was very sad (cried for a day) when I discovered that we were gg to have a boy.....but this lovely son of ours is our miracle baby.
It took my dh and I a very long time to conceive and when we finally did, I had very unusual preggie symptoms. Later, this followed w Gestational Diabetes.. |
fei fei (fei_fei)
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Post Number: 5
Registered: 8-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 27, 2006 - 9:40 am: |
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Hi,
I am 38 with 3 boys. I gave birth to my 3rd boy at 36. I think I am one of those lucky, very easy to conceive. Once I lost count that month, I will just get it (that's how I hv my 3rd one). |
Mrs Chew (mrs_chew)
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Username: mrs_chew
Post Number: 3
Registered: 8-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 31, 2006 - 11:44 pm: |
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Hi
I'm 36 with a 10 years old n 5 years old boys. I think i'm the only one here who has a 10 years old child.
Now, my main ordeal is to oversee my eldest in his study. Very siong n frustrating. Even throw out blood. Although I'm into another level of child caring now, sometimes when i look at them and think back their babies' days, i got the urge to have another one again and if i really do, i hope it's gonna be a healthy baby girl! However, on the other hand, we are worried that if the 3rd one is coming, we will be financially very strapped.
Very contradicting right? sign........ |
sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 28
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| | Posted on Saturday, September 02, 2006 - 2:12 am: |
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Hi miracle bebe & fei fei,
It must be tough being pregnant above 35 years old! A lot of concerns, I supposed, like worry for Down Syndrome baby etc. Did you have to do any amnio tests for that?
Mrs Chew,
You are right, life is full of contradictions. However, people always tell me in terms of having children, if you really want, go for it, cos they tend to regret later in their life for not taking that step. Somehow things will work out eventually. |
tamarind (tamarind)
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Username: tamarind
Post Number: 2648
Registered: 4-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 02, 2006 - 8:33 am: |
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For me, I delayed having babies until I was 33 years old, because I wasn't sure whether I want to have them. I got pregnant only because my biological clock was ticking, and I am afraid that I will regret later in life. After I have my first one at 34, I immediately have another one at 35. I think having babies complete my life |
fei fei (fei_fei)
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Post Number: 13
Registered: 8-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, September 02, 2006 - 8:58 am: |
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Hi sk,
I didn't go for any extra test even though it's advised by gynae. I m lucky enough to have a healthy baby and too, I had a smooth and easy pregnancy. I believe, perhaps, I took good care during my 1st & 2nd confinement. |
baby2005 (baby2005)
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Username: baby2005
Post Number: 442
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 10, 2006 - 9:45 pm: |
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Hi all,
I'm really happy to find this thread. I'm 35 and had a 5yo boy & a 1yo girl. I had my first child arnd 30, if given another chance I wld prefer to have kids early. About having a 2nd kid, for me, is more like giving my boy a company but now i find that they are so different and i hv no regret hving a 2nd kid. I enjoy both their company even though sometimes can really vomit blood. |
sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 42
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, November 12, 2006 - 4:32 pm: |
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Hi Baby2005,
You are right, looking after children sometimes can really vomit blood. I note that your children are 4 years apart, may I know do they like to play with each other? I have two children now, 5yo & 3yo, and one more coming next year. I wonder with at 6-yr gap between my 1st and 3rd and 4-yr gap between my 2nd and 3rd, will my no. 3 feel left out. |
duckweed (duckweed)
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Username: duckweed
Post Number: 368
Registered: 8-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 13, 2006 - 2:24 pm: |
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just saw this thread. i have a 25mth old boy and was 34 when he was born. trying for 2nd but still not successful yet. have stopped working for a while so that i can spend more time with my boy and hopefully #2 will come with less stress. |
baby2005 (baby2005)
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Username: baby2005
Post Number: 445
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 13, 2006 - 8:58 pm: |
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sk,
Congrats! Ya, one problem abt such a big gap is they may not play together esp when they are of a diff gender. For my kids, so far, sometimes they will play together but sometimes the elder one will feels that the younger one is disturbing him. There's some advantages though, the elder one will give in, most of the time, to the younger one. But i don't know when they grow older hee... |
sincerity (sincerity)
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Username: sincerity
Post Number: 407
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 13, 2006 - 10:49 pm: |
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Glad to found the 'blossom' girls section. I'm was 31 when I delivered my son, 35 when I delivered my twin gals. My son age 5 and gals are 21 mths. I was telling myself that if I didn't succeed in conceiving before 35 than I will give up and settle for 1 kid...lucky me, blessed with 2 more angels in my life. I love children and they complete my family life. I'm a happy 36+ SAHM taking care of 3 little ones. Physically, I've plantar fascitis and have to wear inner sole to prevent the sharp pain when I step on the ground first thing out of bed. Easily get sprains and really must admit age catching up. Must start consuming calcium supplements now... |
sk (sk4)
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Username: sk4
Post Number: 43
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 14, 2006 - 8:54 am: |
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Baby2005,
Yes, advantages of disadvantages of having a bigger gap, guess one solution is to go for a no. 4 with a 1- or 2-yr gap to no. 3! Ha ha, I must be crazy!
Duckweed,
I did not conceive easily for this baby as well. It gets tougher with age, I realized. I used the ovulation kit to help the timing. You may wish to try.
Sincerity,
I always imagine myself to bear twins, how nice, how special. Envy you, but during pregnancy is tougher? How did you get plantar fascitis? |
sincerity (sincerity)
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Username: sincerity
Post Number: 409
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 14, 2006 - 9:15 am: |
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Hi Sk,
For both my pregnancy, I 've bleeding and was order bed rest for the first 6 mths, alternate days to inject proluton oil based injection to stabilise the pregnancy till ard 32 wks. I also have placenta previa. Trip on my way up the stairs and the 1 & only time and ended up so serious. Haiz...went for physio but didn't help and see improvement only after chinese sinseh.
Thanks. If I have a choice, I would rather have a singelton pregnancy, all the goodness, space around. Unlike multiple pregnancy, there's a likelyhood to have twin to twin transfusion, low birth weight, miscarriage, premature birth etc. When I was 5 mths, I blown up and all my previous maternity wardrobe can't fit me any more, have to tailored made. Of course, I have my sweet moments of joy of double hugs and kisses now. |
tamarind (tamarind)
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sincerity,
What is plantar fascitis ? I also got the sharp pain when I stepped on the ground first thing out of bed, that time I was about 30+ weeks pregnant with my 1st child, singelton. It also hurt every time when I walked.
Are you taking care of all 3 by yourself ? Any help ? I cannot imagine myself taking care of my 2 kids alone, my mother and maid are helping me. In fact, last weekend when my mother went back home, I almost got a nervous breakdown. |
duckweed (duckweed)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, November 14, 2006 - 1:08 pm: |
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hi sk,
thanks for the advice. where can i get the ovulation kit? from any pharmacy?
sincerity,
i had low lying placenta throughout my whole pregnancy, but was able to move around freely the whole time. in fact, i was told by those around me i walk too fast. but i felt healthy, happy and was generally feeling really great. so i'm hoping should i get pregnant again, i will feel as good.
i am also not sure if i understood plantar fascitis correctly. if it's the heel pain, can get the insole for your shoe. my husband used the insole for quite some time and the pain went away. before that, he was suffering from the pain for a long time.
you know, before reading this thread, the idea of being old hadn't sunk in. then today, was reading papers about the high jumper (who happened to be from the same school as moi) and tabulated our age gap and suddenly, it all hit home. argghhhh, talk about rude awakening. |
sincerity (sincerity)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, November 14, 2006 - 2:46 pm: |
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TAMARIND & DUCKWEED,
Plantar facisits is like tearing of tissue of fascia around the heel. It repair when rest, when you step on the ground after some rest, you'll feel a sharp pain, almost limping and then will go away after a while. We can either consume pain killer or certain steriod injections to relieve the pain temporarily of course there are side effects. Been wearing insole at home and while out. Can't do without them. I don't have this problem at all until that trip...So be careful and watch yr steps, posture etc. |
baby2005 (baby2005)
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| | Posted on Thursday, November 16, 2006 - 10:45 am: |
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sk,
I don't think you are crazy, so long as you can afford, it is always a blessing to have more kids  |
sk (sk4)
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| | Posted on Friday, November 17, 2006 - 3:00 pm: |
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Duckweed,
If you go for Clear Blue (available at pharmacies), it costs more than $60 for a few strips. However, there is a bulk purchase going on at this website for ovulation strips at less than a dollar per strip. Very affordable, you may wish to check it out.
Sincerity,
Wow, you really suffered for this pair of twins! I admire your strength going through that period. Hope your plantar fascitis can get a complete cure soon.
Actually, I believe many of us would like to have more kids, but by the time we want to have more, we are getting old for it. It gets harder to conceive is one thing, getting over the pregnancy safely is another, and of course the final safe delivery of the baby. Sometimes, I wished I had started everything earlier, but then again I wouldn't have known the consequence then! Such is life! |
sincerity (sincerity)
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| | Posted on Friday, November 17, 2006 - 4:36 pm: |
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sk4 and all,
I've tried conceiving thru BBT, Clomid, IUI, IVF and IVF-ICSI and finally have my 1st child at 31 after 8 years of marriage. I also have a misacarriage at age 27. So for those who have infertility, don't give up. If you're physically, mentally and financially prepared, go for it. It's Ok, during that period, watch movie show, read up alot on twins pregnancy etc. |
sincerity (sincerity)
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| | Posted on Monday, November 27, 2006 - 7:31 pm: |
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Hi,
Can anyone keen to share with me the experience of doing mammograms? |
sk (sk4)
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Sincerity,
I've done it twice, first time very painful, the other time only discomfort. So I think the timing you do it makes the difference. The first time the doc asked me to go I went straight, but the second time I asked the radiologist what is the best time to go before I book the appointment and they told me, I think, a certain no. of days after menses. So, remember to ask them before you book, if not. . . Don't say I did not warn you!
As for the procedure, you will be asked to remove your top and change. Then, they just press plates onto your breast, one at a time, and also at different angles, and you will be told to hold your breath before they take the x-ray.
Quite fast if everything goes well. If the film come out to be not clear, they ask you to re-do! It happened to me when I did it the first time. After that, I was so sore! |
miracle bebe (miracle_bebe)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 - 8:04 pm: |
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Now that some1 has brought up the topic about mamograms, i think I wanna share my fear..
I'm 41+ n was due for a mamogram when I turned 40.
Since there is breast cancer history in my family, I hv been advd by my gynae on the importance of me getting a mamogram done.
My threshold for pain is very very low n as such, I skipped the 1st year n planned that I wud do it once I turned 41. But as I've shared, I haven't gone for one becoz I am afraid of the pain. From what I understand, one shud do this mamogram about 14days after menses, then not painful lah!
But I scared leh..
No choice, must get it done b4 my next gynae's appt, which is nearing soon.. |
sk (sk4)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, November 29, 2006 - 9:19 am: |
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Miracle bebe,
I can understand your fear. Such is life of a woman, have to do mammogram, pap smear, VE (when preggy), etc. I am terrified of all these. I can still remember when I first did my pap smear, that gynae so inexperienced that it was very painful and I bled! Never heard of doing pap smear will bleed! Of course now change gynae already. Sigh... but what to do, when it is time to do it, just have to force ourselves to do it. |
sincerity (sincerity)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, November 29, 2006 - 12:30 pm: |
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Hello,
SK4,
Thanks for sharing, after reading yr exp, a bit apprehensive, I think must wear a mask liao.
I remembered my first pap smear at polyclinic at age 24. The nurse commented I was too nervous and need to relax and my legs look like an aeroplane wings...so uptight. I was blushing and wish it would end soon. Also, my gynae who did scans for me while early stage of pregnant and scan while under injection and drugs commented that I need to relax if not it'll be painful. Now, I can do it with a breeze liao : }
Recommended age is 40, huh? I've heard from my sis that her colleague was diagnosed with late stages of breast cancer and she appear so healthy and cheerful until later. So pitiful. She's in her mid 30s and with 2 young kids. |
miracle bebe (miracle_bebe)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, November 29, 2006 - 7:44 pm: |
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During my mother's time, she shared w me that there was this young lady arnd late 20's who had last stage of breast cancer. When this lady was diagnosed w this killer disease, she didn't do anything about it. By the time she wanted to seek help, it was too late. The cancer had spread to other parts of her body, so much so that her eyeballs were pussy n were popping out.
By the way, my mother is a breast cancer survivor n was given a clean bill of health several years ago.. |
sincerity (sincerity)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, November 29, 2006 - 11:33 pm: |
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Miracle bebe,
Your mum's a fighter, girl. I think I'll try to arrange for a mammogram after 2 wks of my menses as adivised. Will keep you posted. |
miracle bebe (miracle_bebe)
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| | Posted on Thursday, November 30, 2006 - 7:21 am: |
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Yes she is sincerity, but it's all thanks to the Lord for his Grace that pulled her thru this.
It's a wonder to the doctors actually, coz not long after surgery, my mum was able to sit up and to everyone's surprise, she didn't feel much pain.
So where will you be going for the mamogram? I'll be going to the one located at Outram, which i heard only cost $50.
Wil tell u all about it when I'm done going. |
Regina (yogibabe)
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may i add myself to this list?
i gave birth to my son when i was 34.5 yo. he's just turned 2. i had a smooth pregnancy, nothing much happened but he did arrive unexpectedly at week 38 though... |
sincerity (sincerity)
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| | Posted on Monday, December 04, 2006 - 1:34 pm: |
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Hi Regina,
Welcome abroad. I just joined and would like to make new friends too. Are you homeschooling yr son or make arrangements for him to be at cc? |
Regina (yogibabe)
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sincerity - thanks! he's basically having fun playing at home and in my yoga studio all the time hubby does freelance work so basically he looks after the boy when i am busy in class. i'm actually thinking of maybe putting him in playschool for a day a week to give hubby & myself some time off :P |
sincerity (sincerity)
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| | Posted on Monday, December 04, 2006 - 11:09 pm: |
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You teaches yoga? May I know where? Yup me too. Looking at gym clases for my 3 kids. |
jh (jheng)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, December 05, 2006 - 3:07 pm: |
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regina,
yr profile sounds familiar. were u featured in some local tv programmes b4? |
Regina (yogibabe)
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sincerity - i sent you a pm playschool: i may just send him to one near my studio for convenience. well i am not in a hurry to do that so will see how things go.
jheng - yes i was featured twice this year |
baby2005 (baby2005)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, December 05, 2006 - 6:04 pm: |
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Hi all, was quite busy so didn't come in often.
Miracle_bebe, nice to know u. I did mammogram when i was arnd 25. My GP noticed a mobile lump on my right breast (which most likely it is not cancer) but to play safe he sent me for a mammogram and lucky it was only some fat tissue. If i still remembered clearly, i don't feel much pain but just uncomfortable when the hugh machine press on the breast.
Hi Regina, welcome 
Wow, u r a yoga teacher!! May i ask, is yoga going to be tough for lazy ppl like me that nvr excercise for more than 10 years ? |
Regina (yogibabe)
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thank baby2005
yoga can be tough for people who don't have a habit of stretching. esp those who go into body-building and their muscles all harden...
if you are patient and are ready to take things one step at a time, you will get there some day... |
baby2005 (baby2005)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, December 05, 2006 - 9:38 pm: |
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Regina, thanks for the encouragement. BTW, u teach yoga to adult or children? |
Regina (yogibabe)
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baby2005 - i teach both adults and children, though my kids classes are conducted at 2 childcare centres in woodlands. speaking of lump in breast, i had (still have it) lump in the left breast and it took me the longest time to pluck up my courage to go for a check up. did a biopsy and thankfully the lump was non-malignant. i just need to monitor and so long as it doesn't grow any bigger i should be safe. but the 2 weeks waiting for the report was the most terrifying and depressing period in my life. lots of 'what ifs' surfaced and my poor hubby had to put up with my moods... |
baby2005 (baby2005)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, December 06, 2006 - 9:26 pm: |
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Regina, pardon my ignorant, i always thought that the doc will remove the lump totally when they do a biopsy. Please correct me if I'm wrong. |
Regina (yogibabe)
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hi baby2005 sorry was tied up with work ....
i did it in hong kong and they only removed cells for testing... don't know about the practise here though |
cowandchick (cowandchick)
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Hi 35+ mums. Hope to join in here. I'm over 40! heh! heh! my eldest girl is coming to 10 yrs, but no.2 is just 22 months old! I had him after turning 40!
So for those young mums out there, ie. below 40, don't give up trying for another, if you really want. I suffered 2 miscarriages between no. 1 and no. 2. very distressing and depressing, but that didn't stop us from trying.
today, i can only say i am glad i didn't give up! |
KelvinMum (kelvin_mum)
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hi cowandchick,
Good for you! That is a good age gap between 2 kids. I'm sure yr 2nd baby will be well taken care of by the eldest. |
cowandchick (cowandchick)
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hi KelvinMum.
Well, the baby's good company for my girl. Yes, she's a great help looking after him so that I get to complete my chores, and take a shower!!! But they also have their fair share of quarrels and little fights.
No. 1 is still trying to get used to the idea that the world does not revolve around her anymore. that's kinda tuf if she's so used to being the only kid for 8 years! still learning.
As for No.2, i realise that he picks things up faster. having a much older sibling means he's more exposed to bigger kids' stuff and language. he can't really talk, much understands a lot more than most kids his age.
as for me, i'm enjoying both of them as much. so different and yet so much the same too! |
znzyzyzx (znzyzyzx)
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Hi, I am over 40 too and just had my number 4 six months ago.(My nick is the intial of my four children :-)
My eldest is 11 and I find her a great help in taking care of my two and a half year old and the baby. |
KelvinMum (kelvin_mum)
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| | Posted on Friday, March 09, 2007 - 10:16 pm: |
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znyzyzx,
You are one lucky woman! |
cowandchick (cowandchick)
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znzyzyzx, wow, how you manage? four!!!??? hats off to you! i find it so hard with just 2 |
sk (sk4)
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znzyzyzx,
Wow, I must say you are very brave to have a kid at 40. I'm now 35 carrying my no. 3 and it has been the toughest pregnancy so far. Was it difficult for you? Do you have any help with your four kids? |
znzyzyzx (znzyzyzx)
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Hi,
cowandchick, as they come along, you would just manage. I never imagined myself to be a mother of four too.
It helps that their age gap are pretty big, so the elder two need less taking care of and can even help with the baby.
Also, I have a good maid. And I send the third one to childcare. (Although she just stops recently because her previous childcare is too far for me after I change job recently, so am looking for a childcare centre for her now)
sk , actually , is not 40 , is 40 + n , hehehe. Except for the first 3 months , when I was quite tired, all my prenancy were quite alright. Ya, I have a maid to help me. |
rjj (rjj)
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wow, it's been great to find tis thread, but realised not much 'talk' for sometime.
Hi all,
I m also a mother above 35, we hv 3 BOYS! eldest is 8, 2nd is 5+ and just gave birth to the 3rd one this Jan. I agree with SK, this 3rd one is the most diff. I din hv those sickness, but could be age, just get really tired easily.
No more 4th one... hehe.... scare liao.... 3 boys... wat a supermarket at home.... |
sk (sk4)
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rjj,
Wow, our experience is quite similar though I have 3 girls instead now. dd1 is 6, dd2 is 4 and dd3 is 1mth old. How are you coping? I do not have a maid and still adapting to the new addition to the family. Haven't been having enough sleep. |
rjj (rjj)
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hi sk,
me ok la.... i m those a bit bo chap mummy, so sometimes i ignore them lo... if not very stressful... after a long gap, when the 3rd one come along, cannot adapt. Dun even know why he is crying whole day.... but nightmare over liao... now at least we know his pattern....
I work, but thank God, we have a capable maid. She take care of all 3 boys when we go to work... i sometime pity her oso....she even help me during my confinement.... well done hor! |
znzyzyzx (znzyzyzx)
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| | Posted on Monday, April 23, 2007 - 9:19 am: |
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Hi, sk
so you have given birth. Congratulations ! |
shmum (shmum)
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hi there,
i'm also approaching mid thirties. i've 2 boys but wld like to try for a girl. am also worried abt the condition of my eggs. at mid thirties, r we consider 'gao ling chan fu'?need to do those amniotic tests etc? |
rjj (rjj)
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hi shmum,
from my understanding, docs will want u to do the test the moment u hit 35, base on your birthdate.
But i oso know of many mum, who base on family history and the 'condition' of their older kids, did not went for it.
But me kia su hor..... just pay and have a peace of mind lo....final decision is still between u & your hubby.... |
cowandchick (cowandchick)
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hi shmum
I had my second after I crossed 40! Still, i enjoyed my pregnancy. Yah, had to go for amnio, but I had wanted it anyway. like rjj says, it's for the peace of mind. Also, already with one disabled kid, don't think i can handle another, so the amnio was deciding point. Still, it was rather nerve-wrecking waiting for the results, as we were desperately hoping for a second. Thank goodness it turned out ok!
All the best to you! |
miracle bebe (miracle_bebe)
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Congrats to sk
hi shmum,
we are parents to a 3.5yo and i am alredy 42 this year. It wasn't becoz we had a late marriage:p
Yes, our gynae did adv that we do an amniocentesis test.., but we decided against it becoz my dh and i knew that this blessing is from God. Even if there were complications like abnormality etc, we were both prepared to accept as this is our miracle baby.
My 2nd sister who is 46, gave birth to her 4th n youngest chd at arnd 40. The boy is perfectly normal but i don't know if my sister did do the amnio test or not.
What i am trying to say here is that no, an amnio is by choice. No doctor is this world can force you to do it. But of course, it wud be a risk you must be prepared to take and accept
just my personal honest view |
shmum (shmum)
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Hi mummies,
tks for sharing. at which stage of the pregnancy will the test be done?heard tat there might be a risk of miscarriage?
rjj, can understand the din at home, i've 2 boys n already cant tahan the noise already, they also like to fight n jump ard despite my repeated warnings tat they might hurt themselves. any sibling rivalry?
sk, is it true tat girls more obedient n more caring to their younger siblings? |
KelvinMum (kelvin_mum)
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hi shmum,
The amio test will be done in the 5th month. Though it is nerve-wrecking during & after the test, the 3 days bed-rest will minimise the risk of miscarriage. |
rjj (rjj)
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Shmum,
We too prayed real hard for a girl, but God gave us a boy instead. But He is good, the baby is a darling to all.
Yes, I resort to punishment (caning and writing) also no help... they just 'fight' like nobody business. But as they are both much older, they tend to sayang their bb brother a lot, and their love can be over-whelming at times. :D
We did the test, is bcos we want to be prepared shld we get any -ve results, not to stop the pregnancy or anything. And after the test, remember to rest well, dun carry heavy stuff, less movement. All will be fine. |
cowandchick (cowandchick)
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My amnio was done at my gynae's clinic. Very smooth and easy going. Went shopping immediately after that.
If gynae is experienced and has done a lot of amnio, it will be less traumatic and risks minimal. There's always risks involved in invasive tests, that's why I sought a very experienced gynae - less than 1% risk.
Girls vs boys
My elder is a girl, and she's quite like a boy at times too. So we call her tomboy! She's caring towards her younger brother, but they also fight.
Girls may not be as physical as boys (fighting, etc) but they're not any more obedient. They can be very stubborn and i find girls tend to be more sensitive, and emotional too. Not very good if you're an impatient mum like me! |
sk (sk4)
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Hi,
Thanks for all your well wishes!
Not easy to have this third child. Started off having more difficulty in conceiving. Then once pregnant, experienced the most morning sickness compared to previous pregnancies. Then blood test showed high risk of down syndrome and had to decide to go for amnio test or not. Eventually went and while waiting for result had an emotional struggle over what if child has Down Syndrome. Read up a lot about Down Syndrome and kind of like mentally prepared for it. Finally jubilation when it turned out fine. Then discovered foetus not putting on much weight. Maybe I'm SAHM with no help, hardly had time to look after myself. So started eating like a glutton, nutritious food of course. Effort not in vain, finally baby is 3.11kg when I only put on 9kg. What a bumpy journey for me! Now? Tired but happy!
Personally, I took the amnio test because my hubby wants to know rather than not know. I believe most parents will keep the child. I was worried of the miscarriage risk but because of wanting to be mentally prepared, we went ahead. Luckily everything is fine.
My girls are definitely not the typical-girl type. They play very rough, like boys. Maybe because my dd1 mix very much with boys in her class, she ends up influencing dd2. Now I worry what will the power puff girls do in future! |
Kan (harmonee)
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Hello,nice to know of this thread. I am gave birth to my only child when I was 35. He was premature as I have hypertension half way through pregnancy and to date still having it. My third trimester is in and out of hospital and the final stay was one month. I was basically bed-ridden during my stay so as to prevent my blood pressure from escalating. We try to hold him in my belly to as long as my blood pressure can accomodate. My son was finally delivered when he was 35 weeks. I don't think I am in a good condition to conceive again as we fear the baby would have to be even more prematurely born. Anyway, our son is now 2yrs 8mths old, and is an active boy. Am wondering, should I send him to pre-school now or later? Previously, we sent him to Tots House and he got sick like on schedule: one week in school, two weeks sick at home, repeatedly. Eventually, we took him out recently. May I know how old do you send your kid to preschool/ is it better to go for enrichment class now till he is 3 yrs old?
Any good schools to recommend near Serangoon, Bishan, Toa Payoh, Kovan, AMK area? Thanks |
shmum (shmum)
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Hi Kan,
It's rather common for kids to fall ill often when they started school since their immune system is still immature. This is esp so as yours is an only child n dun come into frequent contact w other kids. My elder boy started tots house when he's only 2 yrs 2 mths old. He was seldom sick while at home but once started school, he's like falling sick very frequently.Bet this is the only way they build up their immunity but of cos this depends on individual kids as some hv better resistance. Wat i do now is to give him vit c supplement n scotts emulsion every day .Think it does help. |
Pilgrim Mom (pilgrimmom)
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Hi all,
It's so good to read the experiences of fellow moms who are older. I had my first at 29 and my third at 35 and what a world of difference. My energy level was certainly much greater on the other side of 30. But you know what, what I've lost in youthful zest, I've gained in experience. So don't lose heart 30somethings. You still have lots to give, lots to love and lots to live!
Pilgrim Mom
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Kan (harmonee)
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Post Number: 120
Registered: 3-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 08, 2007 - 9:21 am: |
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Hi Shumum. I agree and was prepared for the frequent sickness but that school he went, his teachers ain't so serious about hygiene, like washing the hands with soap after toilet or before meal time. And they actually allow sick children to attend school. Hence, that is very disturbing. |
Priviledged (priviledged)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 08, 2007 - 12:01 pm: |
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Hello mummies here,
I'm glad to have found a thread where I am not the oldest .
I'll be 40 next year. I just had a baby boy in Mid-Feb. I also have a 'terrible-two' girl who will be 3 in June. I'm a SAHM.
I had a very smooth pregnancy with my boy, despite my age. Just that I put on quite a bit of weight which I'm finding hard to shed, even with TBF. Just the stubborn flab.
I didn't do any of the screening or amnio tests though they were offered to me. And at the 20 wk detailed scan, my boy had dilated kidneys, and that caused a bit of worry for us cos that's a 'soft marker' for Downs. But my hb & I decided not to do the amnio. The dilated kidneys resolved by wk 24 and my boy is normal and healthy. Thank God for that.
We're open to having another child, but of course, the risks get higher each year, so we're hesitating. I also had a miscarriage a year ago, before conceiving my son, so there's that too. We'll just leave it to God and nature.
This hot weather is really wearing on me, having to manage my tantrumy girl, my demanding boy and housework and cooking. Heee.
Are most of you FTWM?
Kan,
My friend's child is also sick sooo often after starting childcare. He's practically sick every month. Maybe a change of school might help, if that's possible? |
Kan (harmonee)
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Post Number: 122
Registered: 3-2007
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Hi Privileged
So brave of you to have managed the obstacles you faced to have your children. But thank God, you now have two little blessings. I am a SAHM too, sometimes it is really quite frustrating to not be able to have enough time for ourselves. Well, we are not alone... But I guess it is a process and stage we won't want to miss too
Yes, we have stopped letting him going to that school and is looking around near Serangoon Ave 2, Toa Payoh, AMK. If anyone has any recommendations, pls feel free to tell me. Thanks |
Priviledged (priviledged)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, May 08, 2007 - 3:12 pm: |
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Kan,
I'm home-schooling my girl. We have our lessons only about 2-3x per week. She's a very gregarious little girl and loves to have fun. She knows how to read her alphabets and is currently mastering reading 1-10 and getting the hang of simple blends. (I do phonics with her) Have you ever thought of homeschooling your boy?
I actually enjoyed my pregnancy, and even the delivery quite a lot. I think it's because my gynae was always very jovial and humorous. I kind of missed my regular appts with him. hahaha.
My girl was born in the US when we were staying there. That was a different experience. |
Kan (harmonee)
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Post Number: 124
Registered: 3-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 08, 2007 - 3:53 pm: |
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Hi Privilege
Yes, I do teach my son at home. We also go library regularly to read together though his attention span isn't long, but he is eager to learn. I pick educational VCDs/DVDs from library for him and in fact, he learnt a lot from them.
What he lacks is social skills which I thought will be more easily acquire from enrichment / preschools or gatherings. Unfortunately, my boy does not have any cousins, never do our friends have similar age children. Hence, we bring him a lot to playgrounds to socialise and teach him how to socialise with peers. |
Gin Berri (ginberri)
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| | Posted on Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 10:45 pm: |
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hi all,
am 36, glad to find this thread ... but realised that it has been quiet for a long time.
read your talks on amnio, just wondering whether anyone done CVS? can share your experience? Tku. |
Golden (1pumpkin)
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Registered: 6-2007
| | Posted on Friday, October 19, 2007 - 11:44 am: |
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Hi mummies
let's chat here
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/36738/711819.html?1192764267 |
BABY- ELIN (happyface1)
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| | Posted on Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 11:08 am: |
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Hello,
I am 37 and coming 38. Got 2 kids. Both premature baby. 1st girl, 7th mths premature, now 3 to 4 yrs old, very smart. My boy 9th mths birth and now 5 mths old. I had a very hard time during conceieved the two of them. My worst expierence is the 1st one. Mumies Going thru so many stress, obstacles and near miss before born. Staying Yishun. Any mummies staying here? |
Regina (yogibabe)
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| | Posted on Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 9:29 am: |
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have not been in here for a long time. wonder how's everyone doing? |
jachang (jachang)
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Hi SK,
I will be turning 35 soon. I ve 6yo twins son & 4+yo daughter.Ever thought of having 4th child few years ago but ve since dropped the idea.Looking aft kids is not an easy task.If you like children the more the merrier.
One of my friend's mum gave birth to quadruplets when she was in her forties and her daughter was then 12yo.Don't give yourself too much stress.Maybe if you relax a bit it is easier to conceive.
Hope to hear good news from you. |
sk (sk4)
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Post Number: 125
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| | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2010 - 10:45 am: |
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Hi Jachang and everyone out there still receiving this message, how are all of you?
Jachang, Thank you for your concern. Actually I succeeded conceiving and had my third child in 2007. Now my dd3 is already 3yo. Had thought of having another one then, but decided not to cos I am not spending enough time for each of my children. Even till now, I still feel that way. Sometimes they need my attention at the same time, even want to hold my hands at the same time when we go out, but I have only two hands!
Wow, you have twins, not easy huh? Especially during those breastfeeding months. How did you do it? |
jachang (jachang)
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| | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2010 - 12:54 pm: |
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Hi SK,
Glad to hear that n I didnt realise it was posted so long ago.I couldn't breastfeed the 2 of them after birth.I was admitted on sat morning n delivered on Sun morning.Didnt really eat n was exhausted aft birth (Natural).
Last x my kids also wanted to hold my hands instead of my maid's.My friend taught me one method that is let the 3rd one hold on my pocket or belt loop.At least when my child let go of his/her hand I can feel it.Maybe u can try but of cos not on the road. |
sk (sk4)
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Post Number: 126
Registered: 5-2006
| | Posted on Monday, March 29, 2010 - 9:02 pm: |
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Jachang,
Yes, the slowest one will always end up either holding her sister's hand or my pocket, belt, skirt, etc.
Since your eldest are 6yo, have you made up your mind on which pri school to send them? |
jachang (jachang)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, March 30, 2010 - 1:05 pm: |
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Hi SK,
Thou of enrolling them to Canberra cos it is just a few blks away.It is easier for my maid to send them to sch. |
Ashley Yong (yongashley75)
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| | Posted on Tuesday, August 23, 2011 - 4:47 pm: |
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stress of life is breaking us I feel |
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